Why Not Me?

Why Not Me?

A single girl's insight on being single.

I am single. I have been my whole life. Of course, I’ve gone on dates here and there, and I’ve fallen head over heels for many people, but never a real relationship.

Is this hard, you ask? Being a single female in a society that is constantly asking, “Do you have a boyfriend?”

No seriously, I get remarks similar to this all the time, and I’m sure most single females reading this can relate. It’s the first thing my dentist thinks to say whenever I go in for a check-up and the lingering question from relatives I haven’t seen in a while.

I’ve been close to a relationship many times. I’ve gotten my hopes up as high as they could go, thinking that soon I’d finally have a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on.

But none of these have ever lasted very long. People leave me. I leave people. And since I’ve been involved in the theater since I was a little girl, “showmances” are a common trend in my life as well.

I’ve had my heart broken a number of times. I fall too quickly for people and love them too hard. But that’s not to say I haven’t done my own share of heart breaking.

It just seems that whenever I end up finding someone, things always go wrong. One of us doesn’t feel the way the other does. We are never on the same page at the same time. You could say that relationships aren’t my forte. But honestly, being single hasn’t ever bothered me too much.

Growing up, I had big dreams, but none of them included walking down an aisle to meet the love of my life or a beautiful wedding ring. I dreamed of singing on a Broadway stage or recording my newest album out in LA.

Although my dreams have become a little more realistic, I still think of them way more often than I think of having a significant other.

I want to move to the city. I want to travel and see Paris, Hawaii, Alaska, and Rome. I want to perform. I want to help a lot of people and adopt a lot of dogs.

But lately, despite all of this, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about relationships and why I’m not in one. I am a nice person. I am funny sometimes. I am decent looking, I guess. I am a smart and independent person and am working hard to make something of myself.

I look around at the people surrounding me and think,

“Why them?”

“Why not me?”

I often wonder if there is something wrong with me. I wonder why people have totally cut me off when I felt like things were going so well, or why I couldn’t have just stuck it out a little longer with some people to see where things went.

I have days where I am content by myself, but I also have days where I scroll through Instagram, see happy couples and burst into tears because I want what they have.

On those bad days, there a couple of things I tell myself.

One of them is, “Katie, you’re being ridiculous, please pull yourself together.”

The other one is more significant, and it goes a little something like this.

“Katie, you are fine. You might be lonely right now, but you are never alone. It is not your fault that people have left you, or that you just didn’t have feelings for that person. Don’t let this get in the way of your dreams.”

And I never do. I keep pushing on because I want to make my dreams come true more than I want any person. I want to do something to make my ten-year-old self proud. And that means way more to me than being in a relationship.

The way I see it is, the right person will show up one day. And I hope I'm ready when they arrive.

Cover Image Credit: Breathe South Bay Church

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Why High School Musicals Should Be As Respected As Sports Programs Are

The arts are important, too.

When I was in middle school and high school, I felt like I lived for the musicals that my school orchestrated.

For those of you who don't know, a musical is an onstage performance wherein actors take on roles that involve singing, and often dancing, to progress the plot of the story. While it may sound a little bit nerdy to get up in front of an audience to perform in this manner, this is something you cannot knock until you try it.

For some reason, though, many public schools have de-funded arts programs that would allow these musicals to occur, while increasing the funding for sports teams. There are a few things that are being forgotten when sports are valued more than musical programs in high schools.

Much like athletic hobbies, an actor must try-out, or audition, to participate in a musical. Those best suited for each role will be cast, and those who would not fit well are not given a part. While this may sound similar to trying out for say, basketball, it is an apples to oranges comparison.

At a basketball try-out, those who have the most experience doing a lay-up or shooting a foul shot will be more likely to succeed, no questions asked. However, for an audition, it is common to have to learn a piece of choreography upon walking in, and a potential cast member will be required to sing a selected piece with only a few days of preparation.

There are many more variables involved with an audition that makes it that much more nerve-racking.

The cast of a school musical will often rehearse for several months to perfect their roles, with only several nights of performance at the end. Many sports practice for three or four days between each of their respective competitions. While this may seem to make sports more grueling, this is not always the case.

Musicals have very little pay-off for a large amount of effort, while athletic activities have more frequent displays of their efforts.

Athletes are not encouraged to but are allowed to make mistakes. This is simply not allowed for someone in a musical, because certain lines or entrances may be integral to the plot.

Sometimes, because of all the quick changes and the sweat from big dance numbers, the stage makeup just starts to smear. Despite this, an actor must smile through it all. This is the part of musicals that no sport has: introspection.

An actor must think about how he or she would respond in a given situation, be it saddening, maddening, frightening, or delightful. There is no sport that requires the knowledge of human emotion, and there is especially no sport that requires an athlete to mimic such emotion. This type of emotional exercise helps with communications and relationships.

Sports are great, don't get me wrong. I loved playing volleyball, basketball, track, and swimming, but there were no experiences quite like those from a musical. Sports challenge the body with slight amounts of tactic, while musicals require much physical and mental endurance.

The next time you hear someone say that it's “just a musical," just remember that musicals deserve as much respect as sports, since they are just as, if not more demanding.

Cover Image Credit: Cincinnati Arts

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10 Shows To Watch If You're Sick Of 'The Office'

You can only watch it so many times...


"The Office" is a great show, and is super easy to binge watch over and over again! But if you're like me and you're looking for something new to binge, why not give some of these a try? These comedies (or unintentional comedies) are a great way to branch out and watch something new.

1. "New Girl"

A show about a group of friends living in an apartment in a big city? Sound familiar? But seriously, this show is original and fresh, and Nick Miller is an icon.

2. "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend"

Ya'll have been sleeping on this show. It's a musical comedy about a girl that follows her ex boyfriend across the country. I thought it sounded horrible so I put it off for WAY too long, but then I realized how incredible the cast, music, writing, and just EVERYTHING. It really brings important issues to light, and I can't say too much without spoiling it. Rachel Bloom (the creator of the show) is a woman ahead of her time.

3. "Jane the Virgin"

I know... another CW show. But both are so incredible! Jane The Virgin is a tongue-in-cheek comedy and parody of telenovelas. It has so many twists and turns, but somehow you find yourself laughing with the family.

4. "Brooklyn Nine-Nine"


Brooklyn Nine-Nine has been in popular news lately since its cancellation by Fox and sequential pickup by NBC. It's an amazing show about cops in, you guessed it, Brooklyn. Created by the amazing Michael Schur, it's a safe bet that if you loved "The Office" you'll also love his series "Brooklyn Nine-Nine".

5. "The Good Place"

Another series created by the talented Micael Schur, it's safe to say you've probably already heard about this fantasy-comedy series. With a wonderful cast and writing that will keep you on your toes, the show is another safe bet.

6. "Fresh Off The Boat"

Seriously, I don't know why more people don't watch this show. "Fresh Off The Boat" focuses on an Asian family living in Orlando in the mid 90s. Randall Parks plays a character who is the polar opposite of his character in "The Interview" (Yeah, remember that horrifying movie?) and Constance Wu is wonderful as always.

7. "Full House"

Why not go back to the basics? If you're looking for a nostalgic comedy, go back all the way to the early days of Full House. If you're a '98-'00 baby like me, you probably grew up watching the Tanner family on Nick at Night. The entire series is available on Hulu, so if all else fails just watch Uncle Jesse and Rebecca fall in love again or Michelle fall off a horse and somehow lose her memory.

8. "Secret Life of the American Teenager"

Okay, this show is not a comedy, but I have never laughed so hard in my life. It's off Netflix but it's still on Hulu, so you can watch this masterpiece there. Watch the terrible acting and nonsense plot twists drive this show into the ground. Somehow everyone in this school dates each other? And also has a baby? You just have to watch. It might be my favorite show of all time.

9. "Scrubs"

Another old show that is worth watching. If you ignore the last season, Scrubs is a worthwhile medical comedy about doctors in both their personal and medical life. JD and Turk's relationship is one to be jealous of, and one hilarious to watch. Emotional at times, this medical drama is superior to any medical drama that's out now.

10. "Superstore"

I was resistant to watch this one at first, because it looked cheesy. But once I started watching I loved it! The show is a workplace comedy, one you're sure to love if you can relate to working in retail. If you liked the Office, you'll like Superstore!

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