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I'm Single And Still Alive

I am not defined by my relationship status.

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I'm Single And Still Alive
Haven Clippinger

You know the expression, "You are what you eat?" If this is true, then are we the kinds of people we date? If who we date reflects the kind of people we are, then I am not ready because I do not even know who I am yet! I am still finding myself, and that is OK.

During the holidays, my family always asks if I have a boyfriend. When I say no, they are always in shock. The response is typically, "But you are so beautiful," "Any guy would be lucky to have you," or "It's his loss!". I am not sure who is more shocked that I have never dated, my family or myself. I am also told that I am "too picky" or that "my standards are too high." Is there really a thing called standards that are too high? Definitely not!

The truth is, I want to date. I want to find my husband so bad that I can hardly stand it. Nobody wants this to happen more than I do. No matter how much I want a husband, I just cannot have one just yet. I am just not ready for him. The Lord is preparing me to meet him, but that day is not today. I am constantly pressured to start dating and to "put myself out there" by many people.

Here's the thing: I am not defined by my relationship status, and neither is anyone else. Being single is not a disease, but rather a blessing. A girl's worth should not be determined by what her boyfriend says, or by if she even has a boyfriend. God created ladies as beautiful, and He created us in His perfect image. A boy does not give us worth. God does, and He says that we are worthy.

"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well."
Psalms 139:13-14

I am so much more than the future wife. God has that husband planned for me, but He has also so many other things in store for me. I personally think that a big reason why I am not dating right now is because His purpose for my life has been planted, and it must grow alone and prosper before this husband walks into my life. I need to focus more on fulfilling His purpose for me than finding a man to eventually marry.

I do look forward to the day that God decides that I can meet my future husband. I am already excited for this day! Even though I have been impatient about it in the past, I am going to enjoy the wait. I am going to enjoy the process of getting prepared for my future husband. I am not ready for him yet, but when I become ready, it will be the greatest day of my life. In the meantime, I know that being single is not a disease.

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