Why is it that we find similar qualities in our significant others that remind us of family members or ones close to our heart? Over the past few months, I have found shocking resemblance in both my boyfriend, dad, and brother. Yes, there are similar interests and similar hobbies, but it goes a lot deeper than that, I'm talking about qualities and traits.
My dad is the most hardworking man I have ever met. He strives for excellence and won't let anyone or anything get in his way. Growing up with my dad, my brother and I were taught to do things ourselves. If we didn't like a certain thing, change it. If we wanted to do better, practice. Like my mom, my dad always told us how it was. Nothing was going to be handed to us. People have to work for what they earn and be the change that they want to make. Aside from that, he somehow managed to know everything. Now, this may come off as an exaggeration, but I have never seen a more curious human being. For fun, he'll watch the Discovery or History channel, as history was one of this favorite subjects in school. He strives off of knowledge and tries to learn something new every day.
Loyal, hardworking, and dependable. These three qualities not only describe my dad, but also my boyfriend. Now it wasn't until a couple of months in that I started to see the resemblance between both of them, but it was freaky to see how similar they were to each other. It's crazy to think about, but looking at other couples as well, I've started to notice a trend between family members and their significant others. Now when I say they're similar, I am talking about their qualities and personality traits. When I first met my boyfriend, we felt very comfortable together, as if we had known each other for years. What helped was that we were both raised the same way, both of our parents having the same morals and teaching styles.
My boyfriend loves to learn. Yes, he enjoys school, but he loves learning because of how interesting and complex certain things are. He'll watch informative documentaries and math videos online. And those are the things that I love about him. He's constantly trying to be the best version of himself and always thinks there is more to learn and do. Sound familiar? An amazing trait to have, I was fortunate to have both a boyfriend and father who possess these traits. Who can say that they don't want someone in their life that is determined and motivated to learn more and do more?
Why is it that our significant others seem to possess traits that our loved ones have? I think that it brings comfort as well as safety. I feel so protected with my boyfriend and know that if I'm with him, he won't let anyone or anything harm me. Similar to this, my dad is very protective and looks out for me. Having similar traits, it is so comforting because it is familiar. Especially if you had a good relationship with your family, you want to find someone that you can always count on and in a sense, be your home away from home. We want someone that shares similar traits to the ones that are close to our hearts, because, well, our significant others are close to our heart as well. We want to share a life with someone that has the same morals, beliefs, and lifestyle as we do.