Being A Christian In The 21st Century

I Am Learning To Be The Best Version Of A Christian Woman I Can Be

I am on this journey to grow closer to the Lord.


I am not a perfect Christian. I sin a lot more often than I should. I stare daggers at people and I am envious. I am not modest. I rarely hold my tongue, as I think confrontation is my way of facing my Goliath (When in reality it is not that serious). I can make a whole list of how I am not what a Christian woman should be. There are women who uphold the standard better than I ever could. However, I am a Christian woman. I am saved and loved by a Lord who forgives me for what I do that is against his word. A Lord who allows for sin and mistake to be made in hopes for revision of action for the future.

I had not always been as close to God as I wanted to be. I believed that he was there, but I didn't know if he heard my prayers when I prayed. I didn't want to accept the fact that there were people looking for salvation and answers longer than I had been and I thought my questions of "Why me" should be answered right away. I had the fear of God in me but not the love for him I should. I would keep praying for the wrong reasons and if I got an answer to what I was looking for I never thanked him for it. Praying in vain rather than praying for the right reasons.

My reaffirmation of being upholding being a Christian woman happened when my now Fiance came into my life. I began college heartbroken over someone who did not care about me. I prayed to God to heal my broken heart. This man I kept ignoring would not give up on pursuing me. One day I heard a voice tell me to message him back. I met him and I fell in love. Allowing me to forget the pain I felt and God showing me someone who is deserving of pursuing my heart and me deserving enough to pursue his. He is a man that would take his hat off at the table when we go out to restaurants. Someone who says he'll pray for me when I am down and out. A man who watches Christian movies with me that I can turn around and say to him "why aren't you crying?" when I am in tears because the Lord is helping the Characters in the movie. Not to quote the Jason Aldean song but when I see him I think "I swear God made you for me."

Looking back, that was almost three years ago. The Lord has thrown trials and difficulties that caused me to question if He's really on my side. I will fall to my knees and ask why when something is thrown my way that I can't seem to understand. However, that is not the approach I should take. Trying to be the best version of a Christian woman I can be is teaching me patience that I will not be at my best right away but I have to learn and take it day by day.

At the end of the day, I am on this journey to grow closer to the Lord, and I want to be better. I want to be more forgiving, I want to let grudges go. If the Lord can forgive me for all I do why can't I grant someone else at least some forgiveness. I want to be hardworking and remember to give thanks for all the opportunities I have. As a Christian woman who prays to a God who I know hears my prayers and answers them in due time, I want to become a Proverbs 31 woman who praises and gives thanks to the Lord even when He doesn't do anything for me.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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If You Want Proof That God Exists, Just Look Around You At The World He Created

None of it is an accident.


It has always baffled me that people can truly believe the world was created by accident. It's like saying that Leonardo Di Vinci closed his eyes, tipped over a few cans of paint, and miraculously created the Mona Lisa. Nothing that beautiful is an accident. I believe that the truest and rawest testimony to Christianity is the universe itself. A proclamation of its creator.

When I need to be reminded how great our God is, I simply just look around me.

Romans 1:20 says, "For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualities — his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse for not knowing God."

The Bible is telling us here that everything has a purpose. The world is not this beautiful by accident. Every purple sunset was intricately designed. Each rise and fall of the tide was crafted by the creator.

Look around you.

The Northern lights are not simply a coincidence. It is no accident that people's hands are gifted with such divine talents to create wonders like the Eiffel Tower or the Taj Mahal. There is a reason that your favorite song has such transcendent and heavenly beauty, as it escaped from the lungs that God created and gifted with talent. It is all of him; it is all from and for him.

He doesn't make mistakes.

There is a reason that we yearn for these beautiful things. That we long to glimpse sunsets and travel the world and hear beautiful music and see beautiful people. It is because we are heavenly creations, and seeing these marks of God's wonder bring us closer to him and remind of our true and divine pace in his kingdom. These beautiful things are little marks of God's divinity, and they remind us where we belong.

They are the reason our hearts constantly ache for something more.

And you are a mark of his beauty as well. The fact that of the billions of trillions of atoms that make up the matter that make up the universe were brought together in an intricate and perfect enough way to create a unique human being who could never be copied are replicated. You are a miracle. And your very body and soul are living proof that God exists. Nothing is an accident. Nothing.

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