7 Thing I've Learned While Planning A Wedding

7 Thing I've Learned While Planning A Wedding

Getting married is the happiest time of your life, not the most stressful.

Planning a wedding is hard work. There are so many details that you never would have thought of and being the bride, you have the final say. I was crazy enough and had to plan a wedding during a semester of college, across the country from where we are actually getting married. Thank goodness for my amazing mom who has done so much. Throughout the process, I’ve learned some things. I’ve narrowed it down to seven pieces of advice for all of those future brides out there.

1. Take a deep breath

Being overwhelmed comes with the territory of being a bride, but the most important thing I’ve learned is to take a deep breath. Everything is going to work out and there is no reason to stress over every detail. Put down whatever you’re working on and relax for a minute. If you’re really stressed out, put the wedding plans away and go do something else. Marriage is supposed to be exciting, not a chore.

2. Have a planner

I would have lost my mind without my planner. I had a to do list each week with a couple wedding tasks to get done in that week. Looking at plans week-by-week, instead of the whole process, really helped me keep my sanity.

3. Let people help you

I’ve learned over the past couple of months that I’m very independent and like to think that I can do everything myself. Unfortunately, that’s not true. There are so many people who are willing to help you, so delegate the work! There’s no need to stress over everything when there are so many people who want to help.

4. Write it down

If you don’t write it down, you will forget. I’m always thinking about different wedding ideas and details that if I don’t write down a great idea, I will forget about it. This goes back to the idea of having a planner. If you write it down, it will get done. If you don’t, the task will get lost in the black hole that is my mind.

5. Don’t take the stress out on other people (especially your fiancé)

Wedding planning can get stressful, especially if things aren’t going the way you would like them to. The most important thing is to not take your stress out on people. They haven’t done anything wrong. With this, don’t take your stress on your fiancé either. They love you so much and they don’t deserve that. Take a deep breath and relax before hanging out with other people when feeling stressed.

6. No one is perfect

In my mind, there will be a perfect wedding, with a perfect cake and a perfect dress. Obviously, there is no such thing as perfect; especially when working with other people, who aren’t perfect either. Things will fall apart and something could go wrong with wedding planning. It’s important to remember that no one is perfect, and that’s okay!

7. You will live happily ever after

At the end of the day, the wedding will be amazing. I will get to marry the love of my life and we will spend forever together! How incredible is that?! It doesn’t matter if the little details aren’t exactly how you imagine. The love between you and your spouse will be so strong that the day will be amazing no matter what.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 A.M. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest,

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old doom room is now filled with two freshman trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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If the end is inevitable

Then the beginning is what?

If dying is unavoidable

Then when does living really start?

Take a chance

Not a dip

Use both hands

Don’t be afraid to trip

Don’t worry about them

Take an adventure for you

You’re going to wait, til you lose a bet?

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