10 Ways To Practice Self Love Without Being Selfish

10 Ways To Practice Self Love Without Being Selfish

You can't take care of anything without taking care of yourself first.



1. Wash your face.

Sounds easy enough right? So many men and women forget to do this. Not only can it save you from looking more mature before it's due time, but it's relaxing and rejuvenating.

2. Mask on mask on mask

In line with point number one, you should make time for face masks and even hair masks (which happen to be my favorite). Hit reset on your face and show it a little TLC, while being able to take some incredibly funny Snapchats. BONUS, if you are dry skinned in one area, and more oily in another, try multi masking. You can thank me later.

3. Light a candle.

Find a scent you love and stay lit. I probably get this from my mother, this woman would have at least 100 candles in our house and they would all be lit. Her house always smells like a between vanilla, apples, and sometimes eucalyptus. Now don't go crazy, but having your favorite candle near you just makes everything smell happy.

4. Create a playlist

I am a firm believer that music makes everything better. If I'm in a bad mood all it takes is playing my favorite song and I instantly feel better. Get a playlist together of happy, upbeat songs and listen to them when you need a pick me up. Extra credit, play it on a nice day with the windows down.

5. Journal, doodle, whatever it takes

Sometimes, you're just filled to the brim with emotions, and all you can do is get them out before you explode. Write it down, let go, let yourself move past whatever it is that is holding you down.

6. Just dance.

Random dance session? Don't mind if we do! Have too much energy? Dance. Need to smile? Dance. Need to exercise? Dance.

7. Take long, hot showers

I'm a huge fan of baths loaded with Epsom salts, bath bombs and bubbles but sometimes you don't have that capability. So take a long hot shower. Gather your thoughts, close your eyes, and let the water carry it all away. Just don't forgot to use cool water when washing out your condition. (It helps close pores and prevents oils from your scalp from messing up your clean hair).

8. I, I, I work out

Obviously sweating is good for the body, but it does WONDERS for your mind. Running is one of my favorite ways to kill frustration, and I hate running. When I feel like I need some me time, yoga is a great solution. When I feel weak, power-lifting helps me remember how strong I really am.

9. Make something

Be creative! Cook your favorite food, or bake your favorite dessert and eat it without feeling guilty. #treatyoself

10. When in doubt, play with puppies.

I mean really, is there anything puppies can't fix? I'll wait.

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PSA: Keep Your Body-Negative Opinions Away From Little Girls This Summer

But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with.


It's officially swimsuit season, y'all.

The temperature is rising, the sun is bright and shining, and a trip to the beach couldn't look more appealing than it does right now. This is the time of year that many of us have been rather impatiently waiting for. It's also the time of year that a lot of us feel our most self-conscious.

I could take the time to remind you that every body is a bikini body. I could type out how everyone is stunning in their own unique way and that no one should feel the need to conform to a certain standard of beauty to feel beautiful, male or female. I could sit here and tell you that the measurement of your waistline is not a reflection of your worth. I completely believe every single one of these things.

Hell, I've shared these exact thoughts more times than I can count. This time around, however, I'm not going to say all these things. Instead, I'm begging you to push your insecurities to the side and fake some confidence in yourself when you're in front of others.


Because our negative self-image is toxic and contagious and we're spreading this negative thinking on to others.

We're all guilty of this, we're with family or a friend and we make a nasty comment about some aspect of our appearance, not even giving a single thought to the impact our words have on the person with us. You might think that it shouldn't bother them- after all, we're not saying anything bad about them! We're just expressing our feelings about something we dislike about ourselves. While I agree that having conversations about our insecurities and feelings are important for our mental and emotional health, there is a proper and improper way of doing it. An open conversation can leave room for growth, acceptance, understanding, and healing. Making a rude or disheartening remark about yourself is destructive not only to yourself, but it will make the person you are saying these things around question their own self worth or body image by comparing themselves to you.

My little sister thinks she's "fat." She doesn't like how she looks. To use her own words, she thinks she's "too chubby" and that she "looks bad in everything."

She's 12 years old.

Do you want to know why she has this mindset? As her older sister, I failed in leading her by example. There were plenty of times when I was slightly younger, less sure of myself, and far more self-conscious than I am now, that I would look in the mirror and say that I looked too chubby, that my body didn't look good enough, that I wished I could change the size of my legs or stomach.

My little sister had to see the older sibling she looks up to, the big sis she thinks always looks beautiful, say awful and untrue things about herself because her own sense of body image was warped by media, puberty, and comparing herself to others.

My negativity rubbed off onto her and shaped how she looks at herself. I can just imagine her watching me fret over how I look thinking, "If she thinks she's too big, what does that make me?"

It makes me feel sick.

All of us are dealing with our own insecurities. It takes some of us longer than others to view ourselves in a positive, loving light. We're all working on ourselves every day, whether it be mentally, physically, or emotionally. But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with, our struggles and insecurities should not form into their own burdens.

Work on yourself in private. Speak kindly of yourself in front of others. Let your positivity, real or not, spread to others instead of the bad feelings we have a bad habit of letting loose.

The little girls of the world don't need your or my negative self-image this summer. Another kid doesn't need to feel worthless because we couldn't be a little more loving to ourselves and a lot more conscious of what we say out loud.

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