A lot of people say that a good trait they have is putting others before themselves. This is a great trait to have, but does that mean putting yourself first makes you selfish?

There have been many instances over my nineteen years of life that I have had to put myself first. If you have an illness or something you constantly have to fight in life, then you know the feeling.

Whether it's from fighting migraines, the stress from school or family/relationship problems or it just seems like everything is falling apart. That's when I know it's time to take a step back from everything and focus on what's best for me, even if that means making some changes in my life. I have been told multiple times that this is selfish of me and I shouldn't have to put myself first in order to get everything together.

I say it's necessary.

You know yourself better than anyone else does and if that means you have to take time for yourself in order to get your life back together then so be it. Only you know what it feels like to slowly slip down an old path that you don't want to go back down. You know what it feels like to be lost and unhappy. You know what this feels like because it's your problems, you've experienced them and guess what, you've also worked through them before, therefore you know how to get yourself back on your feet again.

Nobody else is going to do it for you.

When times get rough, it is important to lean on others and to ask for help if needed, but if you don't have yourself then you don't have anyone. Yourself is the most important person on this planet. If you don't care for yourself, love yourself, and believe in yourself, then no one else will either.

It is totally okay to take a break for your own sanity because life doesn't stop and sometimes you have to take a breathe and remind yourself that you're important, that you're loved, and that you're going to make it through whatever is slowing you down.

I can't stress enough how important self-love is. It is extremely necessary to put yourself first so you can love yourself and take care of yourself.

If you put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day, then the rest will fall into place.