being selfish | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Student Life

Putting Yourself First Isn't Selfish, It's Necessary In Order To Live A Healthy Life

Your biggest commitment must always be to yourself.

188
Colleen Finney
Colleen Finney

A lot of people say that a good trait they have is putting others before themselves. This is a great trait to have, but does that mean putting yourself first makes you selfish?

There have been many instances over my nineteen years of life that I have had to put myself first. If you have an illness or something you constantly have to fight in life, then you know the feeling.

Whether it's from fighting migraines, the stress from school or family/relationship problems or it just seems like everything is falling apart. That's when I know it's time to take a step back from everything and focus on what's best for me, even if that means making some changes in my life. I have been told multiple times that this is selfish of me and I shouldn't have to put myself first in order to get everything together.

I say it's necessary.

You know yourself better than anyone else does and if that means you have to take time for yourself in order to get your life back together then so be it. Only you know what it feels like to slowly slip down an old path that you don't want to go back down. You know what it feels like to be lost and unhappy. You know what this feels like because it's your problems, you've experienced them and guess what, you've also worked through them before, therefore you know how to get yourself back on your feet again.

Nobody else is going to do it for you.

When times get rough, it is important to lean on others and to ask for help if needed, but if you don't have yourself then you don't have anyone. Yourself is the most important person on this planet. If you don't care for yourself, love yourself, and believe in yourself, then no one else will either.

It is totally okay to take a break for your own sanity because life doesn't stop and sometimes you have to take a breathe and remind yourself that you're important, that you're loved, and that you're going to make it through whatever is slowing you down.

I can't stress enough how important self-love is. It is extremely necessary to put yourself first so you can love yourself and take care of yourself.

If you put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day, then the rest will fall into place.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Vivien Leigh
Revelist

I've lived a whole 21 years with an RBF (Resting Bitch Face), so naturally, I go through most of these struggles on a daily basis.

And before you ask, yes I'm fine. No, I'm not mad. This is just my face, so take it or leave it! To those of you who have been #blessed with an RBF, you'll probably relate to these more than you'd like to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

Iconic Duos: Timeless Legends

From Luke and Leia to Beyonce's twins...

774528
Luke and Leia from Star Wars, a iconic duo
Lucasfilm

“Name a more iconic duo... I'll wait." OK, well, if you insist. In no particular order, here's a list of 100 iconic duos that seem to be timeless.

SEE MORE: This Is The ICONIC Disney Sidekick You Are To Your BFF, According To Your Zodiac Sign

Keep Reading...Show less
Relationships

A Candid Letter to My Best Friends Ex

Because this is the real form of torture you deserve.

371
middle finger
Photo by engin akyurt on Unsplash

What's up Asshat,

I've composed a list of things that I wish upon you, and they're harsh and cruel. These things are things that I wouldn't wish upon my worst of enemies, not even that Starbuck's barista who always screws up my order, not even him. You fall into a whole other category of hate. You surpass Starbucks barista. Congratulations, I'm actually a pretty nice person, making you worthy of every single bit of torture I wish upon you. What are these things I wish upon you you might ask?

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

College Life: As Told By Bob's Burgers

If there's anyone who understand the struggles of college, it's the Belcher family

1041
Bob's Burgers

College is a time of gaining independence, exploring new things, and copious amounts of Netflix. If you're like me, you often find yourself laughing at the sheer ridiculousness of the situations you find yourself in. Here are ten times Bob's Burgers accurately captured college life.

1. What you're pretty sure your upstairs neighbors do at 3am every morning.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Why Theater Kids Are the Greatest People Ever

Supportive and spontaneous human beings are the best.

789
Theater Kids

Throughout school, the theater department has always been my go-to place with go-to people when I need advice, a dance party, or just someone to listen to me vent.

You never know what's going to happen when you're dealing with theatre or what kind of characters you'll encounter. We have too much fun doing anything! One time in my senior year acting class, we spent an entire class period watching Bob's Burgers, and it was the greatest class period ever.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments