I have learned from personal experience and watching others experience it too that looks can truly become consuming, especially when you feel worthless in every other way. If you’re a sensitive person like I am, it’s easy to take even the smallest comments to heart.
I can remember every little hurtful word that has ever come my way and dwelled on it and based my worth on it. I didn’t resent anyone for saying anything hurtful to me I simply believed their words and consumed myself in it.
Our minds can take us to dark places and it’s a mental battle to pull ourselves out of it.
I know it’s even more difficult for our generation with social media at our fingertips from middle school until the rest of our lives. Social media gets a bad rep and it’s understandable why since there are numerous photoshopped pics and false information flooding newsfeeds on every app. The best way to let social media be a photo album of memories to look back on and see how you change and grow through the years instead of it being an insecurity/depression trigger make sure you limit your time on it immensely.
After reading only a few pages of a book my friend let me borrow it opened my eyes to the lifestyle so many of us are blindly living. It’s a competition on who can wing their eyeliner the best or who has the smallest waist and we are surrounded by these ridiculous goals which should hold zero importance in our lives.
Whether you wear makeup every day or hardly wear it at all, just make sure you’re not losing yourself in the process.
Your worth goes so much deeper than the reflection in the mirror. Change the things that hold value and importance, if you feel uneducated about history or any other subject take a class, read a book, and increase your knowledge. If you have a constant bad attitude work on it. I find beauty in people’s kindness and personality. If the prettiest person in the world had the meanest darkest personality what kind of role model would they be in your life?
Strive to be someone who motivates others and someone little girls can look up to.
As a kid, I always remember the adults who played like a kid themselves and treated me with all the compassion in the world rather than those whose malicious ways made them ugly in my eyes. It was never the appearance I based my opinions on, it was always the actions, wisdom, and words they shared.
I base this article towards girls simply because I can speak to other girls easier due to experiencing similar struggles and understanding the battles we face on a day-to-day basis. I do not fully understand or know the trials guys go through and I never want to waste someone’s time reading something unhelpful.
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I hope you stay motivated to chase after all your goals of importance and leave the invalid opinions of yourself in the past. Your worth is deeper than your appearance, but that’s something you have to find out for yourself.