Go back in time to when you were twelve-years-old. Almost every day you were either playing baseball in the street or trying to help your mom cook dinner. The most you had to worry about was remembering to pack your lunch for school the next day. Life was great back when we did not have thousands of things to worry about and millions of people to impress on the daily, but that's life. One day you wake up, and everything and everyone has changed. No one can actually pin an exact date on when this happens, but I wish life had prepared us all for it.
Luckily, I am here to tell you all some secrets I have learned from being in college. Your family, yourself, and your attitude are the three main keys to going in and out of college a stronger and overall, happier person.
I kid you not, you learn more about yourself through these four years than you will your entire life.
Just because you might be having a bad day, week, month etc. does not mean that the universe is trying to tell you to give up. No, the universe is preparing you for something much greater than what you may be expecting, and that is what makes life worth living!
1. Your family
Most of us have played at least one sport in our lives, and some may have played even more. At every game, no matter where or what time it was at, our families were always there. Families do not just teach one another how to walk and talk, and then run away. No, these are the people who will love you unconditionally, no matter what the circumstance. These are the people you WILL need when in college.
College gives us the freedom we have been waiting for our entire lives, but it also gives us time to think about things. There will be many days that are very lonely, and you are going to wish that you were back in your loud and crazy household. These are the moments that make us feel weak but will mentally grow us stronger.
All of us will eventually miss those stupid fights, the embarrassing moments, and the long, deep talks we got from our mom. She honestly becomes your best friend, or a better word for it, your long distance pen pal, in college. Use it to your own advantage and thank your family, call your mom, and tell them you love them as often as possible.
I know most of us has probably seen the movie, "Narnia." Think back to the scene when the little girl is walking through all the clothes in the closest, and she crosses over into Narnia for the very first time. The expression on her face tells us how surprised and confused she was. Well, this is exactly what being in college for the first time is like.
A lot of times, people think that college is all about the parties and drinking whenever you want, but that cannot be farther from the actual truth. College is a very unique time in our lives when we finally realize what our purpose is.
Sometimes you will find yourself drifting off the path, and this is when we get a reality check. I got this after my first semester, and decided to get involved with more things around campus, make it a priority to go to church every Sunday, and put school first. By the end of my second semester, I was getting better grades, meeting the right people, and overall happier.
3. Your attitude
Have you ever gone to a festival or a concert really upset? Obviously, if you have done this, I can probably guess that you did not have the greatest time. You cannot have the time of your life if your attitude is always negative. You can try and try telling yourself you will be fine eventually, but until you change your perspective on things and yourself, you will start to become a broken record, every day is the same dull outcome.
The best way to meet new people is to put yourself out there and try something new every day. However, when doing this, you must go about it in a positive way. No one wants to be friends, or go up and talk to someone who looks like they have something better to do with their time. Having a positive attitude helps people to see the real you, and good things start to head your direction.
This goes in saying, we all are going to have our bad days, weeks, and even sometimes years, but that does not mean that this is our time to give up on everything we have worked so hard for up until now. You have to remember that you got that acceptance letter into college, and you graduated the four years of high school. Remembering that your family, yourself, and your attitude are the three key secrets in furthering your success in life. You have made it this far, why stop now?
My dad used to always say to me, "Everything in life happens for a reason. We may not know what that reason is right now, but everyone has a specific purpose in life, and we are all on our journey to find it." This world was not made for everyone to just get everything handed to them. We were taught that we must work hard for what we want in life.