We all make mistakes and sometimes we truly deserve a second chance. But there’s a fine line between forgiving someone and being naïve. After being screwed over sometimes the best option (for all parties involved) is to move on. That sentiment is especially true when it comes to relationships, in my opinion. What makes us think that if something didn’t work out the first or second time (or so on), that it will now? If it's already been proven that you weren't meant to be once before, why go back there again?
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I'm not saying people can't change, improve or work on themselves. Sometimes ending a relationship forces the individual(s) to do some serious thinking and maturing. But, is that enough? Can you forget how it once was? As easy as it is to fall back under the spell of someone you once had feelings for, it’s best to know that you ended for reason and to find someone with all the qualities you’re looking for.
I don’t mean to be cynical, but being a pushover is really only beneficial for the person doing the pushing. If you take someone back time and time again, they start to take you for granted. When they know that you will always be there for them no matter what, it truly only makes them less likely to be there for you.
Believe me, letting go of a relationship is hard stuff, but in the long run it saves you a lot of heartache (and headaches). Because, as much as we don’t want to believe it, the past tends to repeat itself. Maybe it’s just me, but once a failed relationship, always a failed relationship.
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Yes I know a lot of couples may take a few breaks here or there and that is fine and completely healthy. But if something is sincerely wrong between the two of you there should be no turning back. There are certain things that a relationship just can’t overcome and that’s perfectly okay. The hard part is accepting it. We can't all rekindle like Noah and Allie.
If in your heart you believe that the person you are giving another try is worth it, then by all means go for it. But if you have any doubt that the person you've fallen for isn't ready to catch you, I'd advise you to think twice before jumping back in. Remember, dears, you can't keep trying to write the next chapter of your life if you're still invested in the past. Turn the page and move on. If you're the lucky duck being given a second chance; use it wisely.
Listen, we're human and that means we can be creatures of comfort. The great, unknown world of dating is scary for a lot of us, so naturally going back to a relationship that is "safe" seems like a good idea. Too many times we are the ones holding ourselves back. Let the bad relationship go, stop being the pushover and never settle. Give yourself the opportunity to find someone who won't need a second chance.
Are you in a on-again, off-again relationship? Do you agree with our thoughts? Share your story in the comments!
