Ever since I was little, I always thought that friends were a "forever" kind of thing. Growing up, I realized that quite the opposite was actually true.
It took me many years of smiles, laughs, tears and pain to come to an important but shocking realization: friends will come and go throughout your life. Some will be nice, and some will be mean. Some will stick around through the hard times, while others will leave. The second you think you found that "forever" friend, they will prove you wrong.
Oh, and that super cool, popular girl from your honors chemistry class? The one that always asks you to borrow your clothes? She isn't your friend. She's attempting to let her popularity win you over so she doesn't have to go out and buy that super chic Gucci belt that you already own.
Honestly, who knew that the worst heartache would come from losing a friendship? The social "norm" is that we are only supposed to get upset and have broken hearts over a boy.
Yes, there are a lot of things that can hurt us in friendships. But I can guarantee you that nothing hurts as bad as having a best friend who turns around and stabs you in the back. Damn, it hurts. It really hurts like hell.
The one person who you thought had your back and would have it forever. The person you could tell your secrets and trust that they'd keep them. All of the laughs and smiles together. Who knew that it could end so fast?
You received all the text messages and stared at your phone screen, not knowing how to react. The only way to relieve the huge lump in your throat was by allowing huge tears to spill out from your eyes.
Yes, my heart was shattered into pieces. But I can't and won't let one, or even 50, friend breakups stop me from having amazing friendships.
Although it took quite a while, I am thankful that I have learned all of these things. I'm thankful that I've had hard times when I got stabbed in the back. After all, without pain, we can't experience joy. Without experience, we can't learn.
The pain and heartache were definitely worth it.
There might be many bad friends in this world. But I know for a fact that for every bad one, there is always a good one. And quite honestly, cheers to the good ones. Cheers to the real friends.
Cheers to the girls that I can trust to always have my back, no matter what.
You guys are the reason I still believe in friendship. You're the reason I still believe in laughs, cries, ups, downs, secret telling, secret keeping and so many more things.
We all have those special people we can go to, whether it be one friend that you truly trust or ten. They are the people who shape our hearts and hold them tenderly. I can't stress enough how much I appreciate the real friends.
I don't know about you, but I say screw the fake friends.
I am going to be a real friend, one that will be caring and trustworthy rather than a backstabber.
I am going to do it, I promise. I am going to do it with my whole heart.
I hope that you will, too. Please, trust me. Your friends deserve it just as much as you do.