How To Deal With Failure in College

How To Deal With Failure in College

God made all of us with a specific purpose and has already told us that we are worth more than what any grade says about us.


You've studied for weeks, you've color-coded all of your notes, you've used up all of your flashcards, you've attended every office hour, and gone to every possible study group. You feel prepared for exam day. It's the day of the test, you finish it with time to spare and you're confident that you performed well. Fast forward to a couple of days later. You receive your grade, you eagerly look at the first page and to your despair, a fat F looms in the top corner of the test that you poured late nights and gallons of coffee into. There's a sea of red pen marks that make your head spin so much that you can't be bothered to even read your professor's comments. You feel defeated, you feel like all of your efforts were in vain, and most of all you just feel flat out dumb.

I'm sure that we can all relate to having a couple of seasons like this during our time in college. Failure, not just academically speaking, is one of the most horrible feelings in the world. Over the years I have learned how to cope with my failure and rise from it, without allowing it to weigh me down. I always receive comments about how I can be so joyful or calm during tough times and here are some ways that I am able to do that:

1.  I find perspective

Whenever I am stressed about how I performed on a test, I remind myself that it is not the end of the world. It sounds cliché, but it is true. Despite the grade that I received, I am still thriving, I still have my health and a wealth of opportunities.

2.   I remind myself of my worth 

I remind myself that my worth as a person, or how smart I am, is not measured or defined by a single grade in a single class given by a single professor. Rather, it is defined by who God created me to be. The Bible says in Psalms 139:14 "I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made." God made all of us with a specific purpose and has already told us that we are worth more than what any grade says about us.

3.  Moving on and moving up 

Usually, this consists of taking a nap, screaming into the void that is my pillow, and pretending that it never happened. I really try to think about what I did wrong and what I can do differently next time in order to do better. After this, I rant a little bit to my friends, then try to put it out of my mind (to the best of my ability) and focus my attention on other things; getting ice cream, hanging out with friends, or watching a movie.

While this formula for dealing with failure is not for everyone, I can confidently say that it has worked for me time and time again. However, don't be fooled, I am still working on dealing with my failure every single day. I'm not going to lie it is really hard to deal with your failure, but I hope that this encourages you in some way. Keep your head up because you are worth it and you will succeed!

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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