How To Deal With Failure in College

How To Deal With Failure in College

God made all of us with a specific purpose and has already told us that we are worth more than what any grade says about us.


You've studied for weeks, you've color-coded all of your notes, you've used up all of your flashcards, you've attended every office hour, and gone to every possible study group. You feel prepared for exam day. It's the day of the test, you finish it with time to spare and you're confident that you performed well. Fast forward to a couple of days later. You receive your grade, you eagerly look at the first page and to your despair, a fat F looms in the top corner of the test that you poured late nights and gallons of coffee into. There's a sea of red pen marks that make your head spin so much that you can't be bothered to even read your professor's comments. You feel defeated, you feel like all of your efforts were in vain, and most of all you just feel flat out dumb.

I'm sure that we can all relate to having a couple of seasons like this during our time in college. Failure, not just academically speaking, is one of the most horrible feelings in the world. Over the years I have learned how to cope with my failure and rise from it, without allowing it to weigh me down. I always receive comments about how I can be so joyful or calm during tough times and here are some ways that I am able to do that:

1.  I find perspective

Whenever I am stressed about how I performed on a test, I remind myself that it is not the end of the world. It sounds cliché, but it is true. Despite the grade that I received, I am still thriving, I still have my health and a wealth of opportunities.

2.   I remind myself of my worth 

I remind myself that my worth as a person, or how smart I am, is not measured or defined by a single grade in a single class given by a single professor. Rather, it is defined by who God created me to be. The Bible says in Psalms 139:14 "I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made." God made all of us with a specific purpose and has already told us that we are worth more than what any grade says about us.

3.  Moving on and moving up 

Usually, this consists of taking a nap, screaming into the void that is my pillow, and pretending that it never happened. I really try to think about what I did wrong and what I can do differently next time in order to do better. After this, I rant a little bit to my friends, then try to put it out of my mind (to the best of my ability) and focus my attention on other things; getting ice cream, hanging out with friends, or watching a movie.

While this formula for dealing with failure is not for everyone, I can confidently say that it has worked for me time and time again. However, don't be fooled, I am still working on dealing with my failure every single day. I'm not going to lie it is really hard to deal with your failure, but I hope that this encourages you in some way. Keep your head up because you are worth it and you will succeed!

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Here's What Happens When All Of Your Friends Have Babies

All of my friends back home are married with children. No, really, they are.


Over the past few months, three of my friends have shared their pregnancy news with me, and I couldn't be more thrilled. Baby news always stirs up a range of emotions for me. I'm excited and crying happy tears (no joke, I started to cry when my best friend told me and showed me her ultrasound).

Being "Auntie Meg" brings me such great joy. You see, I absolutely adore children, especially my friend's kiddos. They can easily brighten up my day with their giggles, love you, and their goodbye kisses & waves. I absolutely love getting to be "Auntie Meg"; it could potentially be my favorite role to fill.

I don't think I've ever loved human beings more than I love these babies. These are kiddos I would do almost anything for; they truly have my whole heart and I couldn't be more thankful for each and every one of them. I've loved getting to watch my friends grow into incredible parents.

I love getting to be one of the biggest cheerleaders for my friends and their kids. Listen, I can't wait for the day when they are older and are asking to come over more and spend time doing fun things with auntie Meg. I can't wait to watch them grow and I can't wait to be able to come alongside them and be a shoulder to cry on and one of the loudest voices cheering them on (Next to mom and dad, of course).

While there is just so much good about your friends growing up and having children of their own, if you are not careful, it can also fuel a person's self-doubt.

It can bring up questions like, "am I good enough?", "what is wrong with me?", "why am I not where they are at?" I would be lying if I said that I have never thought or felt these things, but here's the thing: you are good enough, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and their path is not your path; you will get there when you get there.

Those things are so important to remember in times when you begin to doubt yourself or your worth.

Believe me, you are good enough, there is nothing wrong with you, and that is not the path you need to be on at the moment. This is a great time for you to focus on you and the things you want out of life. What are your goals? What is on your bucket list? Just because you don't have the things your friends have, doesn't make your life any less fulfilled than theirs is. Your life is just as wonderful and fulfilling as theirs is, just in different ways.

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