How To Deal With Failure in College

How To Deal With Failure in College

God made all of us with a specific purpose and has already told us that we are worth more than what any grade says about us.

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You've studied for weeks, you've color-coded all of your notes, you've used up all of your flashcards, you've attended every office hour, and gone to every possible study group. You feel prepared for exam day. It's the day of the test, you finish it with time to spare and you're confident that you performed well. Fast forward to a couple of days later. You receive your grade, you eagerly look at the first page and to your despair, a fat F looms in the top corner of the test that you poured late nights and gallons of coffee into. There's a sea of red pen marks that make your head spin so much that you can't be bothered to even read your professor's comments. You feel defeated, you feel like all of your efforts were in vain, and most of all you just feel flat out dumb.

I'm sure that we can all relate to having a couple of seasons like this during our time in college. Failure, not just academically speaking, is one of the most horrible feelings in the world. Over the years I have learned how to cope with my failure and rise from it, without allowing it to weigh me down. I always receive comments about how I can be so joyful or calm during tough times and here are some ways that I am able to do that:

1.  I find perspective

Whenever I am stressed about how I performed on a test, I remind myself that it is not the end of the world. It sounds cliché, but it is true. Despite the grade that I received, I am still thriving, I still have my health and a wealth of opportunities.

2.   I remind myself of my worth 

I remind myself that my worth as a person, or how smart I am, is not measured or defined by a single grade in a single class given by a single professor. Rather, it is defined by who God created me to be. The Bible says in Psalms 139:14 "I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made." God made all of us with a specific purpose and has already told us that we are worth more than what any grade says about us.

3.  Moving on and moving up 

Usually, this consists of taking a nap, screaming into the void that is my pillow, and pretending that it never happened. I really try to think about what I did wrong and what I can do differently next time in order to do better. After this, I rant a little bit to my friends, then try to put it out of my mind (to the best of my ability) and focus my attention on other things; getting ice cream, hanging out with friends, or watching a movie.

While this formula for dealing with failure is not for everyone, I can confidently say that it has worked for me time and time again. However, don't be fooled, I am still working on dealing with my failure every single day. I'm not going to lie it is really hard to deal with your failure, but I hope that this encourages you in some way. Keep your head up because you are worth it and you will succeed!

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Everyone Should Experience Working In Fast Food Or Retail

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it.

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I know these jobs aren't glamorous. In fact, most days I looked forward to clocking out before I had even clocked in. I always secretly rolled my eyes when an angry customer droned on and on about how entitled he or she was. Though I can name a lot of bad things that happened on the job, it wasn't all horrible. As I reflect on my time working in fast food, I realize how much having that job really taught me and how grateful I am to have had that experience. I really think everyone should work in fast food or retail at some point, and here's why:

You make some great friends from work. I get it, sometimes your co-workers are royal jerks or flat out creeps. You see your name on the schedule next to theirs and immediately try switching with someone else. I've been there. However, I have worked with some amazing people as well.

Every time I worked with one girl in particular, we laughed for entire shifts. One night, we were singing the national anthem at the top of our lungs without realizing a customer had come in (to our surprise, she applauded our terrible screaming). Another coworker and I turned up the radio on full blast when business was slow and had dance battles. We made the most of our shifts, and I still talk to some of these people today.

You learn how to deal with difficult people. It's the age-old story: the uppity customer thinks twelve dollars for a meal combo is outrageous and Where is your manager?!

My friend and I were once called stupid and a customer said he would never come back to our restaurant to eat ever again. At the moment, we were scared out of our minds because we were both pretty new to the job. As time passed, we became more patient and tolerant and knew what triggered these particular customers. Dealing with these adversities definitely helps in the long run, particularly when it comes to doing group work with people who seem unbearable.

Your people skills increase by a landslide. I had always thought that I was great with people before I had a job. However, when I found myself in situations where I had to talk to strangers, I would grow nervous and stumble across my words from time to time. Working in an environment where communicating with others is a driving force helped me not only with improving my public speaking, but also made me more outgoing. In situations where I once backed into the corner to avoid having to talk to someone, I now take charge and initiate a conversation.

You establish a connection with regular customers. My favorite customer was named Jack. He was the sweetest old man who came in every Wednesday and Friday and bought food for himself and his wife. I quickly memorized his order, which impressed him. We shared pleasantries every time he came in, and my coworkers and I looked forward to seeing him.

Establishing a relationship with people who come in a lot helps immensely when it comes to working. It also provides a sense of accomplishment when you memorize an order. Not to mention, the customers start to like you and typically leave a generous tip!

You have stories to tell for a lifetime! Sometimes bad things happen at work. Once I was holding a hot pan and burned my arm— I still have the burn mark on my arm to prove it. My point is, it sucked at the moment, but now I look back and laugh.

One time I asked my coworker how to make soup and she replied, "Slowly, but beautifully." It was so nonchalant that I cracked up for hours. There was also a time when a customer asked me for outlandish toppings and condiments that we didn't offer. The craziest story, though, was the drug deal that went down in our public restrooms. My coworker and I obviously could not leave our station and follow these people into the bathroom, so we were pretty much defenseless. Nobody got hurt or anything, so it made for a great story.

Working in fast food was definitely not sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows, but I'm so glad I did it. It made me more independent and outgoing and gave me memories I'll never forget.

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