What’s that old saying? “Always the bridesmaid but never the bride” or something along those lines.
Yeah. That’s my entire mood when I open Facebook or Instagram and scroll just to see post after post about another couple putting a ring on it.
Last week, as I sat in my bed with my bowl of pasta, I opened my laptop to check social media. What I saw came as a surprise but honestly, in hindsight, I saw it coming. I saw four separate couples post pictures with captions like “I said yes” or “so excited to marry my best friend!” And then the picture would be of them looking in love with the lucky girl proudly throwing her hand into the camera to show off her fancy, new rock. Scroll a bit more to see the 276 reactions the picture got and the 74 comments of people congratulating the couple. The point is, the older I get, the more engagement announcements I’m beginning to see.
I think this a sure sign that I’m officially an adult and that I’m only going to get older. Soon enough, the wedding album will drop on Facebook and then there will be baby announcements. Honestly, if I had a dollar for every engagement announcement that I saw in the past year and a half, I’d have enough money to pay for a month’s worth of rent.
If I learned anything after turning 20 it’s this: once you hit your 20s, start expecting your peers and friends to find a person, date them and then get engaged. It moves kind of quickly, to be perfectly frank. I saw one guy post their engagement to his girlfriend and all I could think of was, “dang...this kid who stuck a crayon up his nose is getting MARRIED?!”
Sometimes I feel like maybe I’m not doing something right. A lot of my friends are in serious relationships and will also probably be tying the knot in the next three years. Me? I’ve been single for four years and honestly, I’m just trying to graduate college on time! The more people who got into relationships, the more I felt that maybe I’m just not datable. After all, no guys would ever try to flirt with me when I went out. They would all be more interested in my friends. But then again, I never been one to really go out of my way to flirt with a guy when I was out with friends.
At first, I was a bit bitter towards the couples that would get engaged young. Why would you go and try to rush when you have your whole life to live?? But now I understand that sometimes you just know that you found your person and that you just want to start your lives together as soon as possible. I hope that one day that I’ll be able to find someone that I can take a picture with to post on every form of social media, announcing that I, too, have found my person.