Relationships today are centered around being "couple goals" on Instagram and crazy boyfriends/girlfriends questioning and overthinking every last thing. Dating someone who is secure in your relationship sure makes things a lot smoother, which is why in a relationship I look for someone who loves like I do.

I’ll never start an argument over something ridiculous or minuscule, because simply put, I’m not big into arguing. I don't care if you go out or don't reply to my text for a while. I’m not going to control your life and make you leave your friends, because those are your boys and you need your boys like I need my girls. In fact I want you to go do things with your friends, I don’t need to be with you 24/7, I have things to be doing during my days too.

I’m not going to call you 100 times a day or blow up your phone with text messages or Snapchats when you don’t respond. We both have important things to do during the day other than text each other constantly. I'd rather you show up at my doorstep unannounced so we can sit down and talk about each other's days rather than text all day.

I’m not some crazy chick who needs all your social media passwords or for you to share your location with me so I can check up on you. I don’t waste my time searching for something online, because I’m not concerned with cheating. If you want to cheat, you will and I’ll end up finding out either way. I’d never put our relationship at risk, and if you care about me neither will you.

I won’t get jealous or throw a fit when your female friends like your photos or you like theirs. Girls and guys can be friends, and I'd never make you stop being friends with someone because they were a girl. You had a life before me and I don’t want to change your life, I want to become a part of it. I don’t care if you posts pictures of me on your Instagram every other day or once a year. I don’t need the world to know that you love me, I just need to know that you do.

What I do appreciate the most is reassurance that you’re still as into me as I am into you. And I never want the flirting, teasing or learning about each other to stop. I don’t want you to change who you are or your life because you’re dating me, and I don’t want to change mine for you. A relationship is an invitation to become part of my life that I've been living. I fell for you because of who you are not for something I could change you to be, and I hope that’s the same from you.

Honestly, that’s all I truly look for in a relationship. Someone who reassures me that I’m important to them, because that’s what I’ll do for them. I don't need crazy dates to win me over or expensive presents to keep me around. I want someone I love spending time with but we can also go do our own thing with our own friends, without any “where are you now” or “who are you with” texts blowing up each other’s phones. If you aren't secure in our relationship, we probably shouldn't be in one.