What are you supposed to do when your relationship is on the brink of collapse?

A serious relationship can be many things. It can enrich your life, or it can complicate it, a positive addition to your everyday, or a negative one. Relationships change, but sometimes the love you have for someone does not. It is incredibly difficult to decide what you are supposed to do when your relationship is stuck in a rut so deep it seems like there is no way out. However, take comfort in the fact that there are always three options: stay and pray a miracle fixes the problems, terminate the relationship, or to try and fix what is broken. Now, how do you decide which option to choose? This is a tricky question, but I would suggest narrowing down the field to A) let it go or B) work on it. (I have found that ignoring the problem only makes it far worse in the long term.) So now that you have it simplified to a choice between A and B, there are a few signs that can point you in the right direction.

When To Cut It Off ...

1. You are missing a key component:

Friendship, attraction, and trust. Is your relationship FAT? If you are missing one or more of these major pieces, you may want to reconsider why you are in a relationship with this person at all. There are many factors at play, but these are a few big ones!

2. You are not excited about a future with this person:

Dating is typically something you do to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If that is something you don't want out of this relationship, then it may be time to move on! You deserve to find your person.

3. You can't remember the last time you were consistently happy:

This is your life! You deserve to be happy, and if your relationship is preventing you from that, then you deserve better! You deserve someone who brings a smile to your face daily instead of tears and heart ache.

When to Fight For What You Have ...

1. A life without them, is a life you don't want:

If you know in your heart that this is the person for you, then don't give up! Put some elbow grease into your relationship and work it out!

2. You are better together:

When you find someone that you bring out the best in and in turn they bring out the best in you, then you have something special. Don't take that for granted!

3. You are both willing to put in the effort:

If you guys are on the same page, then what are you waiting for?! You must love each other if neither of you is willing to give up.

Tips For Fixing Things...

Sometimes things go astray. Life happens, and you have let things get away from you both. It is okay, but it is important to get back on track to a healthy relationship and to learn from your mistakes! This is a two way street so it is going to take some team work, but it can be done. Love is a powerful thing!

1. Make each other a priority:

Check in, and be there for one another. Make sure you schedule out time to spend together. Life is busy, but you make time for the things you care about. Your relationship is obviously one of those things, so don't let it fly under the radar.

2. Learn each other's language of love:

For my boyfriend, his language of love is "acts of service." So, with that in mind, I try to help him whenever I can, however I can. My language of love is quality time, so he makes an effort to make our moments together count! Your partner will take note when you are actively looking for ways to show them you love them. Check out what your language is! http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

3. Have an open heart:

You have probably been experiencing a lot of hurt while you two have been in this rut. However, if you are going to give your love a second chance, go into this with a clean slate. Forgive and forget. Let your love take root and grow anew!

No two relationships are the same. No one can tell you what to do. However, you can take control of your life. So, don't be afraid. If you two are having a tough time, no matter what you choose to do, just remember....