Being open-minded is great when it comes to relationships. I fully endorse the idea of dating different people from different backgrounds to expand your own views, but there are some things you just have to say no to. Here are 14 deal-breakers that I think everyone should set.
1. Having absolutely nothing in commonGiphy
We're off to a pretty obvious start here. It's always nice to date someone a little different than you to broaden your own horizons. But that doesn't necessarily mean dating your complete opposite is the best idea. If you find yourselves not being able to connect on anything, it might not be meant to be.
2. Constantly talking over or interrupting youGiphy
Sure, everyone does this from time to time. But if your partner consistently talks over you and doesn't let you speak your own mind, they may view what they are saying as more important than something you have to say.
Everyone can get jealous at times— it's just a part of human nature. But if they are sneaking onto your phone to look through your text messages and telling you not to talk to certain people, it's a really good sign that they don't really trust you.
4. No ambitionGiphy
Now, I'm not saying they need to want to be the next president or anything. But having some sort of life goal is important. Maybe they are training to one day run a marathon or they are in college studying to get a certain degree. It doesn't need to be anything to far into the future, but they should have plans other than just to lie around for the rest of their life.
5. Distance in the physical senseGiphy
Distance is something that can kill any relationship. Especially if it's a relatively new relationship, most people want someone who is not too far away to snuggle with.
6. Different pathsGiphy
If you both have completely different outlooks on what you want your futures to look like, they may not be your perfect match. Compromise can always come into play, but if they picture having 8 kids with a big house and you want to live in a small apartment in the city, then it may get difficult to agree.
One of the biggest deal-breakers everyone and their mother should have is extreme anger issues. Everyone gets a little bit upset from time to time, but if they ever take their anger out on you in any way, run for the hills and never look back.
8. Social media/technology habitsGiphy
Most young people in today's age have a smartphone in their hand for the majority of the day. Which is completely fine, unless your new S.O. is constantly not responding to you and never showing you off on their Instagram or Snapchat. If you're constantly texting them throughout your day and they take five hours to respond, well...there may be a problem.
9. Hung up on an exGiphy
Don't get me wrong here— I'm all for remaining friends with exes. But if they are constantly bringing them up in conversation, talking them up or slamming them down, then it may be a bad sign. Also, remember if they constantly talk badly about their exes, that probably means they'll do the same to you once you're over.
10. Religious/political viewsGiphy
Political parties are at each other's throats. Maybe if you're super open-minded, you can make this work. But if you constantly go back to fighting over politics or religious beliefs, it may be time to call it off.
11. Seeing the other as a projectGiphy
Sure, as you progress in a relationship you may find some unfavorable traits of theirs. But it's never a good sign if you are starting out a relationship with a list of things that you want to 'fix.' They're a person, not a project, after all.
12. Alcohol/drug problemGiphy
If you like to enjoy a drink or two every once in a while, but they are going out and getting wasted more then you're comfortable with, then things may just not work out for the best.
13. Social tendenciesGiphy
There's nothing wrong with being an introvert or an extrovert, but dating someone who would rather stay in on a Friday night while you want to go out and hit up the clubs may be a struggle.
14. General inability to work togetherGiphy
If you find yourselves arguing more often than not and constantly at each other's throats, then it's probably a pretty strong sign that you two just aren't right for each other.
Overall, if your partner has one or two of these things, then you may be able to still work it out. Maybe your relationship is so strong that it can transcend past all of these things, and if so, then a huge stadium-filled applause to you.