14 Relationship Deal Breakers That Should Warn You Not To Even Give Them A Second Date

14 Relationship Deal Breakers That Should Warn You Not To Even Give Them A Second Date

Because some sh*t is just unacceptable.


Being open-minded is great when it comes to relationships. I fully endorse the idea of dating different people from different backgrounds to expand your own views, but there are some things you just have to say no to. Here are 14 deal-breakers that I think everyone should set.

1. Having absolutely nothing in common


We're off to a pretty obvious start here. It's always nice to date someone a little different than you to broaden your own horizons. But that doesn't necessarily mean dating your complete opposite is the best idea. If you find yourselves not being able to connect on anything, it might not be meant to be.

2. Constantly talking over or interrupting you


Sure, everyone does this from time to time. But if your partner consistently talks over you and doesn't let you speak your own mind, they may view what they are saying as more important than something you have to say.

3. Jealousy/possessiveness


Everyone can get jealous at times— it's just a part of human nature. But if they are sneaking onto your phone to look through your text messages and telling you not to talk to certain people, it's a really good sign that they don't really trust you.

4. No ambition


Now, I'm not saying they need to want to be the next president or anything. But having some sort of life goal is important. Maybe they are training to one day run a marathon or they are in college studying to get a certain degree. It doesn't need to be anything to far into the future, but they should have plans other than just to lie around for the rest of their life.

5. Distance in the physical sense


Distance is something that can kill any relationship. Especially if it's a relatively new relationship, most people want someone who is not too far away to snuggle with.

6. Different paths


If you both have completely different outlooks on what you want your futures to look like, they may not be your perfect match. Compromise can always come into play, but if they picture having 8 kids with a big house and you want to live in a small apartment in the city, then it may get difficult to agree.

7. Temper


One of the biggest deal-breakers everyone and their mother should have is extreme anger issues. Everyone gets a little bit upset from time to time, but if they ever take their anger out on you in any way, run for the hills and never look back.

8. Social media/technology habits


Most young people in today's age have a smartphone in their hand for the majority of the day. Which is completely fine, unless your new S.O. is constantly not responding to you and never showing you off on their Instagram or Snapchat. If you're constantly texting them throughout your day and they take five hours to respond, well...there may be a problem.

9. Hung up on an ex


Don't get me wrong here— I'm all for remaining friends with exes. But if they are constantly bringing them up in conversation, talking them up or slamming them down, then it may be a bad sign. Also, remember if they constantly talk badly about their exes, that probably means they'll do the same to you once you're over.

10. Religious/political views


Political parties are at each other's throats. Maybe if you're super open-minded, you can make this work. But if you constantly go back to fighting over politics or religious beliefs, it may be time to call it off.

11. Seeing the other as a project


Sure, as you progress in a relationship you may find some unfavorable traits of theirs. But it's never a good sign if you are starting out a relationship with a list of things that you want to 'fix.' They're a person, not a project, after all.

12. Alcohol/drug problem


If you like to enjoy a drink or two every once in a while, but they are going out and getting wasted more then you're comfortable with, then things may just not work out for the best.

13. Social tendencies


There's nothing wrong with being an introvert or an extrovert, but dating someone who would rather stay in on a Friday night while you want to go out and hit up the clubs may be a struggle.

14. General inability to work together


If you find yourselves arguing more often than not and constantly at each other's throats, then it's probably a pretty strong sign that you two just aren't right for each other.

Overall, if your partner has one or two of these things, then you may be able to still work it out. Maybe your relationship is so strong that it can transcend past all of these things, and if so, then a huge stadium-filled applause to you.

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36 Reasons Why You Should Date a Harry Potter Fan

Dating a Potterhead's like catching the Golden Snitch

Who are the best people in the entire world? Potterheads. They're passionate about the Wizarding World, and they're bound to be just as passionate about you. Falling in love with a Harry Potter fan is effortless, and there are simply countless reasons why.

1. You’ll always know what to get them for Christmas. Or their birthday. Or literally any holiday.

You can never have too many butterbeer mugs.

2. They won’t judge anyone based on a first impression.

Because we know everyone changes, for better or worse.

3. They’re super cheeky.

4. And also pretty sassy.

In a good way, of course.

5. They fully understand how powerful love is.

6. Because it can literally save lives.

7. They will be loyal to you until the very end.

8. They’ll always have that innocent, childlike wonder.

9. They’re probably a funny pick-up line expert.

10. They have no problem standing up for themselves, or for you.

11. They’re straightforward.

Because sometimes you need to hear something even if you don't want to.

12. They know you can have a family you’re born with and also a family that you choose, and they appreciate them both.

13. They're also very protective of said families.

14. They know that sometimes love requires immense sacrifice.

15. They read. A lot.

Odds are they might become your own personal library.

16. They’re courageous, smart, honest, and ambitious.

And they'll probably be able to sort you into a house, too.

17. They know what heartbreak feels like, and know how to bounce back stronger.

18. They laugh a whole lot.

19. They will go to the ends of the world and back to protect the people they love, and never give up on those people.

20. They will appreciate the love you show them and will not take your relationship for granted.

21. They know that the best things (and people) in life are worth waiting for.

22. They’re all for those cozy nights in.

Reading is great but if you want to watch a movie they'll have eight perfect viewing options at the ready.

23. They know that life is finite. So prepare for lots of spontaneous adventures.

24. It's not that hard to make them smile.

25. They're probably a great dancer.

26. They don’t do jealousy. Ever.

Every time jealousy came into play in Harry Potter, something crumbled. Believe me, we know better.

27. They're super passionate.

28. If you lose anything important, "those damn Nargles" is a legitimate excuse.

29. They're really patient.

30. They don't let anyone boss them around.

31. They're quite optimistic.

32. They're definitely not afraid to goof around.

33. If you’re getting serious, there’s no need to be worried about figuring out where and/or how they want to be proposed to.

And at your wedding you probably won't say "I do," you'll make the Unbreakable Vow.

34. They're probably a great kisser.

35. They'll always be there for you.

36. The most romantic thing you could say to them is literally one word.

Trust me on this one.

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Having a Partner with the Opposite Personality

From one who relies on personality psychology like some rely on horoscopes, here is my experience dating someone who I thought I would never be with.


"Opposites attract" claims the old adage backed by science and society. I never thought the phrase would apply to my life -- the closest people I had ever been to were similar to me in interests, beliefs, and lifestyles. Although not carbon copies of myself, I am able to share passions and events with them, which I love. Everyone, including me, loves to be understood.

Because of the people I am closest to, I assumed this attraction to like-minded people would carry over into my dating life. After years of failed attempts at relationships in high school, I finally met a guy who I thought was similar enough to me to actually lead somewhere -- but this also flopped. I was left hurt, disillusioned, and disheartened. My reasoning went along the lines of "Well if it didn't work out with someone like him, who will?"

Some months of moping (and another unsuccessful attempt at a relationship) later, I eventually met the guy I would spend the next two years with. I was attracted to his humor, kindness, and intelligence. As we got to know each other, we learned I liked to read, and he liked to watch movies. I liked to go on walks, he liked to lounge on the couch. I liked to sing, he liked to listen to instrumental music. I liked to wake up early, he liked to stay up late. Now he's an engineering major, and I'm an English major. Of course, there were things we had in common, but I never had imagined I would be with someone who wouldn't be able to discuss books with for hours on end.

Our differences ran deeper -- when we became interested in 16personalities and Meyers-Briggs, it revealed our personalities were almost complete opposites. I am an ENFP, extroverted and emotional, and he is an ISTP, introverted and logical. Even so, we were surprised to see each other's types listed as "challenging opposites." According to Truity, challenging opposites have "the most potential for personality clash and conflict" and "because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations ... initially, it may seem impossible to relate."

Sometimes, it did seem impossible to relate. He would do things that were very hard for me to understand, and I would become upset for reasons he did not understand. If he thinks something does not need to be said, he probably won't say it, while I often need and appreciate romantic validation and emotional affirmation. He thinks differently than I do, and I see the world differently than he does. The most difficult times during our relationship were instigated by differences in personality related to communication, understanding, and more.

But we got through these times. Truity also claims challenging opposites have "the best opportunities for growth" and "because they are so different, their strengths are the [other's] weaknesses, and ... they can learn a tremendous amount from each other." This has proven to be true for us. Each time we came out of struggles, we understood each other a little more. I have learned to compromise and empathize more. He has learned to communicate his feelings more and understand the emotional roller coaster I sometimes ride.

Dating someone with the opposite personality of you provides an opportunity for growth with each other and individually. It makes you see and think differently, and opens up new opportunities to learn and share. It's exciting for someone to introduce a new world or way to think to you, and for you to do the same for them. You can get advice you never thought of, do what you never thought you'd do. At the end of the day, it matters less about differences in interests and personalities, but more about the love for the character and essence of your attraction to your opposite partner.

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