I'm a huge believer in second chances. I think given the time a person can change their actions and do right a second time around. I've seen it happen over and over again. People do change. On the other hand, when is it time for a person to draw the line? When is it acceptable to throw in the towel and chalk it up to a learning experience?

I hear people say if you love them you should do whatever you can to try to be with them. Personally, I disagree with that. That puts all of the responsibility of a two person relationship on one person. If you don't stay with a person through all the crappy stuff they do it must mean you don't love them enough. That's crap. The truth is that most of the time the person giving the second chances is the one putting in the most effort. That's the person that stays up all night racking their brains for a solution to a problem that seems to keep growing. That's the person that wishes they could hold on to the relationship just a little bit longer. Really it should be the other way around though right? The person getting the second chance should be trying their hardest because they were lucky enough to get that second chance. They wanted to try again but they are willing to throw that chance away and let you do all the work.

I've had my fair share of break-ups and get-back-togethers. We always hope the second time around that things will be different. Things will last longer and be happier but it never seems to turn out that way. Recently, I realized that I will continue to give second chances. I will continue to believe in the good in people but after your second chance you certainly don't deserve a third. I refuse to let the same person burn me over and over again.

I'm the type of person who doesn't go into a relationship half way. I'm not looking for a short term thing. If I like you enough to call you my boyfriend you can count on me being 100% into the relationship. I am more than willing to put in the work that needs to be done. More times than not though the other half doesn't feel the same. I've given out second chance after second chance and you learn quickly that the people who don't want the relationship are the quickest to bail, but they are also the people to come running back after they realized what they gave up on.

I won't give someone more than a second chance. I won't let someone think that I'm the person they can always come running back to and I'll just open my arms as they leap. I will be the girl who is strong enough to ignore the love she feels and walk away. I will always be the girl who has enough confidence in herself to realize that a person isn't going to change. I will always be the girl that doesn't take any kind of abuse and doesn't tolerate cheating. There are lines that girls and even guys have to draw. There is a point when taking a person back over and over again just becomes a vicious cycle that really only ends up hurting one person in the end.