What’s the first feeling you feel when it comes to depression? Loneliness. That term can create a lot of inner feelings and negativity. We need help. We need advice and feedback from others. No matter how many words are spoken, it’s never enough. We feel alone, but we know that we have the ability to lean on others. All that really matters is being understood by others.
What hurts the most is someone stating they will be here, but when you try to explain your feelings and emotions they make you feel “crazy” or they themselves can not handle or deal with our emotions. Since it’s hard to feel understood, we tend to isolate ourselves to avoid negative comments. In the end we tend to feel stuck and helpless. The main thing is that we need others to understand what we are going through.
It is difficult for people to understand because it’s hard to understand what you haven’t been through. However, the best thing you can do is support and listen.
When it comes to recovery, it does not mean that we will be 100% better. It means we want to keep going and to not give up. We still struggle. We still are going to have our bad days. It will be difficult for us to be considered normal in society. It will be hard for us to simply go on about our day. It can be hard to look at certain household items that we try to use as a harming device. It can be hard taking pills everyday to medicate the thoughts, be back at an equilibrium. However the temptation to take all the pain away can be at the back of your mind.
It still hurts. We still hurt. Crying ourselves to sleep and feeling hopeless is a daily action. We still feel exhausted, mentally and physically. We tend to struggle to find motivation and energy.
So how are we recovering?
The difference between then and now is that we are trying to get better. We are trying to aim for a more positive path. We go to counseling, do more motivational activities. We tend to fill up our schedule so we have no room to think and when we do ask for help, we ask those who have our best interest at heart. We find ways to better our lives and ourselves.
Recovery isn’t going to happen overnight and not everyone will understand. Surround yourself with those who do care and give you a shoulder to lean on. It’ll be hard for those to relate, but all that matters is that we will get better and will succeed in doing so.