Back back back, where can I even begin? It is said most friendships are not made to survive after high school. Even best friends. That wasn't a lie. Out of all the people I associated with in grade school, only a few prevail to remain close and in contact. I mean, there are those friends who message you when they are back in town, but during the semester they are silent.
If a friendship is broken, it is not something that can be forgotten. It is like shards of glass crashing to the ground leaving a pile of despair and confusion. Sure you can find some of the pieces, but it is impossible to put them back together perfectly. When the foundations are destroyed, there is nowhere the heart can run. This leaves the victim completely vulnerable and hurt. Think about it: losing an anchor in a boat causes it to float off into a dark abyss without any support. A detached friend can be considered this anchor.
The first human instinct may be to try and fix the relationship. However, how can an abundance of shards be put together or a sunken anchor be pulled out of the water? Simple, it can't. While letting go is an incredibly difficult action, it is best to fulfill the process. This will help to prevent difficult situations from lingering. The longer the friendship tries to hold on by the thread, the more tension the thread will endure. Eventually, it will snap leaving both sides alone and separate.
With this amount of distance, it is almost unbearable to continue a regular routine. Unfortunately, it is something that must be done. One can not dwell on an issue that is irreparable. Instead, they should seek out encouragement from others who lift their spirits up. It could be helpful to find some friends to discuss the circumstances. This can help build a new trust and sense of a sturdy backbone. It may take many more friends to help recover from the one friend who pulled your heartstrings the wrong direction. Thought this can be a difficult reality, it is much healthier to have support then nothing at all.
After the support is accomplished, be sure to create leisure time for oneself. It is essential to try and have a distraction from the recent situation. Try to get more involved with the people who about your well-being and less occupied with the emotional distress . Yes, there will be a point after the crumbled relationship (and false hope is terminated) to where a person may feel lonely and discouraged. That is okay, recovering from a busted companionship does not happen overnight. Continue to hold your head up high and keep moving forward.