Every movie, every song, every TV show is all about finding love. Why are we so obsessed with it? What's the big deal? I mean, having a relationship is wonderful, but so many people miss out on life because they're so mopey about not having a partner. They still have friends and family, but they focus on the one thing they don't have. Why?
I think there are two major factors that play into this topic. Although there are more, I think these two are the most common and important forces that influence us:
1. Media
Media is the most obvious factor. Turn on any movie or TV show and try to find one that doesn't have some romantic elements in it. Granted, not all of them are strictly about relationships, but many have those themes playing alongside the main plot. Quite a few modern movies are doing better about not focusing on the romantic elements, but there are still so many others that have forced love plots or triangles that grab for our attention. For the most part, entertainment and media fill our heads with how wonderful it is to be in love. This isn't necessarily a negative thing on the part of the business; the point of entertainment is wish fulfillment and to make money by making people happy. The problem is when media influences our perceptions of how reality is supposed to be. This is a common problem that many people face.
2. Our own insecurities.
It isn't all media's fault, though; it is just wish fulfillment. We feel like we're missing out on an essential part of life because we see so many people who are "happy" (by the way, a lot of them aren't), so entertainment comes in to fulfill our desire of a happy ending. It puts the thoughts into our heads and plays with the desires that are already there. We want to be wanted. It's a natural inclination. We want someone to accept us for who we are and to love us unconditionally. Oftentimes we think that a romantic relationship will fulfill that desire, but you can't expect one relationship to make you feel like a whole person.
Don't get me wrong, relationships are great; it isn't wrong to desire one. The point is don't get so caught up in romance that you lose sight of things that are more important at the moment. It's better to wait for the right time and the right person instead of hungrily trying to find a date.
Why do we want love so badly? In my personal opinion, it's because we think we have to. Our insecurities demand it and media reinforces it. We think that's what will bring ultimate happiness. We think that's the end goal. It isn't. It's only a part of life. It's a wonderful part, but still only a part. The truth is that we don't have to focus so much on finding a partner. We can watch romantic movies and still have that desire to meet someone special, but it shouldn't be our main focus in life. Focus on the people and the relationships you already have and make them as strong as possible before you try to add a new one. If you're constantly striving for that perfect person, you might end up missing the ones right in front of you who are already supporting and loving you.
I hope this was helpful to you. Good luck!