I cannot explain the amount of frustration that overcomes me when I encounter someone who has an attitude and for some reason feels the need to take it out on me or anyone who comes into sight.

However...

It came to me one day that they might just be having a bad day. Seems simple, right? However, recently I was eating lunch with a group of friends at a place that was decently crowded, little to no waits for a table and plenty of servers on duty so that you would not have to wait long for your food. Our waiter, on the other hand, seemed to be very disoriented and wanted to avoid any conversation and/or a simple "you're welcome" when we thanked him and instead gave us "mhm."

Naturally, we sat around the table debating whether or not to give him the same tip as we normally would because of the quality of the service (do not act like you have not done this either, you know you have). As we sat there for a moment, doing the math and figuring out what we should give him, it came to me that it should be no different than what we normally tipped.

SEE ALSO: An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

Yes, the service was bad, but you never know what happened that day and maybe the crappy tip would make their day even worse. Maybe he did not notice that we tipped him normally that day, but he definitely would have noticed if we had given him less. It very well could have been his first day on the job and he could have just been scared of messing up.

Either way, the importance of this overall was that it is so much better to fill experiences like these with a sense of positivity and try to give to people whose day is not going as they planned.

It is important to change the way we think when someone does not hold the door open for us and instead of thinking "well that was rude," changing it to "they probably did not see me" or "they were in a hurry." I know sometimes I forget to hold the door open and afterward feel guilty for doing so.

We cannot continue on with this automatic response of taking everything so personal. I am guilty of this and have to work daily to know that not everything people do or say is directed at you or me. Everyone is different and sometimes people are unaware of what they are doing or saying to others, even if it may seem so.

Overall, take the extra step to tip the crappy waiter and know that you may have been the only one to do so that day. You may have just made their day, and that should be what matters the most.