For all of you who are in a relationship... this is not the article for you. Please don't humor yourself with comments such as, “She’s just jealous she’s not in a relationship,” or, “Someone must have broken her heart.”
Wrong.
I’m just trying to hype up you single ladies since social media is constantly flooded with #relationshipgoals. Actually, I’ve never really been in a relationship so I don’t really know what I’m missing in the first place. I just know what I don’t want in a relationship based on what I've seen my friends go through. Snow White said it best when she stated, “Someday my prince will come.” Prince Adam (AKA the beast) did not chase love when he was cursed. He waited for the right person to come along (Belle) and even let her go when he realized she wasn't happy. But she actually came back!
If we remember this, we won’t be so obsessed with trying to find the one. We can just wait patiently in our castles for the stars to align.
In the meantime, there are some perks to being single. These are not all, but just a few things that might help you slow down in your search for a significant other.
1. The One Who Will Crave Attention While You Watch Netflix...
Imagine you and bae made plans to binge watch a show together and they start flirting during the show... at its climax! The agony! I mean, I thought we made plans to stream Netflix, not make out. Keep your flirty hands to yourself, buster!
If you are single, you can binge for hours upon hour without interruption or someone begging you for attention.
2. The One Who Needs to Know Your Every Move...
Sometimes people make spur-of-the-moment plans. Therefore, it can get pretty aggravating to have to tell your "honey boo" that you went across the street for a late night snack. They have their friends stalk you to see if you’re flirting with someone else. Even worse, they want to be invited to everything you do! Hello? Clearly, there are some trust issues going on here and you need to lose this person. Listen, buddy, is it okay if I breathe? You’re suffocating me, thanks.
If you are single, you can come and go as you please, anytime you want. Buy candy late at night if you want to. You get to go out with just your bros or gals.
3. The One With Unreasonably High Standards...
You’re pretty much stuck with what you got, unless you break up with that person. You can’t go into a relationship thinking you will change a person. If you’re looking for something specific, let them know right off the bat, not two years later. Don’t ask someone to shave if they haven’t in years. Don’t expect someone who doesn’t wear makeup to start now. Shouldn’t you think they’re attractive without it in the first place? When people show you who they are, believe them.
If you are single, you only are expected to uphold your own standards. It seems like you can't be yourself anymore in a relationship. It must be crazy to think someone will accept you as you are!
4. The One You Are Imprisoned To...
Everyone has dreams. Most people have had specific goals for themselves since they were in elementary school. Say goodbye to all your dreams when you’re in a relationship. It’s better this way, really. If you think things aren't going to change, you’re in for a rude awakening. Your significant other is going to become the gatekeeper in your life. Creeping around to make sure you don’t stray too far. They are going to keep you from going as far as you want to go. Obviously, because they want you to stay around. The question will always be, "what's going to happen to us?" One upperclassman told me a good story about not letting a relationship dictate your plans. She went to a school because of her boyfriend. They broke up once school started.
If you are single, there is nothing holding you back from success. You get to think about you and you only.