The Reality Of Those Infamous Three Words

The Reality Of Those Infamous Three Words

You know which words I'm talking about...


Love is a powerful word. The words "I" and "you" placed before and after the word "love," respectively, carry a high level of emotion, meaning, and passion. Throughout my time in college, I've thought a lot about this statement and the meaning it holds. Saying "I love you" is like signing up for an emotional rollercoaster. In a relationship, saying these three words to a significant other change everything. They bring a relationship to the next level. Over the past four years, I've become more protective over these words.

The words "I love you" were a bit premature in my past relationship. My boyfriend and I were both young and naïve and threw the words at each other early on. I don't think either of us knew what those words meant to each other. I'm a very emotional and passionate person, and I fully committed myself to another person by saying those words to him. Looking back on it, I don't think I was ready to say it at the time. At the moment, I felt pressured. It was the kind of thing where he said it to me, and I just said it back. Over the course of a year, I dug myself deeper and deeper into an emotionally abusive relationship. Each time I was feeling uneasy about our relationship, I constantly thought, "but he loves me."

I'm hardly an expert on love, but I can say with confidence that one should use these words sparingly. You make more of a commitment to a significant other when you express this level of emotion. If your partner says it to you and you don't feel ready, you should not feel pressured to say it back. An individual should only say these three words if he or she truly means it and fully understands the responsibility that comes with it.

I've learned a lot about love during my college experience. I've learned that love can be both amazing and disappointing. Love requires a lot of hard work. You expect a lot from a person that says "I love you" back, and feel prepared to be let down. Always remember—everything happens for a reason. You should never feel regret about your life decisions and where they take you. Take everything in, and learn from it. If you can gain anything from heartbreak, it's a meaningful life lesson.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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New Year Resolutions For Couples

Some goals that couples can set together for the coming year.


With the New Year coming in, many people begin formulating their resolutions for the year that is to come. Resolutions, in this sense, are goals that you hope to achieve or live by in the New Year. It is often a way to get yourself to grow or become a better version of yourself. And this same notion can be applied as a couple. If you are in a relationship, it may be worth considering having some joint resolutions together in unison. Here are some suggestions of some goals that you and your significant other may want to set together for the New Year.

1. To Communicate More


Some people have issues communicating effectively. Even those who would be considered great communicators may falter a bit over time. Setting this goal together shows your partner that communication is important to you and that you want to try to improve things further. And the mere idea of setting resolutions together, is an indicator that you and your partner may actually allow this resolution to come to fruition.

2. To Trust More


Though some of us have been in a relationship for an extended period of time, some of us still hide our insecurities, worries, or things about us from our partner. It is important to share some of these things with your partner, so they could like you for you, and even provide support for you in dealing with said things. Of course, you should share things when you are ready, but hopefully setting this resolution jointly can nudge you both in the right direction.

3. To Learn More


No one should stop learning, because no one knows everything. And it is important to constantly acquire knowledge and skills, so that life feels fresh and innovating. Wanting to do this as a couple gives you both the opportunity to grow individually and simultaneously together.

4. To Feel More


A lot of us try to hide our feelings or avoid circumstances that may provoke particular emotions. But, it is important to feel things. With positive emotions, we can let ourselves feel in a way that provides thrill and joyfulness frequently. With negative emotions, we can let ourselves feel in a way that makes us stronger beings later on. Sometimes we have to let go and feel, in order to grow and become more resilient.

5. To Laugh More


Laughter is truly the best medicine. No one really goes wrong with laughing. Being able to laugh often and freely, can be cathartic through the mundane or busy times in life. As a couple laughing with each other, and maybe even at each other sometimes, can make you enjoy each other's company more. Everyone likes a good joke every once in a while, or likes to watch a comedy now and then, so try to do it more if you can. Watch more funny things or play more funny games, and just let yourselves laugh. Everyday there should be an opportunity to laugh a bit. Who Knows? Maybe laughing more can lead to you loving more in the New Year.

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