Relationships are beautiful, seeing two people in love is a lovely thing to witness. On social media you find people sharing the #relationshipgoals photos and videos that are commonly shared on people’s pages. These “goals” though seem to mislead the real reason people are together, or the true meaning of love. So what really is “The Relationship Goal”?
Being able to support one another, and love each other unconditionally is my goal in my relationship. Having someone to lean on and have, as a personal cheerleader is a great thing to have in life. Life gets hard, and the future may seem scary at times having my boyfriend in my life makes everything that scares me become no big deal (thank you). You don’t have to text all day long to show that you care, our parent’s didn’t grow up in the cell phone era and survived just fine. Picking up the phone before your day begins while on your way to work and calling them to see how their morning is going, or FaceTiming and talking about each other’s day at the end of the day makes the relationship much more intimate, you don’t have to text 24/7 to know that you care about one another. You both live busy lives and sometimes you won’t be able to talk everyday, that doesn’t mean you should ever overthink you both know that in your hearts you love one another and that is all that really matters.
Never lose sight of having your ‘girls’ in your life plan fun shopping days, or pool days because every girl needs her girl time, just like every guy needs a day out with the guys as well. Being the couple that only hangs out with one another make you two seem unavailable which shouldn’t be the “goal”. I love having lunch with a few girlfriends, or getting Pedi’s with my mom.
Being comfortable in my own skin, and laughing as much as possible are some of the main things that make me happy in my own relationship. Being in a relationship where he thinks your snorting while laughing is sexy, having it absolutely normal to make baby sloth noises whenever you feel like it, being goofy like two little kids, always feeling beautiful around him and being prepared to scratch each other’s backs until your fingers bleed before bed is what really matters. Set a “no phone rule at dinner” and just focus on one another, social media and group chats can wait (my boyfriend and I started this on one of our first dates and we still continue to follow it with no problem). You don’t need a big fancy dinner every night. Buy some sushi from Publix and call it a day, plan nights to go have ice cream at your favorite ice cream parlor. Plan cute simple dates, go watch the sunset together, cook together, or just spend a day by the pool.
Remember the time he told you the he wants to see Twenty One Pilots live? Find tickets for you guys to go see them. Even if the dates couldn’t work out least you made the effort to try. Surprise each other with one another’s favorite treats or food. You guys should be in the relationship ready to build each other up, to know exactly what to do when you are having a bad day. Giving compliments, doing nice gestures, remembering little things, kissing as much as possible and reminding one another how much you care about each other is the real goal in your relationship. You don’t have to spoil one another, or brag about every nice thing you do for one another on the Internet to make it “real” what makes it real is the trust, the caring, the cuddles and Eskimo kisses before bed.
This is only my opinion of what the real relationship should be. Everyone loves and dates in different ways that work for them. Caring, loving, kind gestures, remembering the small things and being each other’s biggest fans are just the many things that define what my goal is in my relationship. *blushy face*