8 Questions To Ask Before Dating Someone

8 Questions To Ask Before Dating Someone

Here are eight questions to ask to make sure things are solid before dating someone:

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You have to know the person you're dating.

1. What are your hobbies?

It's always good to know if you share hobbies or personal interests, but sometimes it's good to know if one bothers you.

2. How old are you?

It's good to know how old the person is, a couple years in your young adult life could mean a lot in terms of maturity and where one is in life.

3. Views on sex

If you haven't had it already, you might want to talk about it at some point.

4. Religion

This is sort of the same as #3.

5. Politics

Can't promise how this one will go...

6. Views on marijuana

7. Goals in life

It is important to know what one wants in life if you are serious about dating someone- it might affect your future as well.

8. Do they want to continue living here or live somewhere else?

This is sort of the same as #7.

If you ask these questions before you date someone, you'll feel a lot better that you did.

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Dear Taylor Swift, Christians Are Not Homophobic Bigots, Sincerely, The Majority Of Christians

Taylor, you need to calm down when talking about how most Christians act.

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When Taylor Swift released her newest single "You Need to Calm Down" last Friday, I didn't agree with the entire message of the song, mainly because of its heavy political overtones. But as the great Dick Clark once said, "It's got a good beat, and you can dance to it." So, for what it is, it's really easy to dance to this song, and I can see it becoming a pretty big hit.

But then the video came out, and I saw something that really bothered me.

In the music video for "You Need to Calm Down", Taylor is seen partying and hanging out with multiple LGBT+ icons in honor of Pride Month, such as the hosts of Queer Eye, RuPaul, and Ellen Degeneres. There's also a moment with Taylor, dressed as French fries, renewing her friendship with Katy Perry, who's dressed as a hamburger, which is as amazing as it sounds.

However, there's another cast of characters which acts as a foil to the happiness and colorful joy which is taking place in the video. There's a group of protesters surrounding the trailer park where Taylor and all her friends live. They're all dirty, buck-toothed, and dressed like your typical redneck stereotypes. They're also holding up protest signs while screaming at everyone in the trailer park. I saw one of the signs said something about Adam and Eve, and I realized most of the protesters were most likely meant to represent Christians.

And that...didn't sit well with me at all.

I know that these people never explicitly said they were Christians in the video, none of them even wore a cross. But, whenever someone sees anyone protesting rallies and organizations such as Pride, I can guarantee you that most of the time, the first thing people think is that they're from the Westboro Baptist Church, which is notorious for its protests. And I won't lie, there are some Christians who act that way.

But if you haven't heard this yet, let me be the first to tell you that not all Christians act like that. In fact, most of them don't act that way.

Christians don't agree with the LGBT+ lifestyle because of what the apostle Paul wrote in the book of 1 Corinthians (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). However, Jesus never once taught that just because you don't agree with a person doesn't mean they're automatically your enemy (Matthew 5:44). Christians are supposed to represent the love of the Savior of the world, which encompasses every and all aspects of humanity. This definitely includes people whose lifestyles we don't agree with. By not showing love to certain types of people, we are directly going against one of Jesus's greatest commandments.

Not agreeing with people is one of the cornerstones of humanity. It's a divisive world out there to be sure, but that doesn't mean people from any side of the debate need to perpetuate the division. Grouping all Christians into one group of hateful bigots is no different than Christians grouping all the members of the LGBT+ community into one group of evil people. One of the key elements of Christianity is showing people who have different beliefs from us the same love Jesus would show to anyone. And I know I'm not the only Christian who wants to show love to people of all walks of life. I may be the only Jesus they ever see in their lives, and we all wish to express the same love to others.

So Taylor, it looks like you're the one who needs to calm down on this issue.

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It’s Okay To Let Go

If It’s Meant To Be It Will Be, If Not It Never Was

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It's okay to let go of things that you are not meant to have right now or ever. It's okay to stop and start over. It's okay to have a fresh start. It's okay to let go of anything you feel is holding you back or negatively affecting you. It's okay to be selfish in this situation and let go. Whether it's a relationship, a friendship, a bad habit, a lifestyle, or anything that is not bettering you as a person, it's okay to let it go.

There are moments in life when you can and are totally allowed to be selfish. There are moments when you can and are totally allowed to put yourself first and think about yourself before anyone else. If something is holding you back, preventing you from being who you wanna be, or damaging you in any way, shape, or form, let it go. Regardless of if it's all you know, if someone's feelings get hurt, or if you're scared because you have no idea what's going to happen, be selfish and do it for you. If it's going to be better for you to do it. If it's going to take a weight and burden off of you, do it.

If you let it go and it eventually returns, it was meant to be; if it does not return, it was not meant to be. Letting go is hard and can be very scary, but it's worth it in the long run. Whatever is holding you back from letting go, you've got a better reason against it for why you need to let go. The moment you start questioning whether or not you need to let go, you should start letting go. You can do it, and once you actually do it, you will thank yourself and start to see the positive changes.

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