7 Questions Every Twin Is Tired Of Getting Asked

7 Questions Every Twin Is Tired Of Getting Asked

No, we can't read each other's minds.

May 4th is Star Wars Day, Audrey Hepburn's birthday and national orange juice day. It's also the day the world was blessed with two incredible, hilarious and extremely good-looking babies: Colleen and Joey, me and my twin brother.

Growing up with a twin brother, people were always asking us questions. I remember in preschool, nobody even knew what a twin was. No matter how hard we tried to explain we were brother and sister born on the same day, nobody seemed to get it. The theme of the year was "What's a twin?"

The questions have been downhill from there.

OK, some of the questions people ask me about being a twin are totally understandable. "Who was born first?" (me) "How many minutes apart?" (one minute) and "Are you close?" (as close as most siblings are, really). But some of the questions I get asked truly just make me face palm. I'm genuinely entertained by the questions people think of to ask about my twin status. Here are some of the worst.

1. Are you identical?

This is by far my favorite. He is my twin brother. Since when are boys and girls identical? Can you not deduce that because we are different genders, we are definitely not identical?

2. Can you read each other's minds?

I'll be honest, when we were young, we'd love to lie and and say yes, then pretend like we were reading each other's minds to try and make people think we were amazing. My brother would say, "Colleen, what am I thinking about?" and I'd say something totally random, and he would pretend like I totally got it right. We were awful. But, now when people ask if we can read each other's minds, I can't help but giggle a little bit. Twin telepathy is not a skill we are blessed with. In fact, I'm not even sure it's something ANY twins are blessed with.

3. Do you like your twin brother?

Do I like my brother? Um, yes? People seem to think that because we're twins, maybe we don't like each other.

4. Do you look alike?

I get this question so much. I understand if it's someone who's never met my brother. But if you have, I'm so confused as to why you're asking if we look alike. You can see us, so...

5. Do you know you look nothing alike? Do you know you look just like each other?

This question is similar to the one above. Some people seem to think we look a lot a like, some people think we look like we aren't related at all. It's crazy that there's so many different opinions on whether or not we look alike. Personally, I think we look like brother and sister and are definitely related, but we don't look alarmingly the same.

6. Do you guys ever fight?

Do you have a sibling? Have you ever fought with them?

7. Is it so weird being a twin?

Actually, no. Because it's all I've ever known. I've never not been a twin, so it's my normal. It's like asking someone if it's weird having an older sister. Of course it isn't; it's normal for them.

I like having a brother who's going through life at the same rate I am. I always have someone to joke around with or talk to about what's going on, because we can always relate. I genuinely love being a twin.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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You Don't Have To See Your Friends Every Day

We all have lives that we're trying to balance.


For as long as I can remember, whenever I would have no plans and go on Snapchat to see all my friends having fun without me, I would get FOMO. I'd get really sad and think that they didn't care about me because they didn't invite me. It would get me in such a bad mood that it would ruin any chance of going out with someone else who wanted to hang out.

I don't know if it was just my anxiety of people hating me or if it was a fear of missing out (FOMO). Even recently, it has gotten me down. However, over the past month or so, I finally realized something: you don't have to hang out every day to still consider each other friends.

Everyone has a life that they're trying to balance, especially after high school. People work (maybe even more than one job) and go to school. Some have to take care of family members or do things for their family. Some people are focusing on themselves. Some have relationships to maintain. Whatever it is, we all have lives that we're trying to balance.

We all want to have fun, but school, work, and our families are the priorities.

Even if they're out hanging with other people, it doesn't mean that they don't want to hang out with you. Free time is served on a "first come, first serve" basis. It's hard to balance hanging out with multiple people.

I also learned that it doesn't matter the number of friends you have. What truly matters is the quality. Ask yourself, "Who's there for me when I really need someone?" The people who are there for you when you really need someone to talk to are your TRUE friends.

It's not easy to be there for someone and make them feel better. If they offer to listen or give advice, they care!

I know that it may feel like you have no friends sometimes, but that's not true. Life after high school is hard at times. You're an adult. You have to do adult things and take care of yourself first.

You have to realize that everyone has a busy schedule and not all your friends' schedules will align with yours, but that's okay! You don't need to hang out with friends every day to consider them your friends. What truly matters is if they are there for you when you need them.

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