From Now On I'm Putting 'Me' First

From Now On I'm Putting 'Me' First

We need to be strong for ourselves and put our needs and happiness before that of others.

Rely on yourself. Rely on you when nobody else can. Fend for yourself because at the end of the day, the only person you can guarantee will be there for you is yourself.

People come and go. Support comes and goes. One minute you are being treated like a queen by those around you and the next minute your relevance in their eyes diminishes for one reason or another, maybe even no reason at all.

We have zero control over keeping people we love around. No matter how invested we are in our friendships and relationships, things can crumble in an instant and there is nothing we can do about it.

The first step is to accept the idea that people are going to, and will always, flow freely in and out of our lives. Whether we like it or not, this is part of life.

We are so guilty of following those who leave and make any and all attempts to pull them back in. This is so unhealthy, yet we do it so often.

It is simply unnatural to force someone to stay in our lives especially if they have no desire to stay in the first place. Why must we be so selfish? If people want to go, we need to let them go!

Think about it...have you ever been genuinely excited about doing something somebody had to, time and time again, bug you to do?

The more persistent people are, the further you distance yourself from them, and the less likely it is that you are going to want to do what they are asking you to do. Moral of the story is to let people live!

I am guilty of not letting people live. In doing so I am not allowing myself to live either. So from now on I’m putting me first. It is a much simpler way to live.

I have experimented here and there with living for myself and in these moments I find myself happier than I have ever been in my life! Focusing on myself is the best decision I could ever make for myself.

It is something you must commit to. You cannot half live for yourself, it is an all or nothing situation. After you decide to make the switch, you will be so thankful you did so.

Living for yourself allows you to relax! The ball is on your side of the court, you do not have to worry about pleasing other people. Constantly walking on eggshells in order to ensure another person’s happiness is exhausting, and sometimes even the most careful hand does not do the trick.

You must realize, no matter how hard you try, it may never be enough for somebody.

We need to be strong for ourselves and put our needs and happiness before that of others.

That being said, we should not treat others less than they deserve. We must balance having a good heart and being kind to others with watching out for ourselves at the same time.

At the end of the day we need to remember our value as individuals and recognize our worth. The second we forget our worth, we enter a vicious cycle of placing others’ needs and happiness before our own. It is crucial for us to end this toxic cycle.

Let’s stop stressing over things that are out of our control and focus on bettering ourselves.

Just think, putting yourself first cannot harm you in any way! Re-adjusting the focus on yourself will only push you to grow more and more each day.

Focusing the lens on what really matters is what will lead to your overall betterment, so make the change today and start focusing on you!

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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I Don't Have To Wear Makeup To Be Beautiful

You don't have to, either.


For about as long as modern makeup/cosmetics/skincare brands have been around, the notion that women have to use any of these cosmetic products to be considered "beautiful" has also been around.

(If you've read my earlier article about red lipstick giving me my confidence back, you would know that I absolutely adore certain skincare/makeup products.)

However, I personally don't believe that I need to wear any kind of makeup to be considered "beautiful." And you don't, either.

I think that we, as a society, have seriously overvalued aesthetic beauty and undervalued the beauty that comes from being a decent, honest, genuine, and kind person. I believe that while makeup has an incredible and transformation-giving effect on women, (and men too, just for the record), that none of us honestly should depend on x, y, and z products to make us feel that we are beautiful, or that our self worth and sense of self should be tied up in how many likes a selfie of us in a full face of makeup get.

And quite frankly, there is so much to love about our makeup free, naturally glowing skin that so many of us hide, simply because society would love to tell us that we're not beautiful, or pretty, or worth very much at all if we don't use [insert new trendy skincare product here].

Well, excuse my French, but I'm calling bull.

It's not okay for any of us to think of ourselves as less than, simply because we're not following those crazy and crappy societal trends. In a culture where "Instagram perfect" pictures are the ideal that every woman, or man, is expected to look up to, I'd say it's pretty revolutionary to dare to bare a fresh-faced look.

No one has to ever feel the need to compulsively put on makeup to be considered "beautiful."

Because, in all reality, makeup can't measure the kind of person you are.

Makeup/skincare products can't measure your kindness, your generosity, your bravery in the face of adversity, or any other kickass quality that you might have. Makeup can't do that; only what's inside of you, if brought out for the world to see, can do that. And yes, I'm well aware of how cliché and "junior high preachy" that sounds.

So, I hope this article will possibly spark some introspective thoughts on what beauty means to you. I hope you start to think about the fact that who you are as a person is not defined by how "attractive" or "beautiful" someone else might tell you you are.

You define who you are as a person, nobody else has that power.

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