From Now On I'm Putting 'Me' First

From Now On I'm Putting 'Me' First

We need to be strong for ourselves and put our needs and happiness before that of others.

Rely on yourself. Rely on you when nobody else can. Fend for yourself because at the end of the day, the only person you can guarantee will be there for you is yourself.

People come and go. Support comes and goes. One minute you are being treated like a queen by those around you and the next minute your relevance in their eyes diminishes for one reason or another, maybe even no reason at all.

We have zero control over keeping people we love around. No matter how invested we are in our friendships and relationships, things can crumble in an instant and there is nothing we can do about it.

The first step is to accept the idea that people are going to, and will always, flow freely in and out of our lives. Whether we like it or not, this is part of life.

We are so guilty of following those who leave and make any and all attempts to pull them back in. This is so unhealthy, yet we do it so often.

It is simply unnatural to force someone to stay in our lives especially if they have no desire to stay in the first place. Why must we be so selfish? If people want to go, we need to let them go!

Think about it...have you ever been genuinely excited about doing something somebody had to, time and time again, bug you to do?

The more persistent people are, the further you distance yourself from them, and the less likely it is that you are going to want to do what they are asking you to do. Moral of the story is to let people live!

I am guilty of not letting people live. In doing so I am not allowing myself to live either. So from now on I’m putting me first. It is a much simpler way to live.

I have experimented here and there with living for myself and in these moments I find myself happier than I have ever been in my life! Focusing on myself is the best decision I could ever make for myself.

It is something you must commit to. You cannot half live for yourself, it is an all or nothing situation. After you decide to make the switch, you will be so thankful you did so.

Living for yourself allows you to relax! The ball is on your side of the court, you do not have to worry about pleasing other people. Constantly walking on eggshells in order to ensure another person’s happiness is exhausting, and sometimes even the most careful hand does not do the trick.

You must realize, no matter how hard you try, it may never be enough for somebody.

We need to be strong for ourselves and put our needs and happiness before that of others.

That being said, we should not treat others less than they deserve. We must balance having a good heart and being kind to others with watching out for ourselves at the same time.

At the end of the day we need to remember our value as individuals and recognize our worth. The second we forget our worth, we enter a vicious cycle of placing others’ needs and happiness before our own. It is crucial for us to end this toxic cycle.

Let’s stop stressing over things that are out of our control and focus on bettering ourselves.

Just think, putting yourself first cannot harm you in any way! Re-adjusting the focus on yourself will only push you to grow more and more each day.

Focusing the lens on what really matters is what will lead to your overall betterment, so make the change today and start focusing on you!

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Being Ugly

What it means to me


Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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