Just Because I Check My Boyfriend's Location Every Hour Doesn't Make Me A 'Psycho Girlfriend'

Just Because I Check My Boyfriend's Location Every Hour Doesn't Make Me A 'Psycho Girlfriend'

No, checking his location every hour does not make me psycho.

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months now. He has come up with describing my actions sometimes as “psycho girlfriend.” As much as this bothered me at first I started to realize there is nothing wrong with my “psycho” actions.

I don’t monitor who my boyfriend hangs out with and I don’t care who he texts, I trust him, but I do watch other things he does.

I probably check his location about once an hour, maybe more if he isn’t texting me back.

This isn’t some way for me to find out if he is with another girl, it’s so I can ensure he isn’t dead in a ditch somewhere. If he was on Snapchat five minutes ago but hasn’t texted me back in 45 minutes, yeah I’ll call him out on it but I'm not actually mad. If he is with friends and not answering me, it’s cool. I just want to be able to make sure I know where he is and that he is alive on a regular basis.

I make him keep his read receipts on for me.

I don’t care if he leaves me on read, I just need to know he is seeing what I’m saying. Half the time, I text him random facts or thoughts I have throughout my day, those don’t always need a response back. However, I do want to know he is acknowledging me through reading my texts.

Yes, from time to time I will spam him and make him respond to my messages so we can make plans or I can know what he is doing with his day but it’s not like I plan out his every move for him or care if he is getting drunk with the boys on a Wednesday, not my issue.

I don’t ask for all of his time or anything. I know he is a busy person. All I ask for him to text me back on a regular basis (once an hour to be exact), for him to allow for me to know where he is at all times and to get one night a week with him.

I don’t plan to show up where he is or anything, I simply just like to know information and get a weekly time with him. I don’t care if I only see him that one night a week, I just want one night with a movie or dinner or snuggles so I can get my boyfriend time.

The rest of the time he is his own person, and I couldn’t really care less about what he does in that time.

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Friendship is the greatest foundation for any successful relationship.


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Before I got into my current relationship, we made it a point to be friends first and foremost before even slightly considering a romantic relationship, despite how much we liked each other. A lot of this is owed to the fact that we go to colleges hundreds of miles away from each other. However, I owe a lot of what makes our relationship work to that "getting to know you" phase. Before my boyfriend was ever my boyfriend, he was my friend. I learned to love him as a friend first, not a potential boyfriend, and from that, was a trust that is hard to establish when you're dating someone.

When you jump headfirst into the idea of a romantic relationship, you want to hide away everything bad about yourself until much later when they're already stuck with you.

The friendship phase gave us time to get to know one another, to get to know the bad and be able to decide if a relationship is still a good idea.

We knew we liked each other, and it would have been so easy to instantly start dating, but I think that taking that time gave us the time to truly understand if what we were feeling was just a crush or superficial interest or the real thing. Taking that time to get to know not just the other person, but also the true motivations behind your own feelings, I would say is the most healthy way to approach a possible new relationship both for yourself and the other person.

Another key aspect of being friends first is the amount of trust and openness it brings into your relationship from the get-go. Outside of my family, I don't find it easy to trust people, but I found myself opening up during our friendship in ways that only my best friend of eight years and my family knew. Having that kind of a connection with a person so easily and having him open up in return made me realize my feelings ran deeper than just a "he's cute and funny" kind of way. That openness and frankness didn't disappear when we started dating, and I owe a lot of our honest communication to the fact that we already trusted each other with a lot of things only a select few know about us. When one of us messes up, the other lets them know, and not having to hide when you're upset or angry dissipates a lot of the common problems and issues people have in their romantic relationships.

Even if my boyfriend wasn't my boyfriend, if we would've opted to just stay friends, I know we would be as close as we are now. Especially in the crazy period of life that is college and beyond, where people can drop out of your life as quickly as they entered, I know I have another constant alongside my best friend and my family who will always be there. No relationship is easy, and I can say with 100% certainty that my boyfriend and I will never be perfect. However, I still owe a lot of what makes us really great to the fact that he's not just my boyfriend, but also my best friend.

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