The transition from private high school to college

The transition from private high school to college

It can be so different

The transition into college for any student is new and difficult. Personally, one of the things I've found to be the most difficult was going from a private high school to college . My college is even considered a Marianist University, but not everyone expresses the same believes or does actions that pertain to the marianist values. Private and public school can be very different. The amount of stereotypes about how private vs public high schools run are always being spread around. You have the rumors that private school kids are rich and snotty and public school kids aren't disciplined and don't want to work hard. Most of these stereotypes aren't true, but after going to one or the other, you are not sure what to expect when your new college friends went to the opposite of you. Here are 6 things to help give you the inside scoop on what private school was like and why it can be hard to transition into college.

1. The Uniforms

One of the weirdest transitions into college is having the freedom to where whatever you want. Us private school kids were so used to our uniforms that the thought of having to put together an outfit everyday seemed strange. Our uniforms made us feel safe and equal to one another. It's nice getting to where what I want, but at the same time I don't want to have to feel judged for what I wear whereas in high school there wasn't much judging on what you're wearing because it's all the same.

2. Academics

Most private high schools are college prep schools, meaning that the course load will be much larger and harder. Most students are taking AP classes and sometimes even IB classes if your school offered it. Even if you weren't taking AP or IB classes, your work was still twice as hard as others. This prepared us greatly for college, but I've been in instances where people called you a "know it all" when really your private high school just taught you more information. Another thing people need to realize is that some public high schools academics can be just as challenging. You can't assume that only private schools face rigorous academics.

3. Money

The biggest difference between private and public high school is the money costs. A lot of kids that go to private school go their through scholarship, their parents work extra hard to make more money, and because of religious purposes. Private school can get pricey, but you can't assume that just because a person went to private school means that they're rich. But this also means that you can assume only poor people go to public school. Most of the time, the reason why a student goes to a certain school is based on their opinions of the school, not on how much it costs.

4. Size and Gender

Another big difference between private and public school is the amount of people in it and whether it was all male or all female. My graduating class had 200 people in it, but I know of people that had a graduating class of 2,000. When transitioning to a big college, it may not phase public school kids how many people there are. But to a private school kid, it's like stepping into a new universe. Another big change is going to an all male or all female school and then going to college where its all genders. Most public school kids don't understand this transition, but it can be weird having the opposite gender in your classes now.

5. Religion

Again, another big difference is that a private school will affiliate with a religion whereas a public school won't. Both religious and non religious people go to both private and public high school. However, there are more expectations from private school kids than for public. Private school kids are required to go to mass, do service hours, take religion classes, go on retreats, and much more. Some public schools offer these things, but private schools are required to do all of these things. It can be difficult going into college and not having to do all of these things anymore. It gives you a sense of freedom but I've also found it makes me feel bad if I don't do these things anymore so I always try to continue doing these things in college which can be challenging at times.

Hopefully this will help you see why it can be challenging going from private high school to college. However, regardless of whether you went to private school or public school, the transition is going to be hard. By the end of graduation it won't matter what kind of high school you went to. The best thing to do is to not judge and try to make college the best years of your life.

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.

It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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High School Seniors Should Be Excited For College, Not Scared

Even though it seems stressful and it is a big new place, it will be some of the best memories you will have for life.


Going into the summer after my high school graduation, all I could think about was college, and how I was going to prepare to go to a new school and move away from home. Just know, it is not as stressful as you prepare yourself for it to be. You don't need to worry about not having any friends or not knowing how to get to all the different buildings because you have to remember everyone else on campus has been in the exact same position you are in, and there are tons of people on campus to help you.

One of the things I was most worried about was classes and how to know which classes to take. My advice is to go to counseling and plan out your classes before you register. Planning out classes will drastically help you stay on track and the counselors will help you make a balanced schedule that you can actually handle.

Another piece of advice would be to not bring as much stuff for your dorm as you think you will need. By all means, bring the essential things that you will need, but remember a dorm room is very small and you share it with another person. You won't have a ton of space for extra stuff and you want to have space to move around and actually live in your dorm.

Finally, if you are concerned about meeting people and making friends, just try and be as outgoing and open as possible. Everyone else in the dorms is just as nervous as you are too meet people, it really helps to try to branch out. Joining clubs or greek life also helps you meet people around campus with common interests as you.

College is not something to be scared of. Even though it seems stressful and it is a big new place, it will be some of the best memories you will have for life.


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