For Those Who Struggle With Perfectionism

I Predicted My Own Illness

I knew exactly what illness I would get and when I would get it. I was right.


Backstory: my mental health and physical health are linked together, just as everyone's is. However, I've noticed that mine seem to be a little more connected than most people's.

I have always been a high-stress individual, so I'm more susceptible to contracting certain illnesses than most people my age. Usually, it's strep or a stomach virus.

The illness will usually manifest itself after an extremely stressful or traumatic situation or event. Once everything starts to calm down, my immune system goes completely haywire.

I am currently battling strep, but this time is a little bit different. I predicted I would get strep right after I finished summer school, and I was right.

The most hectic summer of my life is coming to a close, and my body reacted to the change in my mental health by undergoing a physical illness. It was all my fault.

I put myself through hell for three months straight, and now I'm experiencing my karma.

I literally had no summer "break." From the day I arrived home for the summer back in May, I have put myself through levels of stress that no human can endure, at least not without breaking. I finished an entire semester of college in one summer. To break it down, I did a May minimester, two classes during the Summer I session, and I just finished my two Summer II classes yesterday.

On top of that, I was working two jobs: one in person six days a week and one online through my college. On top of that, I continued writing for Odyssey and kept my leadership position.

During this time, I failed to realize that I am a human, not a robot.

I have been a perfectionist since I was born. Anything less than an A was not okay with me.

I was not raised to be a perfectionist; my parents were perfectly happy if I brought home B's, but a single B swimming in a pool of A's on my Blackboard account would result in a meltdown.

It's hard enough trying to balance the various roles in my life: student, employee, daughter, friend, writer, etc., but I tried to be the perfect student, the perfect employee, the perfect daughter, the perfect friend, the perfect writer, etc.

The human body can only take so much. I wish I had been nicer to myself.

I was so concerned with failing everyone else around me that I failed myself. I didn't treat myself with respect. I didn't ask for help when I was having vomit-inducing panic attacks. I was alive, but I was barely living.

This summer has taught me some important life lessons that I will definitely be taking with me as I enter my last year of college.

Strive for greatness, but remember that you are already great.

Be nice to yourself.

Taking a break every once in a while isn't a luxury; it's a necessity.

Listen to your body. If your heart is in it but your body is not, then don't do it.

You are only human, and that's good enough. I wish I had told myself this three months ago.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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