Some people would say I’m just being sensitive about people taking away my black card, but that’s a lie. I mean I am a sensitive person and I do take things to heart, but that shouldn’t matter! It’s just why do people feel the need to take away black cards because they think that the person is not “black enough.” What does being black enough mean? Seriously. Just think about it….. What do I need to do to be black enough in every black person's’ eyes? Like, are we going for a stereotypical black person? Or something else? Like the only thing I should need to be to have access to my black card, is being black. But for some reason my own kind, my peeps, my black brothers and sisters, my fam are just always ready to take my black card away for some of the dumbest reasons. Here are the 9 reasons I got my black card revoked for:
1. “ You talk like a white girl”
How am I supposed to talk? Ghetto? Loud? With a Southern twang? Like an angry black female? I’m confused. It’s almost as if I’m being told that only the white man can speak the proper English language. Or that we are reinforcing the stereotype of how black people cannot speak the proper English because they aren’t educated enough. Or that all black people are the same.
2. “You straightened your hair? If you’re not a natural sista then you ain’t black.”
Honestly the best reason to get your black card revoked. What does the way I wear my hair have to do anything. Why do I have to be natural? I mean I still consider myself natural if I straighten my hair every once in awhile. Even if I straightened my hair all the time why does it matter? I’m black. My hair is versatile. I can literally do whatever I want to my hair. I can straighten it one day and have an afro the next. Either because I wanted that to happen or the rain got to me and it was no hope.
3. “ I see you holding hands with the white man. You’re not black anymore if you date outside the culture. What happened to black love sis?”
Who I chose to date or fall in love with is my business and my business only. Excuse me for not limiting the people I date based on their race. Just because I date or like someone doesn’t automatically mean I hate myself or hate my own race or even take away from the fact that I AM BLACK. I’m going to be black with or without whoever I’m dating. I’m still going to face double the amount of oppression because I’m a black female with or without a man in my life so it doesn’t change a thing for me.
4. “ You don’t know how to play spades?!?! Bro…..”
No… I don’t. I can play Uno. We can play Uno at these family BBQs.
5. “ You can’t cook? How you going to cook for your husband?”
Excuse me for not believing in the 1900s gender roles. I think that both man and woman should know how to cook and provide for myself. I’ll most likely be cooking for myself and my house full of cats in the near future so I’m chilling. I’m hoping that my future husband is a chef anyways because I’m a foodie and honestly that’s the best way into my heart, if there are any male prospects trying to date me or something. *wink, wink*
6. “ You listen to the white man’s music? Give me that black card because it needs to be burnt”
Sorry I don’t like to limit my playlist based on race. Excuse me for exploring other genres and enjoying them.
7. “ You trying to study abroad like the whites?”
Do I need to even explain this one??? LET ME PROSPER FAM.
8. “You don’t want any hot sauce on your greens? Girl…”
NO! I barely want to eat the collard greens itself. They’re only on my plate because they are a vegetable. Now that I think about it, after all the seasoning, the ham hock thrown in the pot, and all the other stuff those veggies are probably diabetes stewing in a pot. Anyways I cannot help what my taste buds want or don’t want.
9. “ Girl you can’t throw it in a circle?”
NO, I CANNOT THROW IT IN A CIRCLE! PLEASE STOP ASKING! I can dance I guess. I have some sort of rhythm in my body. But if I’m out dancing with my friends trying to have a good time the last thing I want is any man, or specifically a black and beautiful young sir to come up to me and objectify my body with this sort of question. I especially don’t need my black card taken away as well. Let me live. Let me prosper without having to throw anything in a circle, please and thank you!
If I can’t change the color of my skin, then my black card cannot be revoked so stop trying to take it. It’s almost as if we’re forced to reinforce the many stereotypes used to describe black people to keep us down. Let’s break these stereotypical chains and celebrate the diversity among the black community. Let’s stop taking away people’s black cards for any and every random reason you can come up with. Especially my card. Y’all tripping. I deserve my card. I AM A STRONG, INDEPENDENT, PROUD, BLACK WOMEN AND NOTHING CAN CHANGE THAT SO STOP TRYING TO TAKE AWAY MY BLACK CARD. I’m just trying to be out here in these streets prospering. Let me prosper fam.