When we think of self-love, we typically visualize a person who is not only mentally-secure but beaming with physical attractiveness. That person you might perceive as 'body goals' or desperately wish you could only compare to, might be experiencing those similar inner tribulations. They might feel that they too aren't capable of fully accepting themselves, or that they aren't worthy of the positive appraisal they receive. Not saying that receiving validation from your peers, or getting showered in compliments isn't a nice gesture, it's just that sometimes, it's simply not enough. It's not enough for a person to suddenly become enriched with this aura of self-confidence after consistently being told that they're perfect just the way they are.

It's all easier said than done.

Those people you might view as being "too pretty" or "too good-looking" to possess insecurities, might be the same person who is struggling immensely to gain self-acceptance. Insecurities are very robust. Insecurities have the power to hold you back from doing even the simplest of tasks; They can take complete control of your mind, to the point where they're all you think about. These insecurities can be both mental and physical, however, physical attributes are more prone to being noticed. That being said, the majority of people living with low a self-esteem, comprised of various insecurities, aren't very open about what causes their lack of self-love, for the reason they fear these things being pointed out by others.

The point I'm attempting to come across is that physical attractiveness does not equate self-love. The most beautiful supermodel can be presented as a glowing and happy public figure, but deep inside they might attain contrasting deceptions of their being. By saying you would never complain if you'd looked a certain way means you're alluding to the idea that if a person is physically alluring, they're totally and completely comfortable with themselves, which is not true. Society has set standards of beauty over decades, and as much as some may try to dismiss these ideals, those standards will always subconsciously exist.

The journey to self-love can't be reached by just telling someone that "It's not that hard" to have confidence, or "you're pretty, you shouldn't be insecure." Affirmative validation of one's self is definitely a process. If you too feel as if your insecurities are dismissable because of the fact you get swamped with flattering remarks, just know that your path to self-acceptance is just as significant, and one day I hope you find peace and love within yourself.