Psychological abuse, though, can be just as devastating as physical abuse. Psychological abuse can affect your inner thoughts and feelings as well as exert control over your life. You may feel uncertain of the world around you and unsafe in your own home. Psychological abuse can destroy intimate relationships, friendships and even your own relationship with yourself.
Signs of psychological abuse
- Name calling
- Yelling
- Insulting the person
- Threatening the person or threatening to take away something that is important to them
- Imitating or mocking the person
- Swearing at them
- Ignoring
- Isolating the person
- Excluding them from meaningful events or activities
Here are some examples
- You're so cute when you try to concentrate! Look at her, man, she's trying to think.
- That isn't at all what I meant. You'll never understand how much I love you.
- If you don't train that dog I'm going to rub your nose in its mess.
- I am more capable, smarter, and better educated than you. I will take our kids if you leave me.
- Ohhhh...I'd love to smack you right now!
In emotionally abusive relationships, one party systematically controls the other by undermining his or her confidence, worthiness, growth, trust, or emotional stability, or by provoking fear or shame to manipulate or exploit.
This goes on in many relationships; however, it should not be happening. It is not healthy for the relationship or the people in it.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201302/emotional-abuseIn some respects, emotional abuse is more devastating than physical violence, due the greater likelihood that victims will blame themselves. If someone hits you, it's easier to see that he or she is the problem, but if the abuse is subtle - saying or implying that you're ugly, a bad parent, stupid, incompetent, not worth attention, or that no one could love you - you are more likely to think you’re the problem. Emotional abuse seems more personal than physical abuse, more about you as a person, more about your spirit. It makes love hurt.
Love should not be hurting you. If it is, get out of that relationship and seek the therapy that you need. You will not be judged for it. There are other people just like leaving bad relationship and seeking help.