Why You Do NOT Ask A Person With Anxiety How They Are Doing

Why You Do NOT Ask A Person With Anxiety How They Are Doing

I Take Things To Heart And Edge Things In Stone

My EQ level is higher than my IQ. For those who do not know what EQ is, its Emotional quota/intelligence.

Since I am more emotional than most, I tend to take things more seriously than you would. I empathize constantly and I am overwhelmed with feelings all the time. The feelings could range from love, affection or adornment to depression, destructive and agitation.

Taking things closely to heart means I let things in. I do not mean to, nor do I really want to. It just happens. I attract the feelings even though they disrupt me. Even though, they destroy me, and I let them. I let all the world’s problems fall on me and I cannot hold it. I know I can’t, and yet, I still sit in my room at 2am on a Tuesday balling my eyes out about how much I drown on a daily basis.

Even after I wipe my tears, put on a smile and step out in the world, I edge everything in my brain. I edge everything in stone. My hardships never really leave me. They follow me wherever I go. Even if I try to erase them from my brain, they don’t go away.

Whenever I am in a situation, where I even think it could possibly be my fault, I actually think it is. It takes me a while to come to terms that is not true. What needs to be understood is that some people are like this. Some people are extremely caring and they are actually a lot more harder on themselves than you are to them. They constantly think about what is happening around them and they do not forget about the mistakes they made. Even years in their past. The feelings never go away either.

I would be sitting in class and someone would comment about my outfit and then I instantly think about everything wrong with it, and how I decided to step out in the world dressed the way I am. A person with anxiety is always going to say they are fine. Of course they are, they do not want to burden you with what they are truly feeling. If they do that, then they will feel as if you are judging them behind their backs. (You probably are not, but they do not see it that way). So they try to make everything seem perfect or great in their lives and by faking the bright smile, we are just digging even deeper in this whole that we cannot get out of.

If we answered honestly, no one knows what to say.

If we answered honestly, no one knows what to do and sometimes,

If we answer honestly, some might not even care.

Which would bring us back to edging things in our brains. The mind that holds millions of things and if you have anxiety, it holds a billion more, constantly moving. Do not doubt us when we are saying “Oh I’m fine”, because on some level, we are. There is just a large part to some of us where the not so fine part takes over. We hide it well, we try to blend in. But by blendling, we disappear and some of us do not want to background trapped with the edged stones.

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It's the little things in life.

It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
  38. Lemonade
  39. Comfortable silences
  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
  41. Surviving another school year
  42. The cold side of the pillow
  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
  47. Printed photographs
  48. Wearing a new outfit
  49. The sound of an ice cream truck
  50. Feeling confident
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Poetry On Odyssey: Some Days

A poem that reminds you that you're not alone.


Some days,

You dread the sound of your alarm. You snooze and snooze and snooze and snooze.

When you finally pull yourself out of bed, pressed time forces you to throw on stained sweats

you find yourself chugging a cup of coffee.

You sit on the couch and contemplate calling out of work

You caught the stomach bug,

Or perhaps the flu,

Maybe you broke your collar bone

Or need a new phone

The endless list of excuses repeats through your head as you sit on the couch, wishing you were still in bed.

It takes every ounce

Every breath

Every fiber of your being to pull yourself off the couch

And into the car

And into the building where you work

Some days,

This is just how it goes

You are not alone.

Some days,

You awake to the beautiful sound of birds

Chirping outside your window

The sun sneaks its way into your room

A smile creeps across your face as you realize you are awake to see a new day

You make a good breakfast

You read a few pages of your favorite book

You get your mind ready for the things it will accomplish today

Before you know it you've worked an entire day

Your job is done

As you pull into your driveway,

you take a few breaths

Feeling grateful for another meaningful day.

Some days,

This is how it goes

You are not alone.

Every day is a gamble,

Every day is a gift

The key to getting more good days

Is believing that everyday is one.

You are not alone, this is just how it goes.

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