Live In The Moment, Not For The Moment

Live In The Moment, Not For The Moment

We have 86,400 seconds in a single day so don’t allow someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the rest of your 86,390.

There are 12 months, 52 weeks, and 365 days in a single year, so why is it that the majority of people spend this time worrying about the future. As kids, it’s all about the snacks we have at school. Teenagers with relationship drama. College students finding the minimum requirements to pass a course. Adults juggling work to provide for their family, and there are always grandparents overbearing on their grandchildren to always put happiness as a priority. The issue is that each stage of our lives creates a new meaning of what happiness means and more reasons to worry.

Imagine you have $86,400 in your bank account and someone stole $10 from you, would you be upset and waste the other $86,390, in hopes of getting back at the person who took that $10 from you? Or move on and live?

We have 86,400 seconds in a single day so don’t allow someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the rest of your 86,390.

I am, of course, a hypocrite for acting like I don’t let the small things get to me because I am human, and it is no surprise that a single moment can impact an entire day, but what if you have the power to change that, would you accept it? A positive mentality is rare to consistently have but it is most definitely possible, and it spreads like the flu.

My family moved from Bombay, India to the United States before I was born and my parents always say I am too Americanized and forget to think about those around me. In India, there is such a community culture, while in the USA it’s more about independence. I grew up around kids always talking about money and fame, kids always wanting more. But there was one woman who made me realize that the only way I can be happy, is to not overthink.

To be content with what I have and to give back to those around me without complaining. She was a hallmark to women and had the gentlest smile which was always there to light up a room. She is the one who taught me the true value of a moment. My grandma was the most influential woman I have ever met.

She never raised an eyebrow at our new ideas, never raised her voice when we were wrong, and always raised a book telling us to open our minds with knowledge. If it wasn’t for her constant nagging to find our happiness and then share it with the world, I would not be where I am today, and as this holiday season is approaching, I realize more and more that everyone has someone who touched them as my grandmother did for me, but I will never be able to relate to them or vice versa.

The holidays are typically filled with stress from finals, planning for family coming to town, with the addition of gifts, gifts, and more gifts. That is why it is so easy to forget the true meaning of the holidays. People always constantly say it’s all about the moments shared with friends and family, it’s all about helping those around you. The problem with this is that people are so determined to change and not realize what they have right in front of them. Gratitude is such a foreign concept to most, not by the fault of their own. I am no exception because of the culture in this society.

Most people expect things in relationships and because it doesn’t meet their expectation they become disappointed. There is such an emphasis on having the perfect gift or perfect day so one slip can affect the entire holiday. It is important to think about every 86,400 second as its own and to live in the moment, not for the moment. Find happiness in giving back to others while taking care of yourself. There is madness in the holiday season, but it can also be the happiest time of the year. We need to redefine expectations to find happiness in the little things.

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To High School Seniors In Their Last Semester

Senior year moves pretty fast; if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Dammit, you made it. The final semester of your senior year. You’re at the top of the food chain of high school, and it feels so good. You’re probably praying this last semester flies by, that you get out of town as soon as possible.

At this point, you’re calling teachers by their first names, the entire staff knows you by name, and you’re walking around school standing tall, owning those hallways. You’re convinced you’re ready to leave and move on to the next chapter in your life.

You’ve already experienced your last football game, standing in the cold in the front row of the student section all season long, decked out in your school colors and cheering loud and proud. That is, until they lost, and you realized you will never have that experience again. Never again.

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You already had your last winter break. Preparing and celebrating the holidays with your family, ice skating and sledding with your best friends. Those quiet nights alone in your room watching Netflix, taking for granted your loved ones just a few rooms away. Never again.

If you’re an athlete, you may have already played in your last game or ran your last race. The crowd cheering, proudly wearing your school’s name across your chest, giving it your all. For some, it may be the end of your athletic career. Before you knew it, you were standing in an empty gym, staring up at the banners and thinking about the mark you left on your school, wondering where on earth the time went. Never again.

I’m telling you right now, you’re going to miss it all. Everything you’ve ever known. Those early mornings when you debate going to first hour because you really need those McDonald’s hash browns. The late nights driving home from practice, stopping for ice cream of course, ready for a late night of homework. Getting food on a whim with your friends. Endless fights with your siblings. Your favorite chips in the pantry. A fridge full of food. Coming home to and getting tackled by your dog. Driving around your hometown, passing the same sights you’ve seen every day for as long as you can remember. Hugs from your mom after a long day. Laughs with your dad. And that best friend of yours? You’re going to miss them more than anything. I’m telling you right now, nothing will ever be the same. Never again.

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Before you start packing your bags, slow down, take a deep breath, and look around. You’ve got it pretty good here. The end of your senior year can be the time of your life; it’s truly amazing. So go to the winter dance, go to Prom, spend Senior Skip Day with your classmates, go to every sporting event you can, while you still can. College is pretty great, but it’s the little things you’re gonna miss the most. Don’t take it for granted because soon, you’ll be standing in a packed gym in your cap and gown, wondering where the heck the time went. You’ve got a long, beautiful life ahead of you, full of joy but also full of challenges. You’re going to meet so many wonderful people, people who will treat you right and people who won’t.

So, take it all in. Be excited for the future and look forward to it, but be mindful of the present. You’ve got this.
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Don't Waste Your Break Just Lying Around All Day

There are plenty of things that you can do so you don't feel unproductive.


As college students, during break, we all just want to recover all of the energy we lost during the semester. Obviously, this is important, since we only have a few weeks of recuperation before we have to bust our asses all over again. Don't mistake relaxation with unproductivity, though. There are tons of ways to make sure to stay relaxed and stress free during break, but also be able to not waste the days away.

For starters, going to the gym is a perfect way to feel like you are getting stuff done. Even if you literally do nothing else all day but wake up, go to the gym, and go back home and lay around, you are still going to feel like you got something done, and you'll probably feel a lot better to. Break is the best time to get a new routine down, so why not utilize it?

We're all in college and broke, so break is a good time to go back to work and get some extra spending money for the next semester. Even if you only make like $300 in the few weeks you have, that's $300 more you have to spend on food or...the weekends. Also, even though work can be a little stressful, it's only for a little bit of the day, and then you can go home and do nothing like you were planning on anyway. If you're afraid a job will get in the way of hanging out with friends - we're adults, just learn how to plan around it.

Hanging with friends and family is a great way to spend break, though. Make sure to do that as much as possible. Especially if your friends don't go to the same college as you, or if you're going somewhere far from home where you won't see your family as often as they would like to see you.

Finally, I'm not gonna sit here and pretend like laying around and doing nothing isn't the absolute best way to spend break, so if that's how you're gonna spend it, might as well bang out those Netflix series. Personally, a day of laying in bed feels much more productive if I've gotten through 8 episodes of a series rather than just playing around on my phone. So on that note, some series you should check out right now:

-"Narcos" and "Narcos: Mexico"
-"Black Mirror"
-"The Ranch"
-"Mad Men"

These are just some of my top favorite right now, so check them out if you are looking for something good to start watching.

Don't let this break get away from you. You can relax and get stuff done all at the same time.

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