Live In The Moment, Not For The Moment

Live In The Moment, Not For The Moment

We have 86,400 seconds in a single day so don’t allow someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the rest of your 86,390.

There are 12 months, 52 weeks, and 365 days in a single year, so why is it that the majority of people spend this time worrying about the future. As kids, it’s all about the snacks we have at school. Teenagers with relationship drama. College students finding the minimum requirements to pass a course. Adults juggling work to provide for their family, and there are always grandparents overbearing on their grandchildren to always put happiness as a priority. The issue is that each stage of our lives creates a new meaning of what happiness means and more reasons to worry.

Imagine you have $86,400 in your bank account and someone stole $10 from you, would you be upset and waste the other $86,390, in hopes of getting back at the person who took that $10 from you? Or move on and live?

We have 86,400 seconds in a single day so don’t allow someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the rest of your 86,390.

I am, of course, a hypocrite for acting like I don’t let the small things get to me because I am human, and it is no surprise that a single moment can impact an entire day, but what if you have the power to change that, would you accept it? A positive mentality is rare to consistently have but it is most definitely possible, and it spreads like the flu.

My family moved from Bombay, India to the United States before I was born and my parents always say I am too Americanized and forget to think about those around me. In India, there is such a community culture, while in the USA it’s more about independence. I grew up around kids always talking about money and fame, kids always wanting more. But there was one woman who made me realize that the only way I can be happy, is to not overthink.

To be content with what I have and to give back to those around me without complaining. She was a hallmark to women and had the gentlest smile which was always there to light up a room. She is the one who taught me the true value of a moment. My grandma was the most influential woman I have ever met.

She never raised an eyebrow at our new ideas, never raised her voice when we were wrong, and always raised a book telling us to open our minds with knowledge. If it wasn’t for her constant nagging to find our happiness and then share it with the world, I would not be where I am today, and as this holiday season is approaching, I realize more and more that everyone has someone who touched them as my grandmother did for me, but I will never be able to relate to them or vice versa.

The holidays are typically filled with stress from finals, planning for family coming to town, with the addition of gifts, gifts, and more gifts. That is why it is so easy to forget the true meaning of the holidays. People always constantly say it’s all about the moments shared with friends and family, it’s all about helping those around you. The problem with this is that people are so determined to change and not realize what they have right in front of them. Gratitude is such a foreign concept to most, not by the fault of their own. I am no exception because of the culture in this society.

Most people expect things in relationships and because it doesn’t meet their expectation they become disappointed. There is such an emphasis on having the perfect gift or perfect day so one slip can affect the entire holiday. It is important to think about every 86,400 second as its own and to live in the moment, not for the moment. Find happiness in giving back to others while taking care of yourself. There is madness in the holiday season, but it can also be the happiest time of the year. We need to redefine expectations to find happiness in the little things.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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15 Ideas For A Spring Break 'Staycation' In Your Hometown

For those not headed to Myrtle Beach, here are plenty of things for you to do.


Spring break always comes at a much-needed point in the spring semester. Midterms are happening and everyone is just ready to cool down for a few before finishing out the year. If you're like me and never end up going anywhere for spring break, then sometimes it can get kind of boring without much to do. Fear not, this year I have plenty of plans for your staycation in your hometown. You'll have too much to do and not enough time to do it.

1. Hang out with your old friends

If you're lucky enough that your spring break lines up with your old friends' spring breaks, then definitely hit them up! Even if you aren't as close as you used to be, it can still be fun to catch up and see how everyone's life is going.

2. Check off some books from your to-read list

If you're like me, you have a to-read list that's miles longer than the time in your schedule. Take this break and check off one or two of them.

3. Or check movies and shows off of your to-watch list

Again, it always seems like there are so many interesting movies out there, but never enough time to watch them. Gather your friends or family and have a movie night.

4. Go see a musical or a play

Local theatre can sometimes be the best theatre. Look up shows in your area and hopefully, you get lucky with a good one.

5. Go for a picnic

Grab a friend and take your lunch outside. This can be a fun idea to do at a park, a beach, or just anywhere outside your house. Picnics are extremely underrated. Let's bring them back.

6. Go stargazing/starspinning

Take a trip outside on a clear night and check out the constellations. If you don't get sick easily as well, try starspinning. I learned it at camp back in the day. Spin in several circles and then look up at the stars and it appears the sky is moving. It's cool to do a few times.

7. Go to the movies

I almost never have time to go to the movies during the semester, but as soon as I have a break, it's the first place I want to go. It's so fun to see the new movies that everyone is talking about and to enjoy some delicious movie theater popcorn while I'm at it.

8. Go out for brunch

Brunch is vastly under-appreciated. It's the perfect time of day and there are plenty of great brunch deals that restaurants offer. Hit the town and find them.

9. Check out a coffee house

I love coffee shops, but I still find them hidden in corners nearby that I've never seen before. Find some of these hidden gems and enjoy what they have to offer. You could find your new favorite place.

10. Go to an aquarium

The Toledo Zoo has a killer aquarium that's worth checking out at any time of the year. There are so many cool things to see and do inside.

11. Go bowling

I haven't been bowling in years, but it's always a good time to go after you haven't for a while. Grab a ball and some atrocious shoes and knock those pins out of your way.

12. Dave and Buster's

This is a bit on the pricier side of things to do, but I've never NOT had fun at Dave and Buster's. They have good food, fun games, and a cool atmosphere.

13. Take a day trip to a big city near you

For me, this would be Detroit. Go be a tourist at a nearby city. There's plenty to do in places like Detroit and so many different things to see.

14. Take a trip to Costco on the weekends

There is no better place to get free samples than Costco. They have literally given out full slices of pizza and wings while I've been there. Take a lap or two around Costco and you have a fun lunch trip.

15. Get bubble tea

Bubble tea is probably the greatest invention of our generation. Find a local bubble tea place and enjoy the time of your life.

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