No one really changes, but rather evolves

Do People Ever Really Change?

Who knows? Maybe you do, maybe you don't?


I was thinking about this a while ago. It's really been a thing that' has implanted itself in the back of my mind. Do people change? That's the question that doesn't stop revolving around my mind. It doesn't always pop up, but people are quirky in their own way.

While change itself seems to constantly happen, it's a matter of how we, as people, adapt to it. We adapt to change; change doesn't seem to happen to us. I mean, at least the way I see it, we have all adapted towards whatever is happening in our lives at the time being. Not necessarily right away, but over that time period of events, we shift whether it be our beliefs, views, perspectives or even our opinions of something or someone. It really does depend on the person though. Some people adapt to change better than others.

When it comes to a person changing, that depends on the person, but it also has to do with the attitude that the person has. More than that, some people just don't change. You meet people in life who are just a**holes. Later in life, you may meet them again and even if they seem different, odds are, they aren't; they're still as immature as they were when you met them. A person can change to a degree.

As I grow older and more mature, I've seen the evolution in myself. This doesn't mean that I'm completely different from who I once was. Rather, I've grown from who I was and became a better version of the same person I've always been.

In myself as well as others, change doesn't really exist. I don't think anyone ever fully changes - I mean, the whole 360-new-person-type of change. But from what I've seen of others around me and those I've met, people seem to evolve. Like I mentioned, I think that people, throughout their lives, become a different version of themselves, but still remain who they are at their core.

No matter how far you feel like you stray from who you are, you're always going to be you - the wonderful version of yourself that you've been and has grown and matured throughout the years to become the version of yourself that you're most proud of.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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