Owning my "Girly Girl"

Owning my "Girly Girl"

Being labeled as “girly” shouldn’t be such a terrible thing.

I love pink. I love shopping and I’m bad at saving money. I often wear dresses and makeup. I have never played sports. My physical appearance is petite and thin. I am emotional and sometimes a drama queen. I want to be an elementary school teacher, yet I wouldn’t mind being a stay-at-home mom either, because I love children. I squeal when I’m around baby animals. I am a hopeless romantic who watches chick-flicks and dreams of getting married to my prince charming. I talk a lot. I am not good at math or science. I rarely curse. I am soft-spoken and at times unassertive. From as far back as I can remember, I’ve always liked all things “girly” and I would say I have grew up to be very stereotypically feminine.

In the past, I have had to deal with people not taking me as seriously because of my femininity. In middle school there were girls who thought they were “cooler” than me because they were “one of the boys” or because their daily attire consisted of athletic shorts and a t-shirt. I didn’t judge them based on what they liked or wore, even when I didn’t like it. So I never understood why I was judged based on the clothes I wore and the things I like? When did being “girly” become such a bad thing? I have never thought I was suppose to be ashamed of being a woman. Yet, high school came around and so did the term “feminist”. Suddenly, it was cool to be a feminist. One girl patronized me and called me a “bad-feminist” because I was a girly girl. On one hand I believe that women who refuse to conform to the cookie cutter female image should not suffer for doing so. No one should ever be made to feel inferior because of their appearance, gender, sexuality or race - men as well! On the other hand, people like me who fit in the stereotype should not be looked down on either. The feminist movement was suppose to be about equality, right? I couldn’t understand why this so called “feminist” in my high school thought it was okay to put other girls down for having more traditionally feminine qualities.

The fact that pink is my favorite color does not make me ditzy. I am going to wear whatever I want to wear, because I am expressing myself and I deserve that right. My size says nothing about my strength. Just because I’m sensitive, doesn't mean I’m weak. So what if I want to pursue a traditionally women dominated job? Whatever path I choose to take, I am going to be proud. I’m not going to let anyone make me feel like what I’m hoping to achieve is any less important than a corporate career or having the right to call myself a doctor. So what if the path I want is to create a great future for my children, or to support my husband while we make a beautiful life together? I want to give my children the fundamental family unit I lacked growing up. I want to show them what real love and affection is -someone to nurture and guide them. Even so, I can still be a strong and independent women who knows her worth and will be okay on her own. I may talk a lot, but what I have to say matters. What I have to say is worth hearing. Above all, while my demeanor may come across as timid and polite, I have a voice that will stand up for myself and those around me. I am not afraid to fight back. I am a fearless women who has the power to change the world.

There is something quite heartbreaking about a society that makes young girls and women feel like they either need to be girly, or that they must totally reject it altogether. I am growing up in the age of women trying to be equal. I have been urged to never settle for less. I was told to find the cure for cancer, to create that business, and to get paid just as much as the boys. I have grown up, for the most part, supported and fought for by other women, so our futures could be bright and equal. But being a women and being labeled as “girly” shouldn’t be such a terrible thing. Being a “girly girl” doesn’t mean you can’t be strong, tough, brave and intelligent about the things that matter the most. The way I see it, being “girly” should be associated with the fierce and powerful women of our past. Being “girly” should mean all the things women have accomplished and if “girly” could represent the women of our past, then I am proud to be labelled as such.

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An Angsty Poem, Written By An Angsty Girl

"You ain't never had a friend like me."

I wrote this poem based on a previous poem I wrote in my senior year of high school. I threw it away upon writing it because it creeped me out. Looking back, I wish I had saved it because having that effect on readers is pretty powerful. I hope to convey the same feeling through this 'remake,' and hope that readers can adapt this poem in different circumstances in their own lives. A loose interpretation is ideal while reading, it is more about the essence of the poem, rather than a literal story.

A young lamb, as naïve as they go.

Blue eyes gazed upon her, craving.

The wolf whispered love,


Honesty, she believed it true.

The spider frightened her, but she was no match,

For he dressed as a hero: The Spiderman.

Artfully woven webs intoxicated her with beauty.

Unlike any sight she had seen before, it was home.

She was comfortable in his lair.

The snake's cool voice gave her nostalgia.

The unmistakable hiss forever ringing in her ears.

Coiled around her, he vowed protection.

But the bite, oh the bite.

Loneliness is a hidden power, they know it well.

So the love turned to grief.

Beauty became disgust.

And sweet nostalgia, is now a nightmare.

She gazed upon blue eyes in a dream where naïveté ruled, and truth ceased.

It is a false illusion, but no one will know.

No one will choose to see the snake, the spider, the wolf.

They are essential tools; charm and wit,

Intelligence. To hell with it.

But I am tired, and I'll take the advice you and Frank most graciously gave me; I must sit down, I'm rocking the boat.

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Am I A Millennial Or A Generation Z?

Who are We?

Everyone struggles with identity. What the world tells you, what the family calls you, how your friends treat you, the way you react to situations, and how you think about the world all impact who you are as a human being.

All I see on the internet is about how Millenials are struggling to be adults and they do not want to start "adulting." So am I a Millenial, because I feel that way sometimes, but as an 18-year-old, that's normal right? So who are the Millenials and why is it bad they do not have their act together??

Well, the Millenials as defined by Google are born from 1982 to 2004 ... so about from age 35 to 14. That's quite a gap right of time?? Of course, a 14-year-old Millenial would not have his or her life together, they cannot even drive yet, but a 35-year-old not having their life figured out might be an issue... so let's see about the other generation, Generation Z or iGen.

Generation Z is dated from 1995 to current, meaning there are a few years of people in both generations!!

Personally, I do not want to be described as a Millenial who other generations hate because of the 35-year-olds who do not have their act together, but I also did not grow up with a tablet in my hand since before I could walk like I see little children doing now.

So my fellow Middlemen, what are we to do when an entire planet cannot agree on our identity, We are trapped between two separate generations that we do not even want to be a part of because we know that we are better than who the world wants to group us with... no offense.

Grouping people by generation is really annoying because there are no exact time periods that are categorized. Some say Millenials are born from 1972-1992, which would kick a bunch of people into the Generation Z but also take quite a few from Generation X, but others define Millenials as being born from 1982-2004.

Can we be Middlemen who are just called the Cool Generation?

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