Out of State Doesn't Mean Out of Touch

Out of State Doesn't Mean Out of Touch

Just because you go to different colleges doesn't mean you have to give up your friendship
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People always say not to get too attached to your high school friends because they aren’t forever. Once you graduate, you go to college or just go separate ways and stop speaking to each other. While, yes, this does happen I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to. You can keep your friends from high school while still pursuing your future.

This is a sensitive topic for me as I do not make friends easily, so I tend to get attached and treasure the ones I have. The first couple years of high school were really rough for me for many reasons, so I didn’t really have any friends. This topped with being introverted and having extreme social anxiety made making new friends very difficult.

That all changed when I met my best friend my junior year. I had already known her in passing, but until then we weren’t really friends. We couldn’t be more opposite, but she helped me get out more and introduced me to my other two best friends. These three girls are the best friends anyone could ever ask for. Since our junior year, we have been inseparable.

Then graduation came, and we were all happy to be done with the drab that was high school. However, following the happiness came the tears. One of my friends and I were staying in Cape Coral to attend FGCU, while one moved to Gainesville to attend UF, and the other to North Carolina to attend Wake Forest. We were all going to be separated and it was an upsetting thought.

But we all made a promise to each other. We promised we would stay in touch no matter what. So, here we are, two years later, still the best of friends. We created a group chat to always stay in contact and we talk at least once a week most of the time.

I guess my point here is just because you move away, or they do, or they go to a college out of state, it doesn’t mean you have to lose contact. If you truly are best friends and you truly care about one another, something as small as distance won’t keep you from staying in touch.

With all the technology these days, society has made it easier than ever to keep in touch with people. Personally, my friends and I use GroupMe, but there are all sorts of other apps and programs out there you can use. There’s Kik, Snapchat, Facebook, etc. All these social media platforms make it to where you can contact someone at any point.

So, your best friend has broken her phone and got a new one with a new number and failed to share it with you. She goes to Duke while you are here at FGCU. What do you do? Just call it a quits and accept the loss? No. You go on her Snapchat and message her. You are able to get her number and stay in touch.

Despite being physically separated, my friends and I are inseparable. We are there for each other when needed and still provide the support the others need. When possible, we meet up and hang out like old times and it’s like nothing has changed. These girls are the sisters I always wanted, not that I don’t love my actual sisters, and I know I can always count on them. No amount of distance can break the bond we have formed as a group.

So, let me leave you with this statement: Just because they are out of state, doesn’t mean they are out of touch.

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Behind every millennial is a mom with one of these common names.
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It's always interesting to learn the first names of my friends' mothers.

Most of the time, their name fits them perfectly. Behind every millennial is a mom with one of these common names.

1. Karen

Karen is smart, reliable and a friend to everyone she meets. She loves to go above and beyond. If you have a question, you call Karen, and she always has the answer.

2. Barbara, AKA Barb

Barb can get a little sassy, especially if she's had a few glasses of wine. Barb loves to laugh and have a good time. Beware: she might steal your clothes from your closet.

3. Jennifer


Jennifer is the hot mom who doesn't look a day over 30. She was popular in high school, and she's still popular now. She's not a regular mom: she's a cool mom.

4. Pam

Pam has the best chocolate chip cookie recipe in town. She loves going to bake sales and antique stores, and she gives great hugs. Pam makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside. There's not a mean bone in her body.

5. Michelle

Michelle is a born caregiver. She loves taking care of others and is especially great at being a mom. All the best moms are named Michelle.

6. Carla

Carla love boat rides and beer. She has at least one shirt with an American flag on it.

7. Lisa

Lisa is so responsible, it's scary. You know Lisa was put on this earth to mother everyone she meets, even complete strangers.

8. Nicole

Nicole is hip and trendy, especially if she goes by Nikki. Nicole thinks she's pretty cool, and even though they might not want to admit it, her kids think so too.

9. Brenda

Brenda has a great smile. She radiates happiness everywhere she goes. If Brenda was a color, she'd be yellow.

10. Tammy

Tammy is a teenager trapped in an adult body. She loves to be tan and spend time outdoors. Everyone knows Tammy has an alter ego when she drinks, and she's usually hilarious.

11. Kathy/Katherine

Kathy/Katherine is the laid-back mom who would secretly fight anyone that hurt their baby. Don't cross a Kathy/Katherine.

12. Nancy

Nancy sometimes loses her temper and then immediately second-guesses her parenting. It's probably because she's working too hard and not drinking enough wine. Give your mom a break.

13. Mary


Mary is an angel that fell to Earth. There's no way anyone could have beef with Mary. Give Mary a hug, she deserves it.

14. Janet

Janet's goofy, but she's really good at hiding it. Once she relaxes, though, Janet has the best laugh. She's also got a heart of gold.

15. Stacy

Stacy's that mom who will come to all of your baseball games 20 minutes early with a picnic basket full of sandwiches for the whole team. She loves wearing her hair in a ponytail and lives in her Mom Jeans.

16. Susan

Susan has a pretty severe resting bitch face, but don't let it fool you. She knows how to get down. Susan's purse is covered in buttons — you know the kind: a headshot of a kid playing sports. She probably drives a minivan.

17. Amy/Aimee

Amy/Aimee never ages. She's fun to be around and has friends of all ages. Amy/Aimee works hard and is successful because of it. If anyone deserves happiness, it's Amy/Aimee.

18. Sherry

Sherry's great on the days you need a little pick-me-up. She might not be the best person to call in a crisis, but she sure knows how to make you smile.

19. Melissa

Melissa is beautiful. When you're with Melissa, it's easy to forget there's anyone else around. It must be hard having a mom who's hotter than you.

20. Stephanie

Stephanie is a pretty cool mom, especially on the weekends. She loves getting her hair done, her dog and drinking fruity frozen drinks with a little umbrella.

21. Cindy


Cindy's got an attitude. She might look sweet, but don't let her fool you. Don't bring your boyfriends or girlfriends to meet Cindy unless you're really serious about them, because she might scare them away.

22. Tiffany

No one knows how to break it down like Tiffany. She loves to dance. Wherever she goes, the party follows.

23. Carol

Carol is the strict mom who likes to give lectures at every opportunity. Don't be so hard on her though: she means well. Cut your mom some slack, kids.

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8 Things You Know To Be True When Your Best Friend Lives An Ocean Away

It may be hard for some to understand, but this friendship is actually one of the relationships you cherish the most.

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Friendships on any continent have their challenges, but just imagine what it's like when you're trying to navigate what it means to be friends with someone when you live oceans apart from each other! For many, long-distance friendships are impossible, but if you put in enough effort, you can make them work! And if you are in one of these relationships, you'll definitely agree that these eight things are true.

1.  You have to schedule FaceTime "dates" because you can't just walk down the hall to say hi.

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There's a delicate balance in managing your local friends and making the time to talk to your friends overseas. Sometimes people just don't understand why you choose to stay in your room on the phone instead of going to parties!

2. Weirdly, they know a LOT about your local friends.

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Now in conversations when you want to spill the tea about so-and-so who did this to someone else, your international friend already knows who they are and most likely has a nickname for them to help them remember who you're always talking about. It makes it easier to finish your story faster and helps you to feel closer to each other despite the distance!

3. You're constantly making plans.

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Since you realize the only way you'll ever get to see each other is if one of you takes a 9-hour plane ride, you plan every second of your time to show them your world, favorite restaurants, and quick bits of your culture before they have to go back!

4. You never waste time fighting!

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Your limited time on the phone with each other is never spent arguing over petty disagreements, it's spent really appreciating all that you have in common and laughing a lot.

5. Your other friends can't understand how you can be so close to someone you never see in person.

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In fact, for many of us, we hardly spend any time together. One of my best friends is a girl I've only seen about four times over the years, but nevertheless, we definitely have one of those lifelong connections!

6. You're always working with a slight language barrier.

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In almost every conversation you have, there are at least a few minutes fumbling around and trying to explain a word to each other that doesn't quite translate to other languages.

7. You ask them every day if they suddenly have plans to move across the world.

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You can't help but try to convince them to pack up everything they own and ship it all across the world just so you can hang out more than once every couple years!

8. You wouldn't change a thing about it!

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Having a friend from a different country not only gives you such a great understanding for their culture and an appreciation for global diversity, but you also see how lucky you are to have a friend like them, even with all the distance in between!

These friendships certainly come with their own challenges, but it is clear to you that you wouldn't have it any other way! Despite thousands of miles in between, you keep making future plans because one day you know you won't be long distance! And even if you are, you love them anyway!

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