Out of State Doesn't Mean Out of Touch

Out of State Doesn't Mean Out of Touch

Just because you go to different colleges doesn't mean you have to give up your friendship

People always say not to get too attached to your high school friends because they aren’t forever. Once you graduate, you go to college or just go separate ways and stop speaking to each other. While, yes, this does happen I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to. You can keep your friends from high school while still pursuing your future.

This is a sensitive topic for me as I do not make friends easily, so I tend to get attached and treasure the ones I have. The first couple years of high school were really rough for me for many reasons, so I didn’t really have any friends. This topped with being introverted and having extreme social anxiety made making new friends very difficult.

That all changed when I met my best friend my junior year. I had already known her in passing, but until then we weren’t really friends. We couldn’t be more opposite, but she helped me get out more and introduced me to my other two best friends. These three girls are the best friends anyone could ever ask for. Since our junior year, we have been inseparable.

Then graduation came, and we were all happy to be done with the drab that was high school. However, following the happiness came the tears. One of my friends and I were staying in Cape Coral to attend FGCU, while one moved to Gainesville to attend UF, and the other to North Carolina to attend Wake Forest. We were all going to be separated and it was an upsetting thought.

But we all made a promise to each other. We promised we would stay in touch no matter what. So, here we are, two years later, still the best of friends. We created a group chat to always stay in contact and we talk at least once a week most of the time.

I guess my point here is just because you move away, or they do, or they go to a college out of state, it doesn’t mean you have to lose contact. If you truly are best friends and you truly care about one another, something as small as distance won’t keep you from staying in touch.

With all the technology these days, society has made it easier than ever to keep in touch with people. Personally, my friends and I use GroupMe, but there are all sorts of other apps and programs out there you can use. There’s Kik, Snapchat, Facebook, etc. All these social media platforms make it to where you can contact someone at any point.

So, your best friend has broken her phone and got a new one with a new number and failed to share it with you. She goes to Duke while you are here at FGCU. What do you do? Just call it a quits and accept the loss? No. You go on her Snapchat and message her. You are able to get her number and stay in touch.

Despite being physically separated, my friends and I are inseparable. We are there for each other when needed and still provide the support the others need. When possible, we meet up and hang out like old times and it’s like nothing has changed. These girls are the sisters I always wanted, not that I don’t love my actual sisters, and I know I can always count on them. No amount of distance can break the bond we have formed as a group.

So, let me leave you with this statement: Just because they are out of state, doesn’t mean they are out of touch.

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Yes, I’m An Out-Of-State Student & Yes, I’m (Still) Close With My Family

Being apart from people you love doesn't mean you love them any less.

There is this preconceived notion that students who go hundreds of miles away for college do not have a close relationship with their family. I mean why else would you distance yourself from them so much?

As someone who traveled 350 miles away from home, I understand the struggles (and benefits) of leaving your home for school. The number one question I was asked when I decided to go to school in Kentucky and not Michigan is, “Won’t you miss your family?”

While I do miss my family, I have such a close relationship with them that the distance doesn’t change anything. Every time I go home it’s like I never left.

With today’s technology, it’s so easy to check-in with parents, siblings, and even grandparents while never leaving your room. Between sarcastic texts with my mom, liking my cousins Facebook posts, and face timing with my grandma, I never feel out of the loop.

Sure, I may not be able to go home every weekend, but when you have so many forms of communication it’s not as bad as it would seem.

There are days where it gets hard and all you want to do is cuddle up in your bed at home and have a heart to heart with your mom, but you can’t. Those are the days where it becomes important to lean on your friends, who are basically family, to help you get through it. There are also days where I crave a home-cooked meal rather than the amateur meals I cook for myself. Don’t get me wrong, I love the service dogs on campus that I can’t help but pet but all they do is remind me of my dogs back home.

With all of the things that I miss, it’s important to mention all of the things that I have gained while studying so far from home. I’ve learned to take care of myself physically, mentally and most importantly financially! While I’m still a full-time student, getting a job really helped me to feel independent and confident in myself as an adult.

Also, being far from my family has taught me to value my time that I do have with them. My vacations are filled with endless trips to visit different family members, and that is okay with me because I have to make the most out of my trips home.

Last, it has taught me that if I choose to move somewhere other than Kentucky and Michigan after graduation, I will be just fine. I don’t have to worry about where my future takes me because no matter where it is, I will make it work.

It’s important to push yourself out of your comfort zone, and for some (like me), going away to college is the best way to do that. I’ve created my own life for myself in Kentucky, but that doesn’t mean I will forget about my home in Michigan.

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The Importance And Impact Of A Call Verus A Text

Ring in the new year.

New year, new me. We say it every iteration of annual "reset", either publicly, plastered over social media for all the world to see, or under our breath, with some type of discreet, more subtle determination. As exuberant or stolid as our intentions may first be, resolutions too oft fade into goals we set aside for another week, another month, another year.

The previous year, 2017, was not an unkind one but did teach me more than I had bargained for upon the Autumn months' arrival. This knowledge, undesired yet greatly appreciated just the same, has provided for me a prospect for 2018, a hope surpassing expectation, drawing nearer to necessity.

See, change can be a good thing. The best change, as I have learned, however, comes from within.

I promise this article is not some yogi mumbo jumbo--not to say I am not a fan of such wordage--but instead a call to action... a call to... well, call. If you're like me, or pretty much anyone else with a smartphone, you're practically glued to a screen from the time you wake up until you play chicken with it, seeing if your eyes shut before its screen goes black.

Texting certainly has its advantages. I mean, there's poop emojis. How else am I going to disapprovingly provide non-verbal commentary on my friend's attempt at humor? Fecal matter with eyes aside, texting rose in popularity because of its convenience--and also for the lack of human interaction.

That being said, what I am about to say might blow your mind. I'll wait while you grab some napkins.



Close your messenger app. Click that little button with a picture of a phone on it--google older models of phones if no familiar image is present--and give someone a call. It may seem like a hassle; it may take up a bit more of your time than a text would, but I promise it will be worth it.

A simple phone call can brighten someone's day. Is it your father's birthday? Call him. Have a friend going through a rough breakup? Call her. Do you know your grandparent is sitting all alone watching the same Bonanza rerun they've seen at least thirteen times now? You get the picture.

It's personable, it's intimate, it's PhoneCall. Still working on the copyright for that.

Really, though. For me, this year is going to focus on communications and connections, reaching out to people in my life and letting them know how important they are to me. I want to be present, but when I can't, I want to be able to say I've put in plenty of effort into an interaction.

I used to hate calling and saying goodnight. I was lazy. That's the truth whether I like it or not. Sometimes it takes a wake-up in the form of a breakup to realize the importance that simple action holds. Sure, a text with a smiley face or a heart emoji is all well and good, but nothing compares to hearing the sincerity in a partner or family member's voice.

The other great thing about talking to someone on the phone is that you receive an answer to a question immediately. Texting? Not so much. People work or have busy lives that don't revolve around the device in their pocket. They might not have time enough to respond until later. Sometimes it takes a ringing phone to recognize how time-sensitive certain communications may be.

Maybe you're already the type of person to pick up the phone and dial instead of hammering away at those tiny, fingerprint-smeared keys. I know I'm not. But I could be. And so could you.

Whether it's making your life a little easier and knowing what your roommate wants on his pizza before you reach the counter or simply making someone's day, a phone call is a valuable thing and it's about time we returned to the year 2000 and remembered that.

Maybe you're at college, hundreds of miles away from your parents. Be like E.T. and phone home.

OK, I'm out of dad jokes. Cheers and have a great 2018!

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