Out of State Doesn't Mean Out of Touch

Out of State Doesn't Mean Out of Touch

Just because you go to different colleges doesn't mean you have to give up your friendship
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People always say not to get too attached to your high school friends because they aren’t forever. Once you graduate, you go to college or just go separate ways and stop speaking to each other. While, yes, this does happen I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to. You can keep your friends from high school while still pursuing your future.

This is a sensitive topic for me as I do not make friends easily, so I tend to get attached and treasure the ones I have. The first couple years of high school were really rough for me for many reasons, so I didn’t really have any friends. This topped with being introverted and having extreme social anxiety made making new friends very difficult.

That all changed when I met my best friend my junior year. I had already known her in passing, but until then we weren’t really friends. We couldn’t be more opposite, but she helped me get out more and introduced me to my other two best friends. These three girls are the best friends anyone could ever ask for. Since our junior year, we have been inseparable.

Then graduation came, and we were all happy to be done with the drab that was high school. However, following the happiness came the tears. One of my friends and I were staying in Cape Coral to attend FGCU, while one moved to Gainesville to attend UF, and the other to North Carolina to attend Wake Forest. We were all going to be separated and it was an upsetting thought.

But we all made a promise to each other. We promised we would stay in touch no matter what. So, here we are, two years later, still the best of friends. We created a group chat to always stay in contact and we talk at least once a week most of the time.

I guess my point here is just because you move away, or they do, or they go to a college out of state, it doesn’t mean you have to lose contact. If you truly are best friends and you truly care about one another, something as small as distance won’t keep you from staying in touch.

With all the technology these days, society has made it easier than ever to keep in touch with people. Personally, my friends and I use GroupMe, but there are all sorts of other apps and programs out there you can use. There’s Kik, Snapchat, Facebook, etc. All these social media platforms make it to where you can contact someone at any point.

So, your best friend has broken her phone and got a new one with a new number and failed to share it with you. She goes to Duke while you are here at FGCU. What do you do? Just call it a quits and accept the loss? No. You go on her Snapchat and message her. You are able to get her number and stay in touch.

Despite being physically separated, my friends and I are inseparable. We are there for each other when needed and still provide the support the others need. When possible, we meet up and hang out like old times and it’s like nothing has changed. These girls are the sisters I always wanted, not that I don’t love my actual sisters, and I know I can always count on them. No amount of distance can break the bond we have formed as a group.

So, let me leave you with this statement: Just because they are out of state, doesn’t mean they are out of touch.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Became My Sister

Love is thicker than blood.
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Sis,

There are friends. Then, there are best friends.

According to "Grey’s Anatomy’s" Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang, they're your person. The one who, “if I murdered someone, I’d call you to help me drag the corpse across the living room floor.” You’re so much more to me than any of those titles can express.

As I’ve matured throughout the years, I’ve come to the conclusion that good friends with good hearts serve an incredibly important purpose in our lives, going above and beyond what we give them credit and appreciation for.

The family we choose. You’re one of those.

The day we met, I knew that you were going to play an important role in my life. What I had no idea of was that you would join the cast of my life with a starring role.

First, I need to say thank you. Thank you for always coming to my locker to check in before class during high school. Thank you for letting me control the music on road trips. Thank you for sharing your family with me, and addressing my family as if you were born into it.

Thank you for patiently listening to the physical embodiment of a broken record when I complain about the same boy I’ve loved since senior year. Thank you for tagging along on every doctor’s appointment, grocery run, and trip to the post office, just because you know that I hate doing things alone.

Thank you for not thinking twice before dialing when I text you “please call me.” Thank you for never saying no to a coffee date. Thank you for never giving up on me. Thank you for being my better half.

We don't share the same genetic makeup, but after all the sleepovers, heart-to-heart conversations, shopping until our bank accounts cry, and swapping clothes so often that we don’t know what belongs to whom, how could I not consider you family? We have shared some my fondest memories together, and I wouldn’t want them to feature anyone but you.

You’ve been with me on my best days, and loved me on my worst. You know how to make me laugh when all I want to do is crawl into a hole and die.

Picturing sitting in my car with you in the passenger seat makes me long for summer, where we spend three months together doing all of our favorite things. You’ve seen me naked, done my makeup, and warned me before making a poor decision. Being away from you for extended periods of time makes me feel incomplete.

You are a piece of me that I am not quite whole without. You taught me that blood doesn’t make a family; love does.

You know me better than I know myself, which is both amazing and terrifying. You make me realize I’m enough for this world, and that means more to me than I know how to express in the limited words that make up the English language.

You remind me that I am more than my mistakes, and you keep me grounded when I spiral out of control. You’ve helped me carry my burdens along with your own, even when the universe comes down on you full force, way harder than you deserve.

You’re the one I come to for the truth if I think my new dress makes me look fat, and I know you’ll be honest. I trust you with my whole heart. You know the gory details about every boy I’ve ever crushed on, every professor who was an absolute jerk, and every fight I’ve had with my mom.

I wouldn’t make it in this life without someone who already understands and listens to every thought going through my head and each thing I seriously over think, even when you know, though you don’t say, it won’t matter in a week.

With all these affectionate things being said, don’t forget our fights. The few we’ve had were very real. We still don’t see eye to eye on some events of the past, but I never told my mom about it because there was no need to make her choose a side between me and her “second daughter.

We have learned to move forward, because the love we have for each other overwhelmingly outweighs any disagreement we’ve had, and always will.

Through all the tears and laughs, I don’t think that anything the world has to offer could seriously come between us. You go to a different school than me now, and college has rudely gotten in the way of our routine of spending every waking moment together.

Since we met, we’ve grown separately without growing apart. Neither of us are the same person we used to be all those years ago. Even so, we’ve pushed each other to our limits and you’ve given me the courage to keep going and do things that make me happy.

We lean on each other when it’s been a bad day and all we want to do is to snuggle and indulge in whichever show the other is currently watching unceasingly and unabashedly for comfort (it’s the little things). Having you as my co-pilot on this crazy ride called life has been frustrating, exciting, slightly concerning, absolutely insane, and something I don’t know how I would live without, and I don’t intend to find out.

I’ll conclude this letter with a quote from every basic, white girl’s favorite musical, “I don’t know if I’ve been changed for the better, but because I knew you, I have been changed for good.”

Love you forever,

Your sis

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My Best Friend May Live On The Other Side Of The World, But Nothing Can Separate Us

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Dear Hannah,

Sometimes when I don't feel like paying attention in class or when I'm trying to go to sleep at night, I dream about the day when one of us gets off the plane after flying for ten hours just to finally hug each other tightly. I've known you for two years now. Two years may not seem like a long time, but when it comes to not seeing your best friend, it seems as if a lifetime has gone by.

Sometimes it feels like it won't ever happen. We're both in college, are working basic jobs that are only good enough to help us buy those Fila shoes we've always wanted or to pay for gas for our cars, and are merely busy in every aspect with our own separate priorities we have in different countries.

But, I know we want this to happen so much that we'll make it happen, and when that day comes, it'll be so worth the wait.

It'll let us finally drive around each other's neighborhoods and blast our favorite music (preferably Lorde, Tyler the Creator and Rex Orange County… all compromised on our playlist that we share), take each other to our favorite restaurants, stores, parks, and most importantly, be utterly stupid together and make each other laugh until we're crying.

Most importantly, it'll let us finally be each other's presence rather than through a phone screen.

You've been there for probably most of my most exciting moments. You never failed to cheer me on and make me feel like I can actually do anything I set my mind to.

I'll never forget when we FaceTimed each other for the very first time. It was so natural. If anyone were watching me talk to you from afar, it would appear as if I'd known you my whole life. I'll never forget when you finally met our favorite artist at her concert and telling me all about it. I'll never forget when you sent me a bouquet of my favorite roses for my eighteenth birthday and the beautiful letter that came along with it. I'll never forget telling you that I got accepted to my dream college. I'll never forget when I first asked my mom about possibly visiting you, the "maybe" reply I got from her, and the excitement in both of our voices when I called you to tell you about it.

You're my absolute best friend, the friend I've been searching for my whole life, and the sister I never had.

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