I Was The Other Woman

I Was The Other Woman

And it f*cking sucked.

I Was The Other Woman
Women's Health

My next couple of articles will be revolved around various things I've gone through while dating someone.

As you could tell by the title of my article, I was the other woman. Finding out that you're the other woman sucks, I'll tell you that.

During my freshman year of college, I was dating this guy I met online. He was a very "interesting" character. Before we became boyfriend and girlfriend, he admitted to me that he was engaged before. Him and his ex-fiancée ended on bad terms. He reassured me that everything was fine and that it was going to be just me and him.

However, after a couple of weeks of us being together, he had to go back to school in Boston. We would FaceTime every day and I realized he would always have a girl at his dorm. I mean, I've a very jealous person so I would get mad seeing her on his bed. I would ask him multiple times who she was and he acted as if there was no one there but I would see her in the corner. After asking, he finally told me that it was his ex-fiancée. I didn't understand why she was hanging around him because he said that they ended on bad terms. However, he was telling me how he needed a tutor in a subject and reassured me nothing was going on.

Oh no, honey. Hearing that, I put on my detective skills to make sure he was telling the truth. So I found her on Facebook and man, people should really put their profiles on private. I learned a lot about this girl. As if that isn't creepy to say but I found out what I needed to know. My gut was right, I was the other woman. It was my first time going through this type of thing so of course I was absolutely disgusted. How could someone do that to me? I ended up breaking up with him. I guess in spite to just ruin me, he confessed he was still engaged. Like no kidding, I knew this entire time.

I thought after that, I would never again run into that kind of situation. Not the case. Literally at the beginning of the summer, after my break up with my boyfriend, I started to go back into the dating scene. I met a guy off Tinder and he just talked about how him and his girlfriend just recently ended too. He was saying how much of a crazy bitch she was. A couple of weeks later, I get a text at like five in the morning from a number that I didn't recognize. It started off like "Hey, we don't know each other but you know my boyfriend." Do you know how awkward and embarrassed I felt? I wasn't sure if I should respond or not. However, I knew it in my gut that I had to respond to her so I did. We were exchanging texts and I found out that her boyfriend lied about the whole crazy girlfriend thing and that they really didn't break up. I felt horrible and didn't want to be the homewrecker. However, she went into how I wasn't the only girl her boyfriend was talking to. It was crazy because I thought she would hate my guts but we actually became friends from this. We follow each other on instagram and occasionally text about stuff.

Being the other woman sucks a lot. You feel pretty crappy and just a lot of negative emotions. However, you learn from it. You learn to be on your guard, which can be either good or bad. You kind of have trust issues but you have every right to. It can also bring new friendships from it.

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