To The Boys Who Come Into Our Lives When It's Convenient For Them
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To The Boys Who Come Into Our Lives When It's Convenient For Them

Listen up boys, we're onto you.

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Being your average teenage girl away at college, I've always sought the comfort of being home. Whether that's described by a place, object, or person, anything that reminds me of "home" gives me a great form of happiness and relief.

However, that seemed to have got me in a lot of trouble this year. At the beginning of last semester, I got mixed up in some drama with a boy from home. At first, it seemed like one of those things where it's been there all along but I was just too dumb to notice. That being said, to be quite honest I don't know if I even liked him at the time or the sole attention of something familiar caught my eye.

I know he knew this about me. I know he knew that I would fall into the trap of becoming consumed with the new found liking I had for him. He knew that putting in little effort to keep me on my toes was enough to drive me insane. He told me he didn't want to do long distance and quite frankly, neither did I.

But I now realize that he and I had very different expectations for as to what our relationship meant going forward.

Once we decided that long distance wasn't going to work, I noticed he started to slowly leave my life. Now I want you all to know, he and I were friends before anything else. So keep in mind, this was not one of those situations where, once the Snapchat streak ends, they become a stranger, we are friends, there is no such thing as strangers among friends. However, the things he began to do, the things that apparently most guys do, are some things that are frustrating as hell and need to be addressed.

To every guy who stays in a girl's life for the sole reason of maintaining dominance PLEASE stop.

I'm sure if you're a guy reading this, you're like "that's not me" but most likely it probably is. Guys do this thing where they put in enough time to keep you guessing but not enough to give you a clear explanation of what it is that they want. The once a day snaps feel like it's an assertion of dominance to remind you that they're still there but don't actually want to talk to you.

It is ridiculous for you to leave me on open all day but try to claim you want to try to "make it work in the summer." While I may seem like I'm demanding a lot, I really don't think I am. I'm not expecting a daily call or Facetime, but if you want to keep updated on my life or ask me how my day was, I promise you, I'm not going to be offended. I think all girls want is to be appreciated by the guy that claims he's into her.

How after do you hear about guys texting the ladies with, "you up?" texts at 1:47 p.m. when. we are sleeping! We're not falling for it any more dudes.

Where the heck are the guys who genuinely care? I shouldn't have to tell myself that I need a "social media detox" just because I'm so worked up that you left me on open. This one is not on me. It's on you.

That being said, going forward, I am going to choose to spend my time elsewhere until I am being appreciated 100% of the time, not when you're drunk or horny or most likely both. I don't see a purpose in continuing to talk if this relationship is more complicated than most real couples.

To girls out there who are going through the same thing, I am sorry but he is not worth your time. I'm sick of complaining and over thinking every little detail when the only time he thinks about me is when he needs to get off. Don't let yourself be that person either.

You're better than him.

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