An Open Letter To Those With Anxiety

An Open Letter To Those With Anxiety

Anxiety does not own you, remember that.

To Those It May Concern,

There may be someone in your life whether a family member, a close friend or yourself who has struggled with anxiety. Having any form of anxiety is such a hardship in life, and I want you to know that you are not alone. You may get anxiety from large crowds, school, familial issues or relationships in general, but being someone who has anxiety attacks from everything listed above, I want you to know that you will triumph and reach a steady point in life.

Many of you may know how terrible the experience of an anxiety attack is and are always nervous another one may arise, but for those of you who have not experienced one yet, you are lucky. Please before you go through it, help yourself figure out coping strategies to get yourself out. The daily struggle of having social anxiety is an immense obstacle that I do not wish anyone will have to encounter. For those of you who have, and face this everyday, good for you. You are an inspiration for those who hide in the shadows of others and are not yet ready to face their fear. For those of you who are not ready to face their fears, that is OK because you deserve to find peace at your own pace.

I want anyone who is reading this to understand something. You do not need to validate yourself to others when you are in a struggling state. What happens within yourself is between you and you only. When others tell you to, "Get over it," or, "You'll be fine," remember that only you know how you will feel. If you are in fact uncomfortable, then you can do something about it. Also, I want you all to remember there are many different things you can do to help yourself get through these tough times. Something I tend to do is take a walk or a break when I'm with a group of people because I start feeling anxious. You can always take a break. If you are feeling up to it, then talk to someone about how you are feeling in that moment. And always remember to breathe.

You are not alone during these times of hardships and remember there are other people who face the same problems as you. Anxiety is not something that owns you, it just wants your attention. You are beautiful and you will get through this.


A Very Anxious Girl

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10 Struggles Girls Taller Than 5'7" Feel On A Spiritual Level

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

Any girl who is at least 5'8" will understand these struggles and possibly identify with them on a spiritual level.

1. Dresses not being long enough

Finding dresses for any occasion that will be long enough is like searching for rain in a drought. And when you find one, it's bound to either cost $$$ or not fit another aspect of your body.

2. Heck, pants are never long enough either

You are constantly flooding, or else you rolled up your jeans to look like capris. Unless you special ordered some jeans online in the coveted size LONG or EXTRA LONG, this will forever be your fate.

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

This is a personal preference people! Don't assume that a girl will or will not date someone just based on their height difference! Also, don't judge if they aren't interested in someone who is shorter than them!

4. Not wearing heels because you don't enjoy being the skyscraper of the friend group

Wearing heels can be fun buuuuuuuut sometimes towering over everyone else is not our idea of fun.

5. It's hard to find cute shoes that actually fit

You would love to have all those cute little shoes in the clearance section, but most of them barely cover your big toe.

6. Everyone thinks you walk too fast

Short-legged people just can't keep up with you, even though you aren't even walking fast. Like at all.

7. People want to jump on your back

Just because you're tall doesn't give them the license to make you into their personal camel.

8. Never being able to cross your legs underneath desks and tables

You. Can. Not. Get. Comfortable.

9. Awkward hugs

Some people will never understand.

10. Never knowing how to pose in pictures

Should you sorority squat? Pop the hip? Bend the leg? Contort your body to feel like a normal sized human? So hard to decide.

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Doing Nothing Helped Me Realize I Am Complete

It's easy to get so busy doing everything to satisfy or fix ourselves, but what if we don't need to fix ourselves?


The last few weeks have been crazy traveling for a family vacation in Virginia then immediately after, flying to New Hampshire for my graduation. In that time, however, I had some much-needed relaxation.

With nothing to do in Virginia, but eat, rest, and enjoy the hot tub, my husband and I found ourselves passing the time by lying on our backs and watching the clouds float by, or the sky grow dark at dusk. Have you ever done that? Watch the sky get dark? I know I haven't done it much in my life, but it was amazing. Often, we are so distracted by social media, technology, and the busyness of life that we don't notice the miracles of the world moving and changing and all the life happening around us.

These moments made us realize how busy and selfish we often are, so busy trying to improve ourselves through work or dieting or spirituality or any variety of things. So many things that we do, if you look closely enough, we aren't doing them for simple enjoyment, but to get something, to get a sense of fulfillment out of them because we feel empty inside. We become desperate to fill this perceived emptiness in any way we can.

Watching the clouds, we felt nothing but peace and satisfaction that we had never found in our desperate attempts to improve, fix, or save ourselves. What we felt was completion at having done nothing. It can be hard to believe that we could be complete without having to do anything to attain it, but it's true. The whole mindset of trying to fix or satisfy ourselves just enforces the idea that we lack something, that we aren't good enough or complete or amazing right now.

What if we were to just give up trying to fix ourselves? Well, that's what my husband and I did for a week. We rested, knowing that we are complete as we are right now. For us, that was a huge realization. We grew up as very religious Christians doing everything we could to be faithful and perfect, so we could be close to God and loved. But what if we are loved and as close to the divine as we could ever be right now?

It changes everything, no more trying to fix or save ourselves, no more self-hate, no more judging ourselves, and so no more judging others. All that's left is love. In not constantly trying to save ourselves suddenly, we found we were free to love one another and notice the world around us more. When we try to save ourselves, it's easy to become blind to those around us.

This is why I love nature. It always brings us back to perspective, taking our eyes off our problems onto the beauty that's everywhere around us. And we are a part of it, this beautiful world, and we are whole and complete through and through lacking nothing. So, lie down for a moment and rest as you watch the clouds float by and the wind blow through the leaves, and the sun and stars travel across the sky, knowing that you are whole and complete, lacking nothing.

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