To The Girl Who THOUGHT She Had It All Together

To The Girl Who THOUGHT She Had It All Together

"Why is it that every time life gets good, it all comes crashing down almost instantly"?

You had this EPIC plan. Everything was figured out, you were pursuing your major, you were in the perfect relationship, you had the coolest new friends. And just when life seemed to reach the peak of greatness, it all came crashing down.

First of all, you are not alone.

I think anyone who is reading this can agree that at some point or another, we had this perfect plan, and everything in our life was working towards it. Isn't it convenient that every time things start to go our way, things seem to come crashing down and end up worse than they were even before things started to shape up? So much so that when things start to get good again, we just wonder when things are going to start falling apart again? Well, as easy as it is to say but hard as it is to believe, these things all happen for a reason.

I can see you rolling your eyes at that comment. "It all happens for a reason", I've heard that a million times and it just doesn't make anything better.

Oh, but it does. Here's the thing, have you ever heard the saying "Good things fall apart so great things can fall into place?" Yeah I know, another cliche saying, but its so true! I don't know about you but I tend to conjure up these grand plans in my mind for the way my life is supposed to turn out. I plan every little detail out and then work to have my life actually turn out like those plans but I never fail to be disappointed, and here is why.

Your life isn't meant to be planned out according to your plan. It's supposed to turn out the way that God planned it. The way that He planned it all out before you were even born. Just let that soak in for a minute, He had it all planned out for you before you even took your first breath, that's pretty cool if you ask me. So yes, your life plans may appear to be crumbling before you, but it is only the beginning of God plans starting to fall into place. God's plans are far better than any that we could come up with because He knows the outcome of every situation before you even know it's coming.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6"

You may be able to may your own plans and have them temporarily work out, but God's plan is far superior and is much more consistent. Not only that, but the Lord's plan will guide you to your purpose in life. So many of us struggle with knowing what our purpose is for being here, but if we just trust in the path God makes for us, He is going to lead is to our greatest purpose.

"Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand". Proverbs 19:21

So next time things appear to be crashing down before your eyes, instead of panicking, take a step back and decide to trust in the path God laid out for you and take it step by step with Him.

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Old vs. New: Which God Is For you?

Trick question, you can't choose a God.

A popular misconception today's society has with Christianity, is that its god is an overzealous, overbearing, strict, unforgiving, and homophobic god. Perhaps he is. No one will know, but religion in general is a lifestyle. It connects people, gathers them in a common cause and in the common desire to do good and be good. Religion essentially is a lifestyle, a guideline on how people channel their restless energy/spirituality. In no way is this article meant to convert a reader or to elevate Christianity over another religion. This article is meant to enlighten others on Christianity, and to help its members struggling to come to terms with its God. However, in order to talk about God, one must first talk about love. Because God in Christianity and in practice is love.

Love in the Old Testament is portrayed as a relationship between God and his people. God, who is depicted as an ever-powerful and ever-loving being; quick to reprimand and punish, but still able to forgive. God’s love for his people goes beyond the bounds of agape love, charity, and normal hesed. His love is based on divine hesed which exceeds plain hesed as it focuses on prolonging the relationship and not just giving and loving the other on a current needs basis. Our hesed is determined on a circumstantial basis: how much a person needs, and if we are the only person able to provide the solution to their needs. However, as Christians, we are charged to go beyond that. Leviticus 19:34 highlights the idea that we must extend our realm of hesed and help strangers. For to be charitable and loving towards others, we must give hesed, which is consideration and love for our neighbor, as well as reverence for God.

On the other hand, love in the New Testament shifts its focus onto expanding the definition of neighbor, and thus, on to a kinder God. As stated, this was probably due to the audience both Synoptic writers and on were addressing: non-Jewish public. Love, in the New Testament, is put to the test - and God, in turn, is altered for the eyes of the Gentiles. His role from a reprimanding deity turns into a gentle parent, as He charges his new disciples of this time to spread his word. Through Jesus and his disciples, God beseeches the Jews, his chosen people, to spread the word, to show that the sun rises on both “the good and the bad alike…” (Matthew 5:45). Love is undiscriminating, and should be given out freely, and not to those just in need; it is an act of reconciliation because it is an act of giving yourself over to the other person in need. God loves all and will always remain unbiased in his charity, so therefore, we must strive to emulate the very same unprejudiced forgiveness and love he gave us.

Hesed is not just an action, but a reciprocation of our compact with God; to channel our charity into hesed love for others, we must act with the Decalogue in my mind. Only by heeding the Commandments are we able provide a pure kind of hesed that God implores us to offer to our neighbors - which is everyone. Combined, the Old and New Testament preaches to us to give our love without biases, and without hesitation. We are to treat others as a reflection of God, and as an extension of ourselves. By offering our help regardless of the situation or person, we can come a bit closer to emulating that kind of selfless love. By keeping the other individual’s needs in mind before ours, we can hope to reciprocate our compact with God. Matthew said that God made the sun rise for both the good and the bad alike, and so, we must learn to love without prejudice as love is our only was at redemption and reconciliation with others. Doing harm to others would just prove fruitless either way, as God, gives the final judgement - not us; we harm our reputation more so than others by refusing to love them. By reaching out to others even with the smallest acts of kindness and charity, we make a little bit of this love more present in the world.

So if you are Christian, you can't choose a God. You have to come to terms with the fact that God has been both strict, punishing, and kind and forgiving. Because that is what exactly love is. Punishing and forgiving. Kind and strict; ever-evolving.

God adapts. God forgives. God will accept. God learns.

Our people, the public, are different from the people of both the Old and New Testament. Today's people don't need to be appealed to, they don't need a strong figure with power to find haven under, they need an ear, a shoulder, a friend, and love.

They need someone who embodies the sanctuary and love that God had given His people in both Old and New Testament.

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Instead Of Giving Something Up For Lent, Give Your Time And Make A Difference

Take some time this season to serve others.

The season of Lent this year started on Valentine's Day, the start of it is usually called Ash Wednesday. I know when we often had confirmation on Wednesday, it was put off for awhile so then we could attend lent services, I remember having to attend at least three services in order to get confirmed, because I know when I was in confirmation

I know a few of my friends were giving up things for Lent. Some of them were giving up Facebook (only to come back a few hours later), they have given up chocolate, and they have given up a certain TV show as well.

Well, I am doing something a little different this year. I found this post on Facebook and it gave me a good idea. For the 40 days of Lent, get rid of one thing in your closet that you no longer need or want, throw it in a garbage bag and at the end of those forty days give it to someone who needs it the most.

Sometimes we forget about what we have because we often think about what we don't have. People have become pretty greedy, and sometimes people don't see the bigger picture. Sometimes people don't realize how good they have it.

Even if you aren't religious you can still give back to those who need it the most, I don't go to church as much as I used to but I have other ways of serving God by serving those in need.

I volunteer at Feed My Starving Children, I have donated to numerous charities, I am planning to volunteer at Ronald McDonald House, I have done drives for the homeless and the people in Puerto Rico.

I want to encourage all of you, religious or not, to take some time this season to serve others. There are a lot of people that don't have it the best and it's up to us to help them out.

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