To The Girl Who THOUGHT She Had It All Together

To The Girl Who THOUGHT She Had It All Together

"Why is it that every time life gets good, it all comes crashing down almost instantly"?

You had this EPIC plan. Everything was figured out, you were pursuing your major, you were in the perfect relationship, you had the coolest new friends. And just when life seemed to reach the peak of greatness, it all came crashing down.

First of all, you are not alone.

I think anyone who is reading this can agree that at some point or another, we had this perfect plan, and everything in our life was working towards it. Isn't it convenient that every time things start to go our way, things seem to come crashing down and end up worse than they were even before things started to shape up? So much so that when things start to get good again, we just wonder when things are going to start falling apart again? Well, as easy as it is to say but hard as it is to believe, these things all happen for a reason.

I can see you rolling your eyes at that comment. "It all happens for a reason", I've heard that a million times and it just doesn't make anything better.

Oh, but it does. Here's the thing, have you ever heard the saying "Good things fall apart so great things can fall into place?" Yeah I know, another cliche saying, but its so true! I don't know about you but I tend to conjure up these grand plans in my mind for the way my life is supposed to turn out. I plan every little detail out and then work to have my life actually turn out like those plans but I never fail to be disappointed, and here is why.

Your life isn't meant to be planned out according to your plan. It's supposed to turn out the way that God planned it. The way that He planned it all out before you were even born. Just let that soak in for a minute, He had it all planned out for you before you even took your first breath, that's pretty cool if you ask me. So yes, your life plans may appear to be crumbling before you, but it is only the beginning of God plans starting to fall into place. God's plans are far better than any that we could come up with because He knows the outcome of every situation before you even know it's coming.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6"

You may be able to may your own plans and have them temporarily work out, but God's plan is far superior and is much more consistent. Not only that, but the Lord's plan will guide you to your purpose in life. So many of us struggle with knowing what our purpose is for being here, but if we just trust in the path God makes for us, He is going to lead is to our greatest purpose.

"Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand". Proverbs 19:21

So next time things appear to be crashing down before your eyes, instead of panicking, take a step back and decide to trust in the path God laid out for you and take it step by step with Him.

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12 Bible Verses For Faith In Hard Times

Remind yourself that God is always with you.

Lately, I have felt lost at what God wants for my life. Ever since I've come back to UWG everything has been horrible. It seems that I can't catch a break. I'm trying my best to focus on school, work, and extracurricular activities. But it's hard when I'm having issues with my apartment/roommates and knowing my family back home is struggling and needs many prayers. All, I keep thinking is maybe Carrollton isn't where I belong anymore. I've asked God if He can guide me in the right direction. Below, I have found Bible verses that have helped get me through these rough, past couple of weeks.

1. Isaiah 43:2

"When you go through deep waters, I will be with you."

2. Psalm 37:5

"Commit your way to the Lord. Trust in Him, and He will act."

3. Romans 8:18

"The pain that you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming."

4. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed in strength, and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future."

5. Joshua 1:9

"Be bold. Be brave. Be courageous."

6. Ecclesiastes 3:1

"There is a time for everything and a reason for every activity under the heavens."

7. Isaiah 41:10

"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand."

8. Isaiah 66:9

"I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born, says the Lord."

9. Psalm 91:4

"He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings, you will find refuge; His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart."

10. Psalm 62:1-2

"My soul finds rest in God alone, my salvation comes from Him, He alone is my rock and my salvation."

11. Philippians 4:13

"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength."

12. Jeremiah 29:11

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

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By Using God To Justify Hate, Christians Are Giving Christianity A Bad Name

I've seen people ask why young adults are straying away from Christianity, and in my opinion, it has to do with the lack of acceptance in the church.


I grew up in Alabama, so it's no surprise that I grew up in church. I was saved, or baptized, at a young age. I grew up going to church camp, going on mission trips and participating in church activities, such as Thanksgiving lunches and Christmas plays.

As I grew up, I became interested in politics. I began watching public officials, most of whom claim they are Christians, build their platforms by turning down the rights of those in the LGBTQ community, helping the rich get richer, saying Christianity is the only correct religion and wanting to take away healthcare from those who cannot afford it.

The more I noticed these public officials saying things like this, the more I noticed that people who went to church agreed with them. This upset me.

What I was taught about Christianity was that God accepts everyone — no matter their race, gender, sexual orientation, social status or economic status. He accepts all.

What I was hearing from churchgoers and those who claimed to be Christians was the exact opposite.

I faced an internal conflict, deciding whether or not I wanted to go to church anymore, much less be a Christian. I didn't want to be labeled as someone who does not accept people for who they are. That's not the person I am.

I didn't want people to think that, if they're in the LGBTQ community, I thought they were going to Hell. I didn't want people to think that, if someone was poor, I thought they did something in life to cause that. I didn't want those of other faiths to think their religion was not valid. I didn't want people who were physically or mentally sick to think I didn't want them to receive help.

So for the past few years, whenever someone asked me if I believed in God, I told them yes, but that I didn't believe in organized religion.

It may come as a shock to some Southerners when I say you don't have to actively be in a church to believe in God. My dad always taught me that you have to sometimes separate God from church. I never fully understood what that meant until I was in that situation.

According to, 66 percent of college graduates surveyed consider themselves Christians, and 25 percent said they do not have a religious affiliation.

I've seen people ask why young adults are straying away from Christianity, and in my opinion, it has to do with the lack of acceptance in the church.

I am a firm believer in the separation of church and state. I believe that in church, you can be taught to love someone no matter who they are and what their situation is. I believe that you can hold your own political morals.

What I don't believe in is using God's name to justify hate toward a certain group of people. And that, in my opinion, is what is giving Christianity a bad name.

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