An Open Letter To The College Kid Approaching Finals

An Open Letter To The College Kid Approaching Finals

It's hard to be Christmas-ie and a student at the same time.
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Hey there! Happy finals season.

There's some good news and there's some bad news. The good news: We are almost done! I can count on one hand how many weeks we have left before Christmas break begins. The bad news? The bad news is we still have an unhealthy amount of deadlines to beat before we can drink our hot chocolate and go home.

If you're like me, you lost your motivation around fall break. But you've been trudging through the rest of the semester with a lot of caffeine and limited tears. We've almost made it. And to everyone else, it sounds like we have a week and a half week left so we should be doing a lot of decorating and packing, but the truth is, we aren't done yet. This might just be the most stressful weeks yet.

This time a year there's so much pressure coming from everywhere. Your family wants to know everything about your semester, including whether there will be a boy waiting for you when you get back in January. Finals are SO close that you can't help, but feel them looming, yet you can't focus on them quite yet because there are still three group projects to present and a paper to write before classes end. And somewhere in there, you need to find the time to attend and shop for at least four Christmas parties.

Trust me, I know that right now it feels like you are made up of grades, study guides, and half-way true stories to tell your relatives this Christmas. This time of year is the most cheerful and the most stressful. It's hard to find time to wear Christmas socks and look at Christmas lights when you've got five finals to study for and two classes to pray about because you're not sure you can rebound from a couple bad quiz grades.

With all of this said, I'm here to remind you that you are so much more than these next couple of weeks. You are not your grades, your finals, or group projects. You are not your 8 a.m. or the paper due on Sunday that you haven't started yet. You are not your degree.

You are a human who wants to change the world. You are somebody who is studying to teach, save lives, keep people out of jail, or start businesses. You are the compliment you gave to the random girl in your psychology lecture. You are the laugh you share with your best friend over coffee.

You are the texts you send your mother on the days that life is rough. You are a sister, brother, warrior of Chirst, fighter, inspiration, and friend. You are not the rest of this semester or any other semester for a matter of fact. You are you. And no matter the percentage you walk out with on finals week, that is enough.

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It's About Time We Stop Treating Stay-At-Home Moms As Slaves To The Patriarchy

With all this talk of empowering women, it's about time we get rid of the stigma that surrounds moms choosing to stay at home with their kids.
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This is in response to an article written on Forbes based on research published by Pew Research Center, but my frustration is borne out of a long-standing cultural issue. The study stated an increase in stay-at-home moms in the Millennial generation. My problem was not with the data but rather with the way in which it was presented in the Forbes article.

Underlying the whole article seems to be this assumption that there's no way Millennial women could possibly be choosing to just be a stay-at-home mom. There must be some other outlet for them, another employment or career outside of motherhood.

The article discusses the moms who are choosing to work outside of the home while balancing being a stay-at-home mom, which is great! However, they do so in a way that demeans those who would rather choose to stay at home completely.

One sentence, discussing the SAHM's who work as well, reads, "Women are mothers in the home, but in a way that the patriarchy never dared dream."

But wait. Remind me, when did being a stay-at-home mom become equivalent to bowing before the overpowering male patriarchy?

These women are shaping the next generation of leaders, writers, employees, teachers and parents. Why are we stuck on labeling them as slaves to the patriarchy for working a full-time job of incalculable value and worth?

Another line discussing moms working online and staying home says, "Technology's evolution allows modern women the empowerment of joining tradition with innovation."

We talk about empowering women all the time, in everything they do. So why don't we allow women the empowerment, not only "of joining tradition with innovation," but of choosing tradition over innovation if that's what they want?

With all this talk of empowering women, it's about time we get rid of the stigma that surrounds moms choosing to stay at home with their kids. I can't understand what is "not enough" about a job that takes up your physical, mental and emotional stamina 24/7 all year long.

Being a mom is hard, stay-at-home or not. It's hard enough without the cultural commentary of stay-at-home moms being weak vessels propagating the cursed patriarchy, not living up to their full potential and never being enough.

There. That's been on my chest for a while.

And to my (stay-at-home) Mom, your work has been of more worth to me than I think you'll ever know. I hope you never believe a word of the lies society throws at you. You have been and always will be more than enough for me.

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Learn How to Stick to a Budget When You Are in College

Few tips and tricks that you can use to ensure that you do not waste any of your money when you are in college
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College can be very expensive. Many college students are barely able to stay afloat and many end up having to borrow money from friends and family when they run out. If you are in college, there are things that you can do to make the most of your money and still live a comfortable life. The following guide provides you with a few tips and tricks that you can use to ensure that you do not waste any of your money when you are in college.

Save Money on Your Prescriptions

If you have prescription medications that you need to take on a daily basis, getting them filled for as little as possible is important. There is a Walmart $4 prescription list that is filled with common prescriptions that people need for only $4 per prescription. This can help to save you a ton of money each month depending on the prescriptions you need to have filled.

Save Money on Food

Food can also be quite costly when you are in college. Use coupons and shop sales as often as you can. Another great way to save money is to look for meal deals at local restaurants for college students. Restaurants that are located near campuses typically have great deals throughout the week for college students. You can sometimes eat for less than it would cost you to cook the meals yourself if you catch the right meal deal.

Save Money on Your Books

Books that are used in college are often quite pricey. It is important to shop around to get the best price that you can on your books. Another great tip is to buy the books second hand. Once people are done with a class, they will typically sell the books from that class for a fraction of what they cost when they were brand new. You can often find used books in a used bookstore, online, or from friends in college.

Save Money on Clothes

When you are in college, shopping at high-end fashion stores can be very difficult to do. Instead, consider shopping at thrift stores located in a very good area of town. These are the places that people who wear high-end fashions often donate their clothing too. You can then buy the fashions for a lot less than they are in the stores.

Save Money by Not Spending Frivolously

When you are in college it can be tempting to go out with your friends on a regular basis. This is not a good idea when you have to live on a budget. Take the time to consider what your costs are each month and then plan on going out with friends once or twice a month. This will allow you to still be able to have plenty of fun but help you not to go over your budget and struggle the rest of the month.

It’s important to realize that budgeting while you are in college is essential. You don’t want to constantly be borrowing money or asking your family to send money to you because it will show how irresponsible you are being with your money. It’s best to get a part-time job to help make ends meet so that you can still focus on college and have money to enjoy the things that you want to enjoy. Most part-time jobs are willing to college students because they know that they need the money and are willing to work hard to earn it.

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