An Open Letter to the Girls Yearning for Long Hair

An Open Letter to the Girls Yearning for Long Hair

Or just REALLY need help for their fried locks

Dear girl who also wants beautiful & long locks,

It sucks. I know. I grew up with long, beautiful brown hair that makes me so sad to look back at. I wish I just let it grow long and kept it healthy, but instead I fell into the trap of bleach and synthetic dyes. I wanted to try pink streaks, blue streaks, etc. Since you're reading this, I'm assuming you did too.

"I love it!" I said, and so did you when the hair dresser bleached some highlights into your hair, or "it looks pretty good to me!" we both said after using the box dye from CVS or Walgreens. Between me and you, that was the begginning of the end for our hair. So you dyed and bleached it just like I did? Now you wish you didn't, feeling extremely jealous of every girl with hair down to her waist. Trust me, I do too. Do you also read endless articles and watch long videos on how to grow your hair long in a week? You've also seen the ones about vitamins, coconut oils and hair trims? Well I have, and I've not only read about them, but also tried most of these tips over the past two years. My hair was absolutely FRIED from bleaching it every few weeks, and I'm here to tell you the tips that helped me bring it back to normal.

First off, know that you do NOT need to dye your hair to look pretty! You're natural hair color is gorgeous and you were born with it for a reason. Getting your hair back to normal is going to be difficult, yet it is possible. It's a process and you really should not be getting a haircut more then once every three months, but if you're ready to take on this process then you have to get a good trim. Go to the hairdresser and ask him/her to cut off all the dead ends. It sounds scary and it may be a few inches, but this one cut will help you SO much in terms of growing out your hair.

Oils. Oils. Oils. Literally any oils. Coconut, argan, macadamian, almond, avacado, jojoba, olive, or any other types of oils will do WONDERS for your hair. Put it on your whole head and massage into your scalp for a few minutes. Blowdrying your hair (using a low heat setting) for a few minutes will also open up the pores on the hair shaft to absorb more oil. Then, place a towel on your pillow and sleep with the oil in your hair. In the morning make sure to rinse out the oil with shampoo. If you must, shampoo twice but also make sure you ALWAYS condition. Repeat this once a week.

STOP BRUSHING. USE A WIDE-TOOTHED COMB. Brushing gives you an array of split ends and breaks your hair, especially since it is so fragile when wet after a shower. Instead, comb your hair starting at the bottom. Even use a detangler! I us Not Hour Mothers: Way to Grow Spray. It is supposed to help your hair grow by restoring moisture and health to it. I absolutely love this spray and have been using it for awhile.

Stop with the buns - they hurt your hair. However, you can still throw your hair up into an updo if you use the right ponytails. There are certain ponytails that make a HUGE difference on how many split ends you have.

Ponytails you should not use:

Ponytails you should use:

Now I understand that some people recommend vitamins. I'm not a professional, but I've been taking biotin chewables (they taste much better than the pill) and just regular fish oil pills. I don't really like those vitamins specifically for hair growth because they've got a mix of so many things that it hurts my stomach.

That's all I have to say about hair for now! Good luck on your journey to long locks!

Cover Image Credit: Cartoons Mix

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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5 Times Princess Mia Understood Curly Hair Problems

Here are five curly hair problems as told through Princess Mia!


Growing up I always wanted to be like the girls in my classes that had stick straight hair. Instead, I had a mass of frizzy ringlets that more often than not resembled a birds nest (Fun Fact: It still does some days).

Getting ready in the morning was always a struggle. I did NOT want my hair brushed so I ended up wearing my hair in a ponytail almost every day for years on end because I just simply didn't want to provide my hair the care and attention it needed. Who can blame me? I was more focused on playing with my friends than how I looked.

Of course, once I got older I realized that I was going to have to make more of an effort because ponytails weren't cutting it anymore. Here are five curly hair problems and tips to go with on how to combat them.

1. The dried out, broken-down curls 

If you are someone who washes your hair every day then you must know the dried out broken down curls feeling. Washing curly hair too often actually strips it of its natural oils and can cause it to dry out quickly and lead to breakage. Dried out curls also contribute to frizzier hair. No thanks!

Tip: Try washing your hair every other day or honestly even every two days. I obviously shower daily to get the days dirt and grime off but instead of washing my hair each time I throw it up in a bun and keep it from getting wet. Usually, I use a bit of dry shampoo in there too which can help as well to remove some of the oils at the roots close to your scalp.

2. Straightening

If your hair is as thick and as curly as mine then straightening it is an ordeal. Shower, blow-dry, straighten. Seems simple right? No, blow drying takes at least an hour and a half (if not two hours) and straightening takes roughly two hours depending on what kind of straightener head you have. All that work and time only to have the ends still slightly curl anyways. Not to mention the identity crisis you have looking in the mirror and seeing straight hair instead of curly.

Tip: Don't straighten your hair… at all. Besides the heat dries your curls out anyways and can cause breakage. Just don't do it. Your curls will be happier and healthier being their true selves.

3. Sleeping on wet curls

I HATE sleeping with wet hair. Not just because it's uncomfortable and makes me cold but because in the mornings my curls end up all sorts of crazy weird shapes forcing me to just throw it up in a bun. I know you're probably thinking "just blow dry it before bed" but an attempt to blow-dry my hair creates a layer of frizz thicker than the ozone layer.

Tip: I also am not the biggest fan of waking up super early so… sometimes my showers are at weird times of the day. Whatever fits into your schedule that allows your hair to air dry, or even blow dry if that works for you (lucky ducky) before your head hits that soft pillow for a night of sweet dreams. I often shower in the afternoons and do homework while my hair dries.

4. The frizz

No, not Mrs. Frizzle from The Magic School Bus. I'm talking the layer of frizz that surrounds our hair like the fuzzy halo that it is. On days where there's lots of moisture in the air, it can look like we've been electrocuted and some of our hair is fried. It's a constant battle trying to tame it all down - a battle I usually end up losing.

Tip: Most days I just embrace the frizz but if I really need to look presentable or it's just gotten to be too much I use Living Proof Instant De-Frizzer on my hair. It's a lightweight spray that helps tame those pesky flyaways. Just a few sprays and a run of your fingers over the frizz and it makes a noticeable improvement!

5. Fun hairstyles

Sometimes it can be hard to have some variety in hairstyles. Curls aren't always the most conducive for updos or braids. I still to this day struggle with simple braids for my thick curly hair let alone attempting updos. Not only the struggle but the time it takes!

Tip: For special occasions pay the money to get your hair done. I did that for both my proms. It was a once a year thing and saved my pretty much my entire day, plus a lot of stress and tears when it would turn out lopsided and wonky.

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