To the girl who wants to join a sorority, but is afraid,

It's almost that time of year again. The time when girls make the decision to join a sorority. Some, though, will make the decision NOT to join a sorority.

You may be a freshman whose heart is set on joining Zeta this or Alpha that. I was one of those freshemn, too. I envisioned myself joining a sorority and meeting the best sisters of my life. But honestly, as those recruitment days grew closer and closer, I became more and more nervous about the whole process.

I worried that I wouldn't be good enough to be friends with those girls. I knew that something was wrong, but I constantly pushed the thought away. All I wanted was to wear those letters and to be known as a "sorority girl." But you know what, that's where it all ended. I slowly realized that I was in it all for the wrong reasons. And God was trying to let me know. He was practically screaming the same words over and over: "This is not right for you."

Despite what God was trying to tell me, I still went through with the whole recruitment process. So finally, God had had enough. Depending on your level of faith, this might sound a little weird. But, God came to me in a dream, not once but twice. He told me how this was not in His plan for my life.

He told me why I was in it for the wrong reasons; I wanted to wear the letters and have a big and be given all these different trinkets and treasures. I was so materialistic that I lost track of who I really was and what I really wanted.

But nevertheless, I still went through recruitment. I took what God had told me in my dream with a grain of salt, and moved on. That night, I had yet another dream. This is when I started to get worried. That next day was Bid Day, and I did not get the bid I wanted. This was God's version of tough love in my life. He tried to tell me over and over again that this was not for me. But, I didn't listen. So, he made something I thought was available to me, not even an option.

At first, I was a little disappointed, I'll be honest. But I also felt a weight lifted off my shoulders. Girls around me were crying and heartbroken, but honestly I felt content. I was okay with the decision. Even though God took away something I thought I wanted, he gave me the grace and joy to deal with this situation in a God-honoring way.

To this day, I am so happy to be where I am. I still have many friends who love me and other clubs and organizations that support me as if we were sisters and brothers. God made sure that everything would work out for the better. And he did.

So, to the girl who is worried about upcoming recruitment, know that whatever happens, it has happened for a reason. Trust God, and know that there is something even better ahead.

Sincerely,

A girl who is content with not being in a sorority.