To The Girl With The Controlling Boyfriend
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To The Girl With The Controlling Boyfriend

It is your turn to find yourself

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To The Girl With The Controlling Boyfriend
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Dear Girl with the controlling boyfriend,

Why do you do this to yourself? You are a strong beautiful woman and yet you let him tell you how to live your life and who you can hang out with. Everyone deserves love, and maybe you won't find the right guy right away if you break up with your controlling boyfriend, but maybe you will feel this weight off your shoulders.

Long distances relationship are difficult, and it is easy to get jealous — it is human nature. But he should trust you enough to hang out with other guys and know that you are just friends. Guys can be friends with girls, and girls can be friends with guys; You can be friends with whom ever! No one can tell you that you don't deserve to have a friend based on their gender!

You deserve to have a college experience like going to a party or having a male friend! You are a social butterfly you are not meant to be kept to one person, especially when he is not here majority of the time. How are you supposed to not go insane? Also, attached to this college experience is finding yourself.

Right now you have lost your own identity; you have become an extra limb that he controls.If you would hate to see your best friend in a relationship like you are in, maybe you should take a step back and ask yourself why are you in that relationship. You are in charge of your life and you must allow yourself to believe that, and realize that he cannot control you.

You deserve to find yourself and create yourself. You cannot, and should not, have to ask for permission to have a good time or if what you are wearing is okay. He could be a part of this growth and transformation, but if he is trying to contain it and skew it to fit his needs he does not deserve a part of this!

Sincerely,

Your friend

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