An Open Letter To The Friend Who Was Never My Friend

An Open Letter To The Friend Who Was Never My Friend

Thank you for showing me what a toxic relationship is.

Dear “Friend,”

So, it's been awhile since we've talked and I know things have changed between us. We went from being best buddies to enemies, then from enemies to strangers. It was like all of a sudden, our friendship was over, and you ran to be friends with people who you used to treat like dirt. You then proceeded to treat me even worse than you used to treat them, and I didn't understand. Funny how things worked out, isn't it? Fights have been had, amends have been made, and apologies were eventually given, but our relationship will never be the same, and I've finally made peace with that. I finally realized that I don't need you, your negativity, or our fake friendship in my life. Not only do I not need you, I'm so much better off without you.

Our friendship may have been fake on your side, but I cared about you, and you did your best to try to hurt me. I know you might have needed me to sit with at lunch, gossip to about your long list of stupid problems, or hang out with when your other friends were busy, but I certainly didn't need you. I still wonder how I went for so long without seeing that you were bringing me down. I was a last resort to you, and my only regret about the end of our friendship is that it didn't happen sooner. I'm so much better off without you and your negative influence in my life. Finally, no more stupid gossip, annoying arguments or pointless fights. I feel like I can breathe again, and it's a wonderful feeling.

So, this might sound a little weird coming from me, but thank you. Thank you for pretending to be my friend and attempting to isolate me from people who had my back. Thanks for starting the craziest drama for no reason, ditching me with absolutely no explanation, and especially for your obsession with trying to make my life miserable (you failed, by the way.) Lastly, thanks for making me stronger than I was when I first met you. You showed me all of the warning signs I needed to see in a toxic relationship, and I walked away the better person.

Now, I stand tall with my head held high, because I took the better route in life. I got myself together while you never seemed to figure out who you were. I'm making my dreams come true and learning to live without you. I may have lost you, but I gained pure confidence, I gained real friends, true happiness, and I got out of the dark cloud that you held over my head for so long. So if you're wondering how I'm doing, I'm doing great, I've moved on, and I'm better off without you. Thanks again.



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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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