An Open Letter To All My College Friends

An Open Letter To All My College Friends

We're the B's from 413, no one can replace us
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Let me just start by saying thank you, I would never have gotten through this year without you all. Whether you are my best friend, significant other, or just another person I see every day, thank you-you made the difference.

Freshman year of college is never easy for anyone, but I would never have made it through without you guys. I know that if I never met some of you during the summer before our first semester I would never have made it through. Not only was I starting college, but I moved to a new place with all new people with no one coming from the same school as me. I felt as if I had nothing in common since so many people already knew each other and had their roommates picked out, and friend groups already determined. However, you guys were there for me and brought me in when I felt no one else would. In the crazy heat that we had that first week during FASTRAK, you guys were there for me and we even shared a dorm room with an AC even though we barely knew each other.

Once the semester started, everything clicked. We were a group to be reckoned with; we felt that no one could beat us and that we were invincible. Honestly, I felt like we had the perfect group. Even though we have our ups and downs, and individual issues, we are always there to pick each other up. I love you guys more than anything, you made college a fun experience where I wanted to wake up every day and be with you guys.

The only downfall was that I left, I transferred colleges after this semester. I don't see y'all every day, but you are still there for me like I do. When I transferred, I never thought that I could replace or even find another friend. First off, I didn't want to replace my old friends, but I knew I needed someone to talk to. Whoever thought that it would be a random girl I met an event the semester before and also my roommates? You guys became everything. Not only did my new friend have classes with me, but she happened to only live upstairs from me [we had the exact same room, but one floor up]. As time passed, we became best friends, for the most part, we did everything together. I love you, you made transferring easier for me and I appreciate everything you've done. Not only did you help me prepare for our class, but you sat down and helped me write papers, and aside from schoolwork would come to my dorm and take a nap with me when no one was around and we both wanted to watch TV. Thank you.

Finally, my roommates. I've officially had five roommates during my freshman year. To my ones from my first college, thank you for putting up with my nonsense and being there for me. However, the real roommate love came this semester. You girls are the best. We may not have always got along, but I love you guys. You are the real MVP. You guys were there for me and helped me through EVERYTHING; I can't ever repay you guys for anything. From our midnight Wal-Mart runs or stealing cups from the dining hall, or even our cleaning parties. What other room could make cleaning fun like us? No one. We are the B's from 413, and no one can ever replace us and the random twerking moments, or the everyday attempts at cooking. Even though we won't be dorming together next semester, I just need to thank you all and just tell you girls that I love you.

My freshman year has been one that will never be forgotten and it is all thanks to you guys. Whether you sat with me one day at lunch, or even just talked to me in class, you made the difference you made my college experience. I can never relive the late nights spent in the lounge at either college, where I got to know people more, or just sat there till the sun came out. My freshman year memories will never be forgotten. I will never forget my first nights, last summer, where every person sat in the kitchens all night because it was too hot to sleep and it was all so new that we couldn't even sleep. There aren't enough words to thank everyone, but I can try. Thank you all for a great year, I can't wait for many more. It's been real, "Ayyyyyyyyyyye" - my roommate.

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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved
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To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

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Finding Your Niche In College Starts With Finding You

Attempting to be someone you are not for the sake of having company only hurts you in the long run.

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Transitioning to college is hard enough, but trying to find a place where you feel "at home" can make this time even more stressful. Here are some tips on how to find that place/group of people that make you feel like sunshine.

I have always felt a little out of place wherever I went, but it wasn't until college that I realized that this feeling was so special and more people should capitalize on their differences rather than conforming to a certain mold. Transitioning to college and finding your place among so many people can be very overwhelming. The added stress of attempting to be someone you aren't for the sake of having company adds a whole other layer to this problem. The easiest thing for me to do in any situation like this is trying to make the setting a little smaller. One of the most obvious ways to do this on a college campus is by getting involved!

It is inevitable that within the first few weeks of the semester at any college, there will be an organization fair. This is a chance to scope out all that your school has to offer! Chances are there will be some type of group or club that lines up with your interests. Most college campuses have extracurricular opportunities ranging from social sororities and fraternities, professional ones, intermural sports, vocal groups, and so many more. You are more than likely going to find some type of organization that you can call home if you seek them out. Joining an organization is such an easy way to interact with people with similar interests. An interest can bring two completely different people together and create some beautiful friendships. It is situations like this where it is important to be your authentic self and mingle with those you share something with.

That being said, finding your place in college isn't always about being involved. Getting involved on campus is just one of the simplest ways to start. There are so many other opportunities on campus to meet people whether it be among others in your residence hall, people in your classes, or just people you find yourself stumbling upon! Finding people to spend your time with is easy; however, you should make it a point to surround yourself with people who bring you up.

Once you have a set group of people that you find yourself spending time with, it is important to pay attention to the way you feel when you're around them. If you find yourself feeling bad about yourself or get the impression that you need to change something in order to "fit in," chances are the people you're around are not the best for you or your self-esteem. It is important to surround yourself with people who allow you to feel comfortable in your own skin. That being said, you also want people who encourage you to make good decisions and help you reach your goals. People who encourage toxic behavior in your life might be fun in the short term, but in the grand scheme of things, you need to be surrounded by people with your best interest in mind. Essentially, surrounding yourself with people who influence you to be your best self is one of the best decisions you can make short and long term.

The key to all of this is being conscious of your own feelings and needs. Pay attention to who reaches out to you to hang out. Notice the ones who pay attention to you as you speak when it feels like no one is listening. More than anything, be conscious of who you're with and where you're at when you experience moments of pure happiness. Life is too short to waste your precious time on people who don't build you up. Wouldn't you rather spend your time with more moments of pure joy than self-hate? Start living for you!

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