As many of you know, the Netflix series "13 Reasons Why" has taken the internet captive. Probably over half of what you’ve seen on social media in the last couples weeks has revolved around this show and all of the messages that it includes. Which is perfect because that’s exactly what the point here is.
The show covers so so many incredibly important and sensitive topics that most people don’t understand and/or are afraid to talk about.
Depression, suicide, rape, and bullying — all topics explored in depth in the show. We see two characters who have been raped and follow how that awful experience affects them as time goes on. Then there’s bullying, too. Bullying is a more constant, under-current tone, seeing as how, throughout the entire series, our main character is bullied as well as many other characters.
In addition and most obviously, of course, like I said, the show touches on depression and suicide. Honest to God, one of the most infuriating things is how many times I’ve heard people say things to the effect of “depression isn’t real,” or “stop being so dramatic, everyone’s lives are hard,” or the worst of all — “suicide is for the weak.” Newsflash, people, don’t you think if a person could stop being “so dramatic,” they would? Like hello, no one wants to not be able to get out of bed or, God forbid, think about taking his or her own life.
"13 Reasons Why" is exactly what this society needed to jumpstart a very important conversation that people have been too afraid to have. It tackles so so many misconceptions, like the ones I listed above, about the illness and shows people that it is a very real and very serious issue, not something people just use to get attention.
There is one thing though that I do think is very very important that the show does portray improperly:
Suicide is no one’s fault.
I’ll say it louder for the people in the back:
Suicide. Is. No. One’s. Fault.
No single person can take the blame for someone taking his or her own life. A person cannot walk around for the rest of their life thinking that he or she “killed Hannah Baker.”
Hannah Baker’s death is no one’s fault. It is not Hannah’s fault; it is not Clay’s fault; it is not even Bryce’s fault.
Suicide is a very often misunderstood circumstance, but what it comes down to is the result of a terrible mental illness. To say that someone killed Hannah Baker is not only a fallacy, but it is also so, so unhealthy to those individuals.
It is so important to know that if someone you know or loved has taken his or her own life, it is not your fault. Do not carry on blaming yourself because that will do no one any good. "13 Reasons Why" may be a great show to jumpstart the discussion of mental illness, but I hate the fact that it teaches viewers that you can be at fault for someone’s death in a situation like this.