Girl, It's OK Not To Choose 'The One Who Got Away'
Start writing a post
Relationships

Girl, It's OK Not To Choose 'The One Who Got Away'

Appreciate your time with them, but don't live in the past.

197
Girl, It's OK Not To Choose 'The One Who Got Away'
Pexels.com

You might have this fantasy that the person who you passionately loved when you were younger or you met briefly at some other point in your life and don't know what happened to them is the one who got away and that someday they'll come back and it'll be this absolutely perfect love story.

Personally, I blame The Notebook for this notion (don't get me wrong - it's my favorite movie), but it's a very rare and unrealistic thing to happen. Can it? Sure. But sometimes the past should stay in the past and you don't have to wonder what if or ultimately choose them in the end.

You might find yourself thinking about this person and the time you shared together. For one person, it was a one-night meeting where you had the time of your life and then each parted ways to go back to your lives. For others, it was a long relationship that life drifted or even tore you two apart, and you always wonder what could have been. To relive it, you might play songs that take you back to that time or visit places you two experienced together or stare at old photos wondering what happened to the people in them. It's okay to not go back in time and look at old photos or listen to old songs and feel nostalgic. Sometimes, it'll mess up your present state of mind and can ruin things because you want a taste of the past or a person in your past who doesn't necessarily fit in your present.

Let me ask you this: is the one who you believe got away different, or are your lives all of a sudden aligning to where you think it'll truly work out this time? If this is a yes, I truly hope you found your happy ending. If you're unsure, however, I don't think it's a bad thing to say no to this person coming back into your life.

Sometimes the past is better left in the past. Each experience and relationship can truly be appreciated and loved for exactly what it was, no matter how much you might wonder about what could have been. You can look at it and see what it taught you and how much you loved being with that person in that time, but not let those feelings and uncertainties leak into your life.

If you have someone in your life or your past who you consider the one who got away, it probably happened for a reason, and it's okay to not question that. You may realize that reason was to teach you a lesson about moving on, to push you to find a new job, live in a new place, or find your soulmate - or you may never know the reason they got away. Regardless, they got away for a reason. It's okay to move past them, it's okay to move on. Your life is where it is because you experienced that heartache or had to make that decision, because they are no longer a part of your life, because they got away.

It's okay to love what you two experienced and had, but it's okay to not choose them in the end.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

46885
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

29737
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

953924
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

167260
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments